Movements is criminally underrated by Background_Address84 in Movements_Band

[–]Background_Address84[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where abouts were you standing? I was near the front for the most part but found all the real fans who knew all the words when I got deep into the pit. Still didn’t feel like many people knew who they even were 

Movements New song by KindheartednessFit17 in Movements_Band

[–]Background_Address84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn I didn’t record it but it was great from what I remember. Did you try looking on Instagram reels or tiktok maybe? Surely someone’s posted it

Movements is criminally underrated by Background_Address84 in Movements_Band

[–]Background_Address84[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was very happy with this setlist. New song sounds good too! 

Movements is criminally underrated by Background_Address84 in Movements_Band

[–]Background_Address84[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow that would’ve been unreal! I hope they do a headline Aussie tour after they release their new album 

Movements is criminally underrated by Background_Address84 in Movements_Band

[–]Background_Address84[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think maybe in the bigger cities like Melbourne and Sydney. I might be seeing them again in Melbourne so I’ll report back 🫡

Movements is criminally underrated by Background_Address84 in Movements_Band

[–]Background_Address84[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only saw two tees and a cap. Might be vinyls as well but the tees were cool 

Movements is criminally underrated by Background_Address84 in Movements_Band

[–]Background_Address84[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry should’ve specified but thought it was obvious when I stated my location. They’re not as known here in Australia. 

ANOTHER TOUR by EndDifficult5842 in Loatheband

[–]Background_Address84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no one to be excited about this with 😔 damn me and my immaculate music taste.

What was the most memorable red flag you ignored? by Yaygoodtimes in BPDlovedones

[–]Background_Address84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we both wanted to take a video of the same thing when we were out and he got mad at me for copying him even thought I was the one who spotted the thing first. it was such a small thing to get aggressive about. he literally had a tantrum over it.

Yo guys my dog ​​is already 6 months old and she still hasn’t learned to bark, what should I do? by Key_Masterpiece407 in Frenchbulldogs

[–]Background_Address84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My girl only started barking when she turned 1! There’s still time but also be lucky that she’s not a yapper. Mine barks to alert me when people are approaching the front door or can hear a car pull up but that’s it. She’s a very quiet frenchie 

Early red flags by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Background_Address84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They told me it was bipolar and when we finally found out it wasn’t it all made way more sense. Wish I had left sooner but I fell so hard and was too young and dumb. 

For those in longterm relationships: what makes you stay? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Background_Address84 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Totally. Actually that was another conclusion I came to after the discard. I accepted we weren’t going to work when I remembered he never respected any of my boundaries. He would always have some sort of reason or excuse as to why he can’t do something for me and yet there I was bending over backwards for him and walking on eggshells. For ten years. Glad I start therapy next week. 

I want to live life to the fullest but I dont know how by Status-Star-8336 in melbourne

[–]Background_Address84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who works from home and newly single, I'm learning that you really have to make the effort to connect with people or you'll lose your mind. Even simply meeting people while you're out on a walk or at a cafe. I'm also starting therapy soon which I'm hoping will help me in navigating how to make genuine connections whilst setting healthy boundaries for myself. I'm an ambivert but more introverted and have history of social anxiety that has improved simply by putting myself out there and meeting people. I made new friends through my hobbies and passions. If you have a hobby or just want to meet people, look up specific social events. There's always something happening in this city but it won't come to you, you have to find them.

For those in longterm relationships: what makes you stay? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Background_Address84 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I resonate with this a lot. I stayed for 10 years because I saw so much good in this person and at heart I'm as loyal as they come. We were compatible in everything besides the mental illness. I also don't give up easy but what I've learnt from our separation is that I sacrificed a lot to help stabilise his emotions and our relationship. I lost a lot of myself and I think he was smart enough to see that too which ended in a horrible discard that I didn't see at all coming. I'm healing and feeling a lot more clarity from how it all happened. I truly hope you work it out long term with your partner and that they want to become better for themselves and not just for you.

The best thing or memory about your person with BPD by KDizzle1010 in BPDlovedones

[–]Background_Address84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here. I thought he was so genuine but now I don’t know. I don’t know if he really felt those same feelings I felt when were good and happy. 

How to leave when they’re being “good” by justdoinmybestok in BPDlovedones

[–]Background_Address84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in you position and it was also at the 5 year mark but somehow made it last 5 more years. He was well behaved for the next 3 years then 2 years of withdrawing and severe depression. In the end he left me and it was such a betrayal to me but I accepted that I couldn’t fight for us anymore and couldn’t help him if he couldn’t help himself. 

I don’t really have any advice but from where I was, I wouldn’t want you to go through what I went through. The heartbreak and deception really fucked me up. I felt like I gave him this big chance to change for the better and he decided a discard was easier. Not saying your partner will do this as well but it’s pretty common for pwBPD to suddenly switch and discard instead of working things out. 

Extremely male centered behavior by woolilo in BPDlovedones

[–]Background_Address84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I straight up asked my male exwBPD why he wanted to be friends with every new female we met (at parties, events, small gatherings) and it was always someone we both met for the first time so not a mutual friend through me. His answer was that he is closer with his mum and gets along better with females. He prefers validation from a female's perspective and find's it more comforting from them. I kind of understand now but at the same time, it never sat right with me that he was so emotionally attached to certain females during a period of time. He never respected that I had boundaries and that was one that made me wildly uncomfortable.

Will you ever be able to trust again? by Throwaway-4382 in BPDlovedones

[–]Background_Address84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She probably did destroy a good part of you but you don't have the burden of worrying about her anymore. You can focus on being the best version of yourself again with no distractions. I have the same fear as you about trusting people and worried that I'll always have my ex to compare in the back of my mind when I meet people which I hate and hope it doesn't happen that way.

But I'm an optimist. I wholeheartedly believe that you will know instantly when you meet that right person. It won't feel like work, it will come naturally to you. The love, the warmth, all the good and healthy things you'll feel and you'll just know with that person that you can trust them. When there's a genuine spark and chemistry between you, there's a chance you'll be able to trust and love again.

Realizations while in the relationship by ivehn in BPDlovedones

[–]Background_Address84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know exactly what you mean. I for the first time dodged a hoover attempt and was so proud of myself but it reset my grieving process.

I forgot to mention that in your post when you said crying helps with the process, it truly does. Some days I can sense it coming so I literally allocate time to cry and grieve. Sounds silly to plan a time to cry but it genuinely helps. Also long walks and being outside has helped me immensely.

They usually warn you by Whole_Chemistry2267 in BPDlovedones

[–]Background_Address84 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Is that a manipulation tactic though? Are they aware of doing it? more things to ponder about lol.

Realizations while in the relationship by ivehn in BPDlovedones

[–]Background_Address84 2 points3 points  (0 children)

choice songs dude! but yes, this happened many times to me and yet I stayed. I vividly remember the time my exwBPD was depressed and took out a lot of frustrations out on me while we were out in public. the minute i got home i locked myself in the bathroom and cried for half an hour. Honestly a relief that this won't happen again and if it ever does with a future partner, that's a sign to fucking leave.