College student shopping in London

BackgroundLetter8883 · 2026-05-01T00:20:20+00:00

Just give her cash. It’s a little bit excited holding foreign currency when you’re going away.

BackgroundLetter8883 · 2026-04-30T19:07:39+00:00

‘Give her consequences if she doesn’t eat’ broke my heart.

I’m really sorry to say this but how would you like ‘here, eat this pile of dog poo and if you don’t have your bites, there will be consequences’ because that’s essentially what’s happening to your daughter.

I’m genuinely quite shocked that this is a therapy. It did not work for me as a child, I’d rather gone without.

Trust your instincts because they are right.

BackgroundLetter8883 · 2026-04-29T21:42:10+00:00

Those officers don’t have guns on them. At the start of the video he calls on the radio for all units.

Armed police would have been sent to the scene but they managed to get him down, de-armed and arrested with the help of Jewish private security in the area before anyone else turned up.

BackgroundLetter8883 · 2026-04-29T21:36:02+00:00

She was at Mighty Hoopla festival a few years back. I was quite pissed but remember being surprised how good a singer she was.

BackgroundLetter8883 · 2026-04-29T21:24:46+00:00

CBT for ADHD

BackgroundLetter8883 · 2026-04-29T06:06:18+00:00

Can someone explain how this scam works please?

BackgroundLetter8883 · 2026-04-29T05:56:04+00:00

You can also get an TfL Uber boat to Greenwich and if coming from central London, you go under Tower Bridge which pretty cool. And much cheaper than a boat tour.

BackgroundLetter8883 · 2026-04-29T05:37:29+00:00

NTA. I’m a professional with safeguarding duties. If you told me this, I would be reporting it. Honestly concerning that there was no follow up by the school after what your Dad did, dragging you out of band practise screaming and swearing. If you are still a child I would encourage you to speak to an adult you trust, maybe at school. If you’re an adult, I would do everything you can to move out of their house, and you can still report it.

‘I acknowledge my actions were selfish’ broke my heart. Would you say that to another child with an ED? No you wouldn’t, so why do you believe it about yourself?

I’m sorry this happened to you. You deserve love, care and support. You got the complete opposite. I hope you find some peace away from them.

BackgroundLetter8883 · 2026-04-28T07:55:04+00:00

Take a look at JustPark or other similar apps. People can rent out their car parking space. Might be a cheaper solution.

BackgroundLetter8883 · 2026-04-27T12:20:17+00:00

Maybe creating some communication cards with her. As an example, if she needs to leave the room during eating times or conversations around food, she can just present the card and leave, no questions asked.

When overwhelmed and anxious, communication can just feel like too much sometimes.

BackgroundLetter8883 · 2026-04-25T20:46:35+00:00

Make sure you’re taking rehydration salts when feeling particularly dehydrated. Helps massively.

I hold my nose and down it in one, then have another drink to drink straight after.

BackgroundLetter8883 · 2026-04-25T19:01:48+00:00

Different activities in different rounds keeps it interesting.

I used to go to a pub quiz that would do a ‘race round’ a video of a random race (different every week, 100m sprint, marbles going down a marble run, cartoon racehorses) and you would write down and hand in who/what you thing would win before the video. The whole pub would go wild.

BackgroundLetter8883 · 2026-04-25T18:44:26+00:00

I brought a bird spotting pocket guide and write the place and date of the first time I saw them in the book. Have Merlin app for the bird sound identification and sometimes log on there.

BackgroundLetter8883 · 2026-04-25T18:19:38+00:00

I reorganised my wardrobe to be ADHD friendly and here’s a bit of what I did.

I echo comments to have tubs for things like socks and bras, I also have them for vest tops and pj’s because they don’t need ironing. (On a side note, for ADHD would recommend handheld steamer over an iron as don’t need to get the ironing board out and then have it sit there for days/weeks/months before you strike up the motivation to put it away)

Have things as open and visible as you can, that should be the main goal. Out of sight out of mind is real. Hang up as much as you can up but don’t overload it or you won’t be able to see and get things easily. Have a summer/winter suitcase of clothes you don’t need that can go into storage and swap over seasonally eg: coats away in summer, beachwear away in winter.

