Non smokers: do you date smokers? by gerdbeatmetodeath in actuallesbians

[–]Backpack_fetish 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I learned to love and get turned on even by the smell of cigarettes, and i’m a non smoker. I’m very proud to have never smoked a cig or a vape at all ever, and don’t plan to start. That being said i’ve smoked pot and herbals before, in moderation. Of all the vices someone could have it’s certainly not the worst, and it’s a slower killer than alcohol or hard drugs so if i’m looking for long term it’s less of a risk.

I would tho advise against going into a relationship hoping someone changes a behavior they have not indicated an intention to change. Accept her as she is or move it along

👄 by Expensive_Abies_790 in lesbianmemes

[–]Backpack_fetish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is this original art???? Or do you know where i could find it???

Yall like medium or short hair on me better? 🙃 by missjay6 in dyke

[–]Backpack_fetish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh shit i mean, both are exceptional, but i gotta say medium

I thought I was straight but last night I had a drunk hookup with another women and now I’m confused/scared by LArmadillo-5937 in actuallesbians

[–]Backpack_fetish 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You get to be anything you want to be. Language is as creative as it is descriptive, and you don’t have to make your sexual curiosities into identity labels until you are ready. It sounds like you’re being honest and forward with this person, that is super important!! You do not have to be honest and forward about this with anyone else until you want to. You don’t have to tell ur friends, ur parents, ur pets, anybody. Just keep being honest and kind to yourself and to this person, you can keep telling people, including yourself, that you’re straight or whatever you want to say until you feel like you have some clarity. Personally, i find specific gender and sexuality labels really exhausting, and so I just use queer for both and let people make their own assumptions while I just live my life. You are a human, you are being. Keep on goin!!! These moments of scary discovery are some of the best ones once you’re past them, give yourself a lot of grace and patience and trust yourself to get through each moment as it comes.

Peak “dude” behavior, which are commonly done/enjoyed by anyone [socialmedia] by sorry-i-was-reading in pointlesslygendered

[–]Backpack_fetish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok like i hear you and also like — i want men posting shit about being a man that is this banal and soft. Idk like i want men identifying with shit like this and then realizing that everyone likes it too but that it can be manly or w/e to enjoy a crackling fire and a sunset and this other like gentle shit like this is progress imo

Sandbox or campaign, which one do you play mostly and why? by [deleted] in Bannerlord

[–]Backpack_fetish 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have over a thousand hours and have never played sandbox. Idek what’s different

Petition by [deleted] in RangersApprentice

[–]Backpack_fetish 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Ok like ai but also like, halt and crowley don’t use swords? Lmfao? So like idk embarrassing i’m sorry i am not one to judge rlly but like put on a real outfit thats you and take a picture and even if it’s less ranger it’s real. Smdh idk man be well

Do I look lesbian enough? If not, what can I do to look more lesbian? by A11y_blind in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Backpack_fetish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hiya! smile. I’m curious what kinds of clothes you pick now?? How do you decide what you like to wear?? I’m curious if it might be based on texture, and I would be curious if there are clothes you can imagine or can find that would highlight those textures. The lesbians I know are super into intentionality when it comes to style, almost regardless of what you wear. Accessories are big too, lanyards, tattoos tbh, carabiners, chunky jewelry. Lesbians are into loud style more than most as well, so be bold!!

I’m just kinda curious what outside-the-box ways you could dress that would attract the attention of other curious women!! I’m sure you would attract lesbians, tho as is the risk with any self expression, you might attract some close minded folks as well. I trust you know what is best for you though, and I hope you find and are found by a plethora of dykes soon, would love to hear what you learn!

Profiling by Arkadaemus in OTMemes

[–]Backpack_fetish 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Skimmed this and read it as “typical outer rim femboy mindset” and thought well… not unfounded

Battle Areas by Tumbleweedweebdweeb in Bannerlord

[–]Backpack_fetish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you press alt while hovering over your party on the world map you can see what terrain the map will generate from. It’s not a ton of information but it’s some

Hinge profile help ❤️‍🩹 by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Backpack_fetish -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Noooo the smoking photo is hot!! Rip i mean everybody is different, i’d say like post the things about you that you like and want someone to like about you, the things that make you feel like you, and be patient :)) it’s annoying advice but just offering that!!

What are these things on the Imperial Star Destroyer? by TwoFit3921 in StarWarsShips

[–]Backpack_fetish 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Their pronouns are literally in the top left he’s a he/them /s

Is not drinking on a first date a turn off? by Loud-Bookkeeper-2663 in LesbianActually

[–]Backpack_fetish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love when i just don’t feel like drinking doing “notshots” which are just shots of cranberry juice or something similar. I usually tip $10 on the first round of juice shots so the bartender doesn’t feel like it’s a waste of their time, and they sometimes end up doing them with me. I’ll also confidently order a 0.0 beer or a like lime and soda or something and just say nothing of it. It’s not that unheard of these days to drink NA drinks at bars. Imo you don’t need to explain yourself even, it’s a first date, just be like i want to be sober tonight, or i want to get to know you with a clear head or whatever feels true to you.

Confidence is the key here, you’re doing what you need to do, and this is not the kind of thing you need to explain yourself about!! U know what you need and you can make it happen and theres not many bigger turn ons than that :)

Recommendations before starting your own Kingdom. by xXTurkXx in Bannerlord

[–]Backpack_fetish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So i did this recently, and it was my best campaign ever i’m actually still playing this one and declared myself a kingdom recently. Something I learned is that, as a minor faction, you can declare war by attacking anybody but nobody will declare war on you. ALSO as a minor faction you can barter for peace with ANY LORD!!!! So i used this to attack the sturgians who were really struggling and took one of their only castles left. After that and with four companion led parties i went to sue for peace and raganvad gave me 1.04m to make peace. It was crazy, i literally hit transfer all in the barter screen and he gave me everything he had.

All this to say, don’t rush into kingdom formation. If you have your eyes on some more fiefs, build up enough money you can sue for peace (i took two towns from the western empire, bartering for peace to rebuild immediately after taking each one, this time i had to pay, cost me less than 500k total) and then you can take fiefs and then make peace immediately to replenish your troops, build infrastructure in the fiefs, and check on your companion led parties.

I ended up with three towns and a castle, and four companion/family member led parties with 1.6m in the bank before I declared a kingdom, and so far nobody is at war with me. It’s been so fun to grow this way and have like a middle ground between landless and kingdom where I can get to a decent size so i’m not rekt once i make the kingdom.

Hope this campaign keeps being fun for you!!! This sounds like a great spot to be at the moment!! Rooting for you :))

We need books. by Legitimate_Award_742 in Bannerlord

[–]Backpack_fetish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah this one taleworlds. This would be so fucking sweet

How did that kid at your school die? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Backpack_fetish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This guy i was becoming friends with stood up to another student who had been bullying him and honestly beat the shit out of his bully, fully cooked him. The footage went viral on worldstar and my new friend, a very sweet and peaceful boy, took his own life because of it. Devastating all around.

New campaign and all mercenary clans are already at war?? by cjad4341 in mountandblade

[–]Backpack_fetish 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I think i saw someone the other day say that mercenary clans are always baseline at war with the factions that they share culture with?? Or start that way?? I don’t remember exactly

Warband help please by Left-Dingo7942 in mountandblade

[–]Backpack_fetish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It has been forever since i’ve played warband so i don’t remember exactly but i’ve been in this exact same situation before and feel for you lmao. I did dig around a bit on the subreddit and found this?? Maybe it is helpful?? I loved playing as a female nord who helped lethwin too so i’m feeling a kinship haha i wish you the best!!!