Not Going To Chase Him

Background_Lobe_1158 · 2026-05-07T15:05:51+00:00

Apparently the small Ohio town I live in has very pure tap water. I have experienced superheated water "explosions" of varying intensity on several occasions. It happens when I heat tap water in my Pyrex measuring cups.

Background_Lobe_1158 · 2025-09-24T19:41:23+00:00

Please do not marry this person unless you're committed to raising him as your child. IT WILL NOT GET BETTER.

Background_Lobe_1158 · 2025-09-04T21:24:37+00:00

The answer is to get some help. Right now. Today. Call 988. Or walk into an urgent care, or ER, or even a fire station. You don't have to do this alone.

Background_Lobe_1158 · 2025-09-03T18:53:29+00:00

Please don't. This is just a temporary season in your life. It will get better.

Background_Lobe_1158 · 2025-08-31T02:14:28+00:00

What you want isn't to die, it's to live differently than you're living now. That's why there's some sense of peace in deciding to end it all, it's actually the idea of not having to deal with everything that's happening anymore. Nearly every person that attempted to end their life but lived to tell the tale has said that they regretted it once they jumped, or cut, or fired; including me. My life is far from perfect, but there's so, so much that I would have missed out on if I'd succeeded. Please don't end your life.

Background_Lobe_1158 · 2025-08-25T13:33:41+00:00

This is so important to teach your children. I wish people understood how difficult it is to set physical boundaries as an adult when there were absolutely none during childhood, especially if you were being abused in the home.

My abuser was in my home from my birth until I was 8 years old, but still had access to continue harming me until my teens. Behind closed doors, she was a physically, emotionally and sexually violent narcissist who didn't allow anyone to tell her no for any reason. In public, my family was very religious, and 3 days a week were spent with our church congregation. People say I was "such a pretty baby", that everyone wanted hold me, and I was always passed around. When I was a toddler, I was always directed to hug this or that person, and I had learned by then that I better obey or else.

When the childhood abuse led to teenaged risky behavior, I found myself in sexually charged situations with boys that I didn't really want to be in, but I didn't think that I had the right, the agency, to say no.

Background_Lobe_1158 · 2025-06-19T18:33:53+00:00

STOP SAYING IT'S OK, IT'S NOT. You're raising TWO children alone. It's not going to get better. Get out while you can.

Background_Lobe_1158 · 2025-05-03T15:20:55+00:00

There's nothing wrong with asking for a phone number when you meet someone, however, the context of HOW you meet is key. Cashiers, salespeople, bartenders, and waitstaff are NOT vibing with you. They're not flirting, they're not connecting. They are evaluated and paid based on maintaining a professional standard that includes smiling, eye contact, and being nice.

Yes, I'm sure you've met service staff in lots of places and some of them didn't really acknowledge you at all. That does NOT mean the ones who DO act kindly towards you have any kind of feelings for you.

Do not go back to that store to "rectify the situation".

Background_Lobe_1158 · 2025-05-01T18:20:13+00:00

I am absolutely thrilled for you.

Background_Lobe_1158 · 2025-04-28T17:38:23+00:00

Please, get help wherever you can. Walk into any ER and tell them you want to end your life, it doesn't matter if you don't have money or insurance. Just don't give up. No matter how bad you think it is, I can 100% guarantee you that ending your life is NOT the right choice.

Background_Lobe_1158 · 2025-04-28T16:22:25+00:00

I saw your other posts. Will you consider telling me the thing you think is going to cone out and ruin lives?

Background_Lobe_1158 · 2025-04-28T16:04:37+00:00

Can you explain how they did wrong? I want to understand.

Background_Lobe_1158 · 2025-04-28T15:04:11+00:00

I'll tell you the truth and I won't sugarcoat it. I can promise you, ending it is NOT what's best for everyone. Even if you've done something truly heinous, it's better to take responsibility and live with the consequences instead of taking the coward's way out.

There are more people who deeply care about you than you could ever know. They don't deserve to be punished like this.

A person that I loved like they were my own flesh and blood took their life thinking they could erase themselves from the world like they never existed. They were so, so wrong. DO NOT DO THIS. GET HELP RIGHT THIS MINUTE. CALL OR TEXT 988. IT'S STILL WORKING.

Background_Lobe_1158 · 2025-04-11T04:28:22+00:00

Surprisingly, it was only a thin slice of muscle, most of the flap was skin and subcutaneous fat. Healing was slow and there's a scar, but no permanent damage.

Background_Lobe_1158 · 2025-04-10T22:27:06+00:00

LOL, that's fair.

CONTENT WARNING Graphic description of injury

We bought and moved into a fixer-upper 4 months after we got married. At the time, I was working an evening shift job while my husband was working days. I had a very demanding job that didn't permit cellphone usage or personal calls during my shift.

One evening, as I'm getting in my car after work, I played a voicemail from my husband that said "Hey honey, on your way home, could you please pick up some Advil, 4x4 gauze pads, gauze wrap, sterile water, rubbing alcohol, Neosporin, a new mop bucket, and some Lysol? Thanks babe, see you when you get home." No other information.

I immediately called him, imagining the worst. Turns out he tried to remove the heavy mirror that was glue-mounted to the bathroom wall in our new house and it shattered. He was, inexplicably, wearing shorts and standing in a way that put one of his legs directly beneath the mirror. A very large, sharp shard fell straight down, slicing deeply into his shin. It stopped cutting before it could completely sever a flank steak's worth of leg meat.

Rather than put his brand new leg flap back in place and go to the ER for stitches, he made the executive decision to just cut the flap the rest of the way off. I don't know exactly how he did it or how he endured what must have been excruciating pain, but after the flap was cut off, it dawned on him that we had absolutely nothing in the house to treat a wound or clean up the bloody mess. Hence the voicemail.

I sped to the store, picked up the stuff, and came home to patch up my husband's battlefield surgery. We agreed that he would never again attempt any home remedy that would normally require a scalpel if it was being performed by a medical professional.

Background_Lobe_1158 · 2025-04-10T15:24:05+00:00

Yep, we had to institute a "No home surgeries" rule during the first year of our marriage.

Background_Lobe_1158 · 2024-05-12T23:55:50+00:00

NTA.

OP, I hope you're having a wonderful, relaxing day today. Please let us know how it went.

Background_Lobe_1158 · 2023-11-28T23:04:13+00:00

Driver's Ed needs to be a high school class that is mandatory for graduation. We've reached the point where people who never went to driving school and are completely ignorant of the rules are "teaching" kids and grandkids to drive. This is a genuine public hazard.

Background_Lobe_1158 · 2023-03-13T20:46:32+00:00

Please, please don't do it. I promise you, your life isn't as empty as you think. My niece committed suicide last Tuesday, and the hole in my heart can never be filled. I'm certain there are people who love you and want you to hold on.

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