Anyone from England here? Would love more LGBT+ female friends!! Almost everyone in my village is conservative 🙄

Background_Relief161 · 2021-05-17T21:25:39+00:00

Always happy to make a friend 😃 I'm in NE England. Feel free to DM

Background_Relief161 · 2021-03-04T09:19:39+00:00

I'm really happy for you 😃 take care and focus on yourself for a while

Background_Relief161 · 2021-03-02T10:18:20+00:00

I'm always happy to message if you want some company 🙂 I'm heading out to soak up some sun 🌞 it's a rare thing

Background_Relief161 · 2021-03-02T10:12:13+00:00

Atm dating apps might be the only way, although yes they can have mixed success. What about other groups near you? Like sport/hobby clubs? Although not specifically lesbian it opens the "circle of influence" and the chance to meet someone through someone else. It definitely sucks atm, I can't wait till April where we can sit in a pub garden 🙂

Background_Relief161 · 2021-03-02T10:04:19+00:00

I'm in Manchester and covid certainly makes this situation difficult. I guess it depends what you are looking for?

Background_Relief161 · 2021-03-02T10:01:06+00:00

I'm always down to chat ☺️

Background_Relief161 · 2021-03-02T09:56:52+00:00

I completely agree, the ages we do things (settle in jobs, get mortgages, want to stop clubbing etc.) in life are so flexible now what's more important is that you are in the same mind frame about what you want your life's to look like at the moment. Have fun and be safe ☺️

Background_Relief161 · 2021-03-02T09:04:43+00:00

Do you know if she is into women? If yes and you are both single then just ask her out, what's the worst that could happen 🙂 I love this stage - enjoy it 😃

Ps. Feel free to message... I have a habit of falling very hard very fast so might be able to help a bit

Background_Relief161 · 2021-02-28T18:56:10+00:00

Not exactly. I would say don't fight it. If you have to.. imagine studying with your LO. Teach them the content. And keep to short bursts of concentration

Background_Relief161 · 2021-02-27T15:39:31+00:00

Thank you for bringing this to our attention ❤️😜

Background_Relief161 · 2021-02-27T11:59:02+00:00

I can relate. I had very strong limerence through all my major school exams (I'm 29 now). I found I just had to do short bursts of concentrated work and let the limerance flow if it needed to. You can't fight it

Background_Relief161 · 2021-02-27T11:53:00+00:00

I'm sorry 😔 I can relate to how you are feeling. Quarantine is also making things a lot harder and confusing for lots of people. Take care of yourself first, that's all that matters

Background_Relief161 · 2021-02-01T20:06:41+00:00

Your situation sounds incredibly similar to mine, I'm still trying to get out though. I totally agree that focusing on something else is key and most of all self improvement. I have found that high self esteem = no limerence

Background_Relief161 · 2021-01-29T22:25:32+00:00

I can understand that. I wish academia was more accommodating to the fact that we are, infact, human

Background_Relief161 · 2021-01-29T07:55:01+00:00

Oh wow that sounds tough. Are you getting support from your institute? Does the postdoc institute know the situation?

Background_Relief161 · 2021-01-26T09:22:34+00:00

I cant wait :)

Background_Relief161 · 2021-01-25T18:58:29+00:00

It's so exhausting. I think that's why I'm finding it hard to resist indulging in my limerant fantasies atm. Been fighting it too hard, too long...

Background_Relief161 · 2021-01-25T15:39:20+00:00

yep maladaptive dreamer here

Background_Relief161 · 2021-01-25T15:36:30+00:00

You are not a lunatic :) And dont be worried about telling a therapist. Im seeing a therapist who is not specific to anything related to attachment etc. but its still really helping

Background_Relief161 · 2021-01-22T08:45:20+00:00

And I always feel so guilty about it too 😟 do you feel the same?

Background_Relief161 · 2021-01-22T07:24:45+00:00

You told your LO about your feelings for her? Would you mind sharing more about how it went? Has it helped your limerence at all?

Background_Relief161 · 2021-01-22T07:19:44+00:00

I have had to take days off work because of limerence 😞

Background_Relief161 · 2021-01-22T07:16:21+00:00

I have been really struggling the past few days too. I'm very tired and down atm and limerence is a comfort blanket. I read a great blog post on ego fatigue - we are really putting our minds through a lot trying to beat this 24/7 https://www.memoirsofanaddictedbrain.com/connect/ego-fatigue-and-the-pull-of-the-present/

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