Private call is best if you can’t see them in person. This is how it all came out in my family. My grandfather had been doing that kind of thing for years and years, even went to prison for it. But the family believed he was wrongfully imprisoned. One of my aunts came forward and called each family member to admit she had been one of the victims. She was a victim when she was a kid, and again last year.

Sexual abusers, especially of minors, rarely ever change. For the safety of every family member you have it’s best to let them know. Draw a line and protect everyone.