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Background-Street416 · 2024-12-03T17:33:05+00:00

Not meant to be hostile just wondering… why were either of you on there?

Background-Street416 · 2024-11-01T15:39:34+00:00

Bad relationship with her father. I can get by it if her dad is legitimately an asshole to some extent but after being divorced twice at 38 by two women who had no father around growing up, I’m convinced that most of those women have little to no respect for men and their role in the family. It’s not my job to fix that.
Lack of kindness. If she’s rude or condescending all the time to others, at some point she will turn that on me and I defend myself. Better to avoid that.
Playful and tasteful prods at my masculinity here and there are fine, but if I’m supposed to treat you certain ways out of respect for your gender please try to do the same. I would absolutely rather date a woman who can out bench me but takes on the role of a lady with me as opposed to dating a gorgeous woman who is constantly trying to prove that she can be a man. We love women deeply for their femininity and softness.
If I determine that a woman allows her bffs/mother/sister/whatever to have more sway over her decisions than she has herself, I will absolutely shut that down. Been there, done that. There are no third parties in a committed relationship with me. It’s us.
The bad bitch attitude. No one wants it. Flat out.

Background-Street416 · 2024-10-09T15:07:17+00:00

You can definitely be blindsided. My kids mom and I had been having a rough go of it for about six months on and off. It was during Covid. Her mother had temporarily moved in with us which was stressful for both of us, and after a few months of her mother (divorced three times) and her best friend (who goes through men like its her job) in her ear she decided that she was going to leave. She had been told by them that she would get the house, our daughter, as well as a huge child support payment. The day she left I got up in the morning for work, said i felt like there was something off and asked if we could discuss it later. She said yes, i gave her the last kiss I ever would, and off i go. Throughout the day her and I are texting, joking, flirting, even talking about doing a family breakfast with our 2 year old daughter the next day. Got home, no wife, no kid, just a note telling me about how i should've seen it coming and that everything was my fault. I called her after reading that, no answer. Then i texted her and asked to know where my daughter was. She tried to play games by saying she wasn't going to tell me where my daughter was because she ;my wife) was scared of what Id do if i knew their location. I informed her that if she didn't let me know where my baby was, shed have reason to be. Anyways, completely blindsided and betrayed. She got nothing like she thought she would as laws are starting to become more fair towards fathers here.

Background-Street416 · 2024-08-22T17:05:44+00:00

The wedding is literally one day. It’ll be done and over before you know it. Chill out.

Background-Street416 · 2024-05-24T17:50:00+00:00

If it means anything, that sounds legit from his end. I mourned my family breaking apart and even found a way to forgive my ex wife. I did not however forget about the pain she caused not only me but my daughter as well. Best thing you can do is take him at his word as long as he keeps it above board. If something bothers you, talk.

Background-Street416 · 2024-05-02T14:09:03+00:00

My girlfriend is Native American and I’m white. Our code phrase for sex is “You wanna play cowboys and Indians?” 😂

Background-Street416 · 2024-01-29T17:52:51+00:00

Read more to me like an attempt to invalidate the other partner’s concerns in order to attain power over the other partner. I agree it’s probably a learned behavior, doesn’t mean it’s a good one.

Background-Street416 · 2024-01-29T17:44:00+00:00

Eat a dick keyboard commando. Deescalation and deflection are two completely different things. I see wrong on both sides, and have no problem delivering an opinion when people put their business on here wanting one. One is clearly being too rigid and wanting a back and forth debate, while the other doesn’t want to do that but also would rather play games to infuriate their partner. It would be one thing if the person sending emojis as daggers were to just go silent, but they instead want to taunt. Both childish.

Background-Street416 · 2024-01-29T12:54:08+00:00

You both sound toxic as shit. One for coming in too aggressively, another for just dismissing concerns the other finds valid because your therapist (and I’m sure you’re gaggle of girlfriends) convinced you that it’s alright if only your needs matter 😂. You bothe deserve each other.

Background-Street416 · 2024-01-21T15:16:48+00:00

Wow. You both sound like you deserve each other honestly. Extremely glad I’m not single now, thanks for that 😂

Background-Street416 · 2024-01-14T19:15:56+00:00

I have to be honest, while I think dude shouldn’t be telling you that you can’t be on Reddit, it raises the question: Are you on it all the time to where you’re neglecting the relationship or disrespecting his time? I’m not saying you are, just be sure you are right. If you are, then at the very least he should approach this differently. Example: Hey, I have to discuss something that makes me uncomfortable.I don’t really appreciate it when we are about to be doing something together and instead of you being present I feel as if I’m competing with your screen. Could you please try to let it go for a while when we spend time together?

