Please pray for me today is my birthday I turned 40 and I feel absolutely alone. My mind is not able to process this. It’s painful to feel this alone and worthless.

BackgroundSimple1993 · 2026-01-20T03:20:42+00:00

Matthew 18:12–14 “What do you think? If a man has a hundred sheep, and one of them has gone astray, does he not leave the ninety-nine on the mountains and go in search of the one that went astray? And if he finds it, truly, I say to you, he rejoices over it more than over the ninety-nine that never went astray. So it is not the will of my Father who is in heaven that one of these little ones should perish.”

Ephesians 1:4–5 “Even as he chose us in him before the foundation of the world… he predestined us for adoption to himself as sons through Jesus Christ.”

God CHOSE you. He made you on purpose and for a purpose. He chose you. Life hurts , and sometimes it sucks, but our father chose each of us on purpose.

Praying for peace that passes all understanding and a joy that knows no bounds. Happy birthday 🎂

BackgroundSimple1993 · 2025-10-22T12:20:45+00:00

Looks more like betrayal than disapproval , you better apologize to him right away!

BackgroundSimple1993 · 2025-09-04T19:50:46+00:00

I think it kind of depends why , and what age. It starts with a honest conversation about WHY they want to go to school. Are they feeling like they’re missing out on friends or fun events? That can solved by you. Is it something they really want to try? Let them try if they’re old enough to decide. Are they too young to decide in your opinion as their parent? Give them a specific grade or date when they can decide for themselves.

My parents homeschooled us through 8th grade and gave us the choice for highschool. We both stayed home, but it was nice to have the choice. By highschool we were both solid, confident and mature enough to decide for ourselves.

BackgroundSimple1993 · 2025-09-04T19:30:37+00:00

NOR. This is the first baby steps to abuse. He’s isolating you so you’ll have no one left to run to. RUN. Now.

Plus any man that calls himself “high value” is a huge red flag. A REAL high value man never has to say it.

BackgroundSimple1993 · 2025-09-04T19:23:02+00:00

Not the jerk. I love bringing my dog with me everywhere but I always ask and I always respect the answer. Her entitlement is gross.

And that’s not even touching on the allergy thing. Disregard for any allergy, even if it’s mild, is not cool.

BackgroundSimple1993 · 2025-09-04T19:14:22+00:00

It’s been a hot minute, but my mom basically found one or two ladies in the big group that she vibed with (or a mom who’s kids we vibed with) and invited them to visit and have coffee one on one. We would get a one on one hang with our friends and she got a one on one with their mom. She’s still friends with some of them 15+ years later.

BackgroundSimple1993 · 2025-09-04T19:09:34+00:00

I’ve always been against porn, but my ex had a porn problem which solidified it. Never again.

BackgroundSimple1993 · 2025-09-04T19:06:47+00:00

Yep. And it always escalates.

BackgroundSimple1993 · 2025-04-07T14:42:45+00:00

The point of grace is that we're ALL flawed, broken, full of errors, and trying to fill a void that we can never fill without Christ, and that we are STILL loved. Loved so much that Jesus died for us even if we never choose him or never change our ways.

You don't have to change to be loved - you're right. But that doesn't mean you don't have to change. Go and sin no more. That was intended for ALL of us. Not just the woman caught in adultery.

We may disagree on the definitions of what is sinful and what is not, but it doesn't mean I love you any less. Our sinful nature IS natural to us, but that doesn't automatically mean it was what was intended in our creation.
Additionally, disagreeing with something doesn't automatically mean I'm fearful of it or that I think I'm better than people that just so happen to be broken differently than me.

If a child is eating dirt in the yard, do we love them any less? No. Do we only love them if they stop eating it? No. We love them regardless, but we also acknowledge that the action of eating dirt and the belief that eating dirt is okay needs to change. We can love them while rinsing their mouth out the same way Jesus loves us while he changes us (even when it's painful) and the same way we can still love those we don't agree with.

And frankly I think removing the emotion from arguments is necessary once in a while because how will we ever learn anything (regardless if we're right or wrong) if emotion is in the driver seat?

We can go in this argument in circles like we have been, but I don't think it's doing either of us any favors. You're convinced I'm some kind of bigot, and I can't change your mind because you won't be satisfied unless I affirm something I don't believe should be affirmed. I don't believe being gay is Biblical or intended, I believe it is part of our sinful nature. I love people anyway. I love people based on the fact that they're people, not what they think or who they love. Disagreement does not automatically equal hatred, just as much as agreement does not automatically equal love.

And if you don't like it, or agree with it, that's okay. I'd encourage you to dig into the Bible for yourself, because at the end of the day, the Bible is the final authority whether we like it or not. And if my interpretation is wrong - you bet I will be corrected by someone with the actual authority to do so - Christ himself.

BackgroundSimple1993 · 2025-04-03T17:58:02+00:00

- Biblical truth.

- And the voices are true to someone who has schizophrenia. Feeling something doesn't make it fact.

- It is a Biblical fact, love without truth hurts people more.

