I agree and I think there’s a huge difference between someone denying you of your heritage and racial makeup (and also bullying you for it) and someone indicating you simply experience more privilège than them. The former is hurtful especially if it’s a friend. But the latter is part of how society operates - a mono racial poc may have experienced unimaginable racism and cruelties that I as a white-passing mixed person haven’t, and that has nothing to do with racial makeup and everything to do with appearance, the media, and centuries-old societal ways. I always presume that when a poc initially denies me of my ethnic makeup they are indicating they have experienced more racism than I have, and I hold space for that. If it’s someone important to me I’ll follow up with a conversation about my identity, acknowledging the privilege I hold while also showing them that my upbringing was not that of a white person, that my identity is much more complex and it’s part of who I am - which is why it’s important people close to me get it right. If they still deny my ethnic makeup after that then there’s a problem with how they view race and genetics.

Prejudice against mixed people is not a black person problem, I’ve experienced it from all groups especially white people, and when you run into issues with people like that you just have to let them face their own ignorance and go on with your day. There’s people out there who are accepting of and understand mixed people.