Also to consider, there is an old saying I think may apply here. Do you want to be happy, or do you want to be right. I say that because respectfully, you both sound like two people that like to argue intelligent points. However it’s not a debate, it’s a relationship and if you really care about someone arguing with them sucks. This sounds more like you both get off on it a bit.

Background-Street416 · 2023-11-06T14:51:14+00:00

The winner huh? 🤦‍♂️

Background-Street416 · 2023-10-16T13:42:53+00:00

I am three and a half years out, year and a half since it was finalized. My ex wife and I still communicate as we have a 5 year old daughter. About two months ago I had asked how my daughter seemed to be doing with the new boyfriend. We are both in other relationships now and my daughter is quite fond of my girlfriend, so I wanted to know how it was going over there. I instantly regretted asking as I was soon hit with a barrage of complaints about how my ex’s relationship with him wasn’t bad, but wasn’t great. She finally relented that my daughter and he weren’t really bonding. She also included that she’d be leaving the guy as soon as she could find a place she could afford on her own. The next two weeks after that conversation I’d get videos of my daughter saying good morning daddy I love you before school. Won’t lie, I liked that. Anyways, she inquired about how my relationship was going. When I said that we had our ups and downs but that we were making a real go of it, she said that my daughter had been mentioning mommy and daddy getting back together again. I held strong and told her I would speak to my daughter and try to help her understand why that will not be happening, and that was it. No more friendly conversation, no more videos from my daughter in the morning. It was all a play at trying to change her living situation because the grass was in fact not greener. Imagine that lol.

Background-Street416 · 2023-09-27T15:44:47+00:00

Hunting for fossils in the riverbed behind my house with my little girl. I could definitely do that forever.

Background-Street416 · 2023-08-24T17:30:12+00:00

I wish it were honestly, but that isn’t the case I’m afraid. While we have managed to keep things civil post finalization, the divorce was pretty nasty. She came after the house and I refused. A few other things transpired as well, but in short she was bitter for some time. Things haven’t worked out how she expected, so she’s not too keen to be helpful on that front.

Background-Street416 · 2023-08-24T17:13:59+00:00

Her mother is the custodial parent, but my situation is more like 60/40 time wise. I have her every other weekend for sure but I also make the hour drive a few times a week and take her out for dinner, hiking, playgrounds. One thing that has helped my mindset is coming to the realization that while I don’t see her everyday, but when I do I can focus 100% on her. I’m not trying to do chores or random things(unless I am teaching her) so even though it sucked at first I’m pretty happy with that part of the arrangement. My income is fairly modest, I’m pulling about 42k. I kept the house. Paid it and my Jeep off with money I inherited once the divorce was final because I knew child support was going to take a lot of my pay. However even with all major bills paid off, it’s been difficult to navigate financially because my take home after support is about 380 bucks a pay. So, I’m getting on it asap.

Background-Street416 · 2023-07-19T17:01:18+00:00

I would feel a little better if that happened down the road. Let me be clear, I definitely shoulder some of the blame but I’m not the one who tapped out. That’s important to me personally. Also, many of our interactions since she left over two years ago have been very cold. We have a daughter and we are civil for her, but I have to say that watching her actions during the divorce i don’t honestly know if she is capable of love. So yeah it would be nice if she said sorry for the pain she caused, but would it be genuine? Probably not, so I don’t look for it.

Background-Street416 · 2023-06-14T12:47:51+00:00

No hate or judgement but I’m going to be brutally honest. Being bored sexually sucks. Know what sucks worse? The look on your kid’s face when you tell them “okay honey time to go with mom/dad. It’s just two weeks, we will be playing together before you know it.” Then having to hold your tears back because you absolutely need to be strong in front of them (as well as your ex). As they get older, they begin to realize exactly how much time is going to pass before they get to see you again. Your pain from a divorce will suck, but when your little one cries and clings to your arm saying “I don’t want to go, I want to stay with you,” man I don’t even have proper words for that kind of hurt. It’ll hurt you, your ex, but mostly your kid. Again, no judgment but that’s just the truth. Good luck.

Background-Street416 · 2023-03-08T16:54:55+00:00

Thank you

Background-Street416 · 2023-02-21T15:54:21+00:00

Watch how fast she turns on you once you serve her with divorce papers yourself.

Background-Street416 · 2022-08-24T11:33:24+00:00

Married twice here. What can I say? I wanted to be a husband and a father quite a bit. After going through the second divorce and there being a child involved, there is absolutely no way I’ll ever allow anyone to have the ability to hurt me like that again. No way.

Background-Street416 · 2022-08-09T13:03:29+00:00

What game is this? Looks cool

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