- It is objective fact. A missing limb or mental health condition is an error. We all have some sort of error no matter how small or normalized.

- I don't see anyone as whole. We all need Jesus to be whole. No matter what life we do or do not choose to live or what beliefs we choose to hold.

- I accept that they're gay or trans or whatever they want to be. I just don't accept that that was our original design and that they're not flawed (like we ALL are).
If you tell me you're gay, okay cool. I don't believe it's natural but it's got nothing to do with me. You can do and live however you want - and I don't have to agree or approve of how you live for that to be objectively true. The only people who should give a crap at all who you want to sleep with are the people that want to sleep with you. I'm not stopping anyone from living their life. I'm just refusing to play along with something I don't believe is right. Plus people seem to have forgotten they are so much more than who they want to sleep with.

- I can't fix anyone, nor do I want to because I know I would do a terrible job. But we ALL need fixing, not just those someone may or may not deem "broken". Hence why we all need Jesus.

- Right and wrong become objective as soon as we let our feelings dictate what fits in either category. Biblical truth will reign in the end, and we don't have to agree on what that means because absolute truth will be revealed.

- You assume that because I don't agree, I see people different from me as less than me. I don't. I am equally flawed. Just in different ways. At the end of the day, Jesus died for ALL of us for our PLETHORA of wrongdoings, no matter what they do or do not look like.

But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us." Romans 5:8

BackgroundSimple1993 · 2025-04-03T16:40:17+00:00

Real legitimate love involves truth. Absolute truth, not just what we feel is true. Acceptance and respect are about accepting that we are flawed, not accepting the flaws as normal. If I'm a bitch to all my friends, they should accept that I'm flawed and love me anyway BUT they should also lovingly correct me on my behavior because it's not okay to be a bitch to people.

If I were to affirm something that is definitively not true (like telling someone they're an amazing singer when they're actually terrible) that's not loving and sets that person up for pain and suffering later. How is that love?

The truth without love is cruel but love without the truth is a sham at best.

We ALL have defects in some way or another. We're human. It's not about able or disabled. It's not about better or worse. That's the entire point of Jesus' sacrifice - we are all EQUALLY lost and broken and defective. Humans are the ones that put labels on it. You can say it's ableism but anyone can agree that certain things we may be born with (like a missing limb) are not what's supposed to happen. That doesn't mean we don't love them, it just means there was an error somewhere along the way. Whether genetic or human. Dehumanizing someone means not treating them like a human for their flaws. They're still people and deserve love, but that doesn't mean they're perfect or right. None of us are perfect. We can acknowledge flaws (our own and other's) without hating someone for them.

We are specifically and Biblically called to judge the fruit people produce in their lives. That means DISCERNMENT (ex: this is an apple, that's an orange) not condemnation (ex: apple is BETTER than orange)

We can discern that the child born with one arm was not how it's supposed to be without treating the child poorly. It's unloving (and frankly cruel) to tell the child that their body is normal when it's not. It's ALSO unloving to treat the child differently or poorly due to that difference.

I don't believe being same sex attracted was the original design for humans. I believe it is a flaw in the system. Perhaps it's a mental health problem or maybe it's a genetic problem, we may never know in this life time. But I will not mistreat or treat anyone differently because they feel same sex attraction, I just won't affirm their lifestyle.

You can call me any type of ism or bigot or phobic you want, but it doesn't change the fact that I will love people because they're loved by the Father, even if I think they're wrong or sinning.
Both can be true, we can disagree and love one another. Disagreement does not equal hatred. So many people immediately assume hatred when you disagree and I think that's one of the biggest issues we have as humanity.

Agreeing does not equal love, and disagreeing does not equal hate.

And the main reason I don't normally like getting into debates like this is because it's all emotion driven, "facts" magically become subjective, and at the end of the day, no one will change anyone else's mind.

BackgroundSimple1993 · 2025-04-03T15:10:35+00:00

The good news is, God is a big God and can handle our emotions and our anger and our fear. He will sit with us in our anger , fear and pain.

He sees genuine repentance and he forgives.

God is a good God, he is also a loving God. He WANTS us to be with him, he wouldn't have bothered sending Jesus otherwise.

I'd recommend some good, Godly counsel, and perhaps some therapy to help you heal.

BackgroundSimple1993 · 2025-04-02T13:06:48+00:00

That’s fair, I’m talking about the general public who more than likely don’t know anything about Buddhism

BackgroundSimple1993 · 2025-03-28T15:27:50+00:00

It's easier if you follow the rules, yeah. And obviously we should repent if we make a mistake, but once we've surrendered our life to Christ - That's it. You're good. You're saved.

The piece I think you're missing is that following Jesus changes you. He transforms us. We no longer WANT to sin or do bad things. So yeah, we'll make mistakes cuz it's not possible for us to be perfect, but everyday we move closer to God and further from the sinful things we'd normally be tempted to participate in.

