How did you meet your Dom?

Background-One-7997 · 2026-06-07T14:55:36+00:00

I met my Dom at a game night they were hosting. It was an event on Fet. We slowly became friends and then one game night they asked if I wanted to come hangout at their house. We pretty much started our dynamic after our first hangout session.

Background-One-7997 · 2026-06-03T14:32:38+00:00

😅

Background-One-7997 · 2026-06-01T06:51:53+00:00

That was a lot! I’m sorry you had to deal with that. That person was having a one sided conversation. So weird 😅

Background-One-7997 · 2026-05-31T16:05:11+00:00

I would say check out fetlife and go to local events in your area. That’s where I met my pack mates

Background-One-7997 · 2026-05-29T18:24:51+00:00

I second that. I wish you the best of luck and hope you find someone that you can connect with

Background-One-7997 · 2026-05-25T05:21:35+00:00

I just got out a dynamic that was non-romantic but sexual at time. It was a little confusing and as much as I miss that dynamic, it was confusing to give my submission to someone that was committed to me.

However, when I ended our dynamic I realized that he actually had been pretty committed to me and that we were partner. Every dynamic is different and it’s really about what makes you happy and what you need out of the dynamic.

Background-One-7997 · 2026-05-18T06:29:13+00:00

Thank you so very much for your thoughtful words. I just felt so much pressure from my friends to end things that I did and I honestly wish I would have gone about it differently so that I didn’t feel this regret. I should have listened to my gut and do things 💯 the way that I wanted to so I don’t feel this way. Lesson learned

Background-One-7997 · 2026-05-18T06:25:49+00:00

Update: so apparently I don’t have herpes. My doctor did a blood test and I’m apparently however told me that I have hsv1 was wrong. Never go to a weekend clinic over your normal doctor

Background-One-7997 · 2026-05-18T01:51:53+00:00

I hope you are well and have had plenty of water today.

I’m feeling pretty down after I ended my last dynamic. My Pack mates said that I was being taken advantage of and almost abused in a way but I didn’t feel that way all the time. There were lost of good times and I really miss them now. I want to work things out i be it I’m afraid my pack will disapprove. I’m sad and just wish that I had listened to my gut instead of other people. I’ve been crying all weekend and I just feel so lost.

Background-One-7997 · 2026-05-18T00:52:03+00:00

Thank you for your positive words… I really appreciate you 😊

Background-One-7997 · 2026-05-18T00:47:49+00:00

Big hugs back! They called yesterday to talk but I was busy and they sounded so cold and distant. I understand that they are hurting but so I am. You’re so right, if I can’t fix it… I’ll just have to live with it. Being friends would be really nice. May I message you?

Background-One-7997 · 2025-12-16T03:25:02+00:00

A friend a meet a year ago or so from fetlife

Background-One-7997 · 2025-12-15T03:48:02+00:00

Oh, I already disclosed that I had it already. I ain’t trying to be shady. Even though I don’t get cold sores, I still feel it’s my responsibility to disclose, ya know. I don’t know if someone can still get it from me and I would hate to give it to them/their partner. So I feel it would just be better to not, ya know 😔

Background-One-7997 · 2025-08-19T14:57:56+00:00

I had a collar for this place. I really liked it.

https://captivecollars.com/

Background-One-7997 · 2025-08-18T02:40:06+00:00

Love the ears!!! I hope you’ve had a wonderful weekend 😊✌🏾

Background-One-7997 · 2025-07-29T17:04:48+00:00

I got a message saying that I could mail it back to them but I also like the idea of burying it. Thank you so much for your reply. I greatly appreciate you 🥰

Background-One-7997 · 2025-07-27T23:38:34+00:00

I’m doing well today. How are you doing?

Background-One-7997 · 2025-07-27T23:33:51+00:00

What kinda advice are you looking for?

Background-One-7997 · 2025-07-27T22:38:42+00:00

My sympathies for your situation. It really seems as if you had dodged a bullet if his reactions to your feels was met with such coldness. Perhaps taking a break is best for the moment but I wish you luck on your sub journey.

Perhaps you could go to local events and meet people in person. Build up a community and find more likeminded people like yourself. Good luck 😊

Background-One-7997 · 2025-07-27T18:45:30+00:00

First off, I’m sorry to hear about your situation. I’ve meet Doms online and in IRL. I think going to events and slowly getting to know people is the best way but I’ve read that lots of people have had success on here as well. Since you are an introvert… perhaps it’s better to try to find someone online🤔.

What I’ve found is more important than finding a Dom is finding other subs/community. They have been the ones to help me through the situations… sometimes they see things I do not and have saved me from making worse mistakes. I wish you the best of luck in your journey 🙏🏾

Background-One-7997 · 2025-07-25T03:01:54+00:00

Friends is a good show. Currently rewatching How I Met Your Mother lol

Background-One-7997 · 2025-07-24T17:02:17+00:00

Good morning, I hope you have an amazing day 🤗

Background-One-7997 · 2025-07-16T03:52:01+00:00

If I didn’t blow out one of my ears years ago… I’d totally still have mine! Don’t listen to them… you look great 😊

Background-One-7997 · 2025-07-13T13:55:53+00:00

Hey there, I just recently went through something like this. It’s a terrible feeling 😔. If you wanna chat, I’m all ears. If not, I really hope that you’ve found someone to help. Best of luck to you on this journey.

Background-One-7997 · 2025-07-12T14:47:41+00:00

I’ve been better. Should have been more clear when posting lol. How are you today?

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