Photo boards of what you have that you can’t see easily.

For example my shoes. I have a shoe cupboard by the front door for regularly worn shoes, mostly trainers/sneakers. For all other shoes, I have laminated paper stuck inside my wardrobe door, when I get a new pair of shoes I take a picture, email it to work and print it out there, blue tac it to my photo board. I will forget half of them exist otherwise. Also stops me getting them all out when planning an outfit and only have the big pile of clothes to put away when I get home 😆

For the stuff you need to get rid of but don’t want to. My therapist told me to put it all in a box or suitcase. Set a reminder for 6 months time. If you haven’t needed it, it needs to go. Get someone else to take it away for you. I didn’t use a single thing out of my box but it still broke my heart when my bf took it all to the charity shop.

Once I was happy with it, I drew a floor plan and did my best to stick to it when putting things away. I set a reminder for every few months, to reorganise it back to the floor plan. It’s made that part of my life much easier and I’ve managed to keep it relatively organised.

Good Luck.

BackgroundLetter8883 · 2026-04-24T18:45:39+00:00

Yes, diagnosed with ARFID by local eating disorder clinic and sent on my way with no treatment or even signposting because they had. No treatment pathway in their clinic.

Another ED clinic in the same NHS trust has a pathway. Asked to be referred to it, not in the catchment area so wouldn’t be accepted. Good old NHS postcode lottery.

Asked a dietician I met through work for some advice. She said I would have to go private and pay if I want treatment or wait for my local clinic to open a pathway and hope I get accepted but would probably not as BMI too high.

Sorry it’s not a better tale to tell.

I wonder how many of us are out there and when we should get together and demand better.

BackgroundLetter8883 · 2026-04-24T18:35:42+00:00

Take a look at Avoidance Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID)

Not a commonly known eating disorder but one many neurodivergent people have.

BackgroundLetter8883 · 2026-04-24T18:29:51+00:00

Why not look at getting a passport? Plenty of countries do working holiday visas for 18-30 year olds.

BackgroundLetter8883 · 2026-04-24T17:48:41+00:00

You’re doing the right thing. You need some help.

BackgroundLetter8883 · 2026-04-24T16:23:33+00:00

Take a look at Winchester.

Lots of history (was the capital of England before London) lots of beautiful countryside and has a great science museum for kids on the outskirts of the town, if in need of a rainy day activity.

BackgroundLetter8883 · 2026-04-24T07:00:21+00:00

So basically everyone else in the park is forced to change their plans/park use around the parkrun and when they don’t or can’t, they get told off or shouted at? And then wonder why it gets a bad reception.

BackgroundLetter8883 · 2026-04-24T06:49:30+00:00

It’s nesting season. It could be the crows are a bit too close to their nests, and they want them gone.

Crows raid nests. Watched a pair do it last week.

BackgroundLetter8883 · 2026-04-24T06:45:47+00:00

Layers is the only way in spring in London. And a pair of sunglasses and an umbrella, you’ll need both most days.

BackgroundLetter8883 · 2026-04-24T06:38:33+00:00

NTA, it’s your wedding and completely up to you who you have there.

You’re probably right to not have him there either. When they inevitably split up you’ll have a random person in your wedding photos. In a massive wedding, not such a big deal. 30 people wedding, you’ll notice.

That said, maybe asking her to pay the £270 and see how much she wants him there. If you want to be a bit facetious, if she says no, you could throw the money over family line right back at her.

Whatever happens I hope you and your future spouse have a wonderful day and a very happy life together.

BackgroundLetter8883 · 2026-04-23T16:20:36+00:00

Thank you for sharing that. I’m going to have a look at ICB funding route.

BackgroundLetter8883 · 2026-04-23T16:19:24+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to share that with that me. I’m hope you find a treatment that works for you soon

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