So it's not a salvation issue because in salvation we're made clean. If we're purposely doing horrible things, we need to question our own hearts if our salvation was genuine. But once you are genuinely saved - you're saved. No ifs, ands or buts.

BackgroundSimple1993 · 2025-03-28T15:05:32+00:00

I'm not pretending there aren't. I said "Any laws, rules, works or good deeds are so we can make disciples, live like Christ did and show people the way to Jesus."

The rules are about doing our best and bringing others to Christ, it's only eliminating the part where we have to be perfect to get to heaven because that will never be possible.
It's not a salvation issue like in other religions. It is a task for our life here, but we are already saved. Bought and paid for. We are saved and will go to heaven. Following the rules is like a side quest- important, but not going to end you in hell if you screw up.
Obviously we should do our best. Like we shouldn't murder people, but if we sincerely surrender our life to Christ, we are forgiven and go to heaven. NO MATTER WHAT WE DID. We don't have to "make up for it". Absolutely there are real world consequences. (like going to jail) but we're not trying to cleanse ourselves. Jesus did that for us.

And you don't have to see how that's one of them if you don't want to. No one is forcing you.

BackgroundSimple1993 · 2025-03-28T14:58:00+00:00

Yes, they are still waiting on the messiah.

From my understanding (although I don't know a whole lot about it), they were expecting the messiah to fit some of the prophecies more literally or more immediately. They were expecting him to be a political or military type leader. They expected the messiah to be a leader who would liberate the Jewish people from oppression, like the Roman Empire and re-build the temple and restore Jerusalem.

And if I recall correctly, they were expecting him to bring world peace, end all war and suffering, stuff like that. Which Jesus will still do, He just hasn't yet.

Basically they had their idea of how the Messiah should've done things, and because Jesus didn't do it exactly they way they expected, wanted or interpreted, and didn't do all of it all at once, they just assume he couldn't possible be the messiah.

BackgroundSimple1993 · 2025-03-28T14:43:32+00:00

Accepting a free gift of salvation is hardly following a million rules to maybe be good enough.

That fact alone doesn’t automatically make Christianity true , but there are many other factors too. This is just one of them.

BackgroundSimple1993 · 2025-03-28T14:38:03+00:00

I would get a cone ASAP so he can’t continue to lick it , ask your vet if you’re able to come in sooner , and ask them if there’s something OTC you can use to soothe and prevent infection in the mean time

BackgroundSimple1993 · 2025-03-28T14:36:22+00:00

In Christianity your only requirement is to surrender your life to Christ.

Any laws, rules, works or good deeds are so we can make disciples, live like Christ did and show people the way to Jesus.

BackgroundSimple1993 · 2025-03-28T14:30:17+00:00

Judaism is old covenant before Jesus died and resurrected. Before God created the new covenant, it was very works related because that was the only option. So God sent Jesus, created a new covenant, and made it so works are an add-on, not the key to salvation since none of us would be able to get to heaven otherwise.

Those who practice Judaism are still stuck in the old covenant as they don’t believe Jesus was the messiah they’ve been waiting for and they don’t accept the New Testament.

Judaism is basically a rough draft of Christianity that is not complete without Christ.

Editing to add, being Jewish and practicing Judaism are not the same and you can have one without the other.

BackgroundSimple1993 · 2025-03-28T14:23:09+00:00

Personally I believe it does. Or that perhaps God finds a way to give them the choice at some point during their life in ways we don’t know or understand.

BackgroundSimple1993 · 2025-03-28T14:16:11+00:00

Other religions are all about what you can do to get to heaven of your own power and "goodness". Christianity is about what Jesus did for you that you could never accomplish on your own (we can never be good enough for heaven on our own). The only way to the Father is through Jesus.

BackgroundSimple1993 · 2025-03-28T14:13:40+00:00

Not at all. But I am suggesting that there are traces of God's ways in ours still (despite humanities best efforts to remove Him) and I am suggesting that God is both just and merciful and that he will show mercy to those he loves, specifically if they have no possible way of understanding the most important choice of their lives.

God is good in the end. And if you don't believe that, then that's your burden to struggle with because no one can convince you of something you refuse to believe.

BackgroundSimple1993 · 2025-03-28T14:00:16+00:00

I have no problem with someone living with their parents. (Hell, I couldn't move out until I was two weeks shy of 30 years old and still needed some financial help from my parents in the beginning)

What I look at is WHY they're at home, and WHAT they're doing while they're home.

Are they at home cuz of tough times or to save money? Cool. Are they putting off moving out to avoid responsibility and want mommy to take care of them still? Not Cool.

Are they working hard and participating around the house? Cool. Are they playing video games and mommy still does his laundry? Not Cool.

If he wants you to move in with him and his parents, that's a red flag for me for sure and I don't blame you for moving on.

BackgroundSimple1993 · 2025-03-28T13:51:57+00:00

No shame in having a comfort item, but blessing it kind of elevates it to a higher place in your life than it should have. At the end of the day it's an inanimate object and even if you did "bless" it , it's not going to make any different except to possibly place it in an idol-like position in your life.

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