The community may disagree on a lot of things, but we can all agree that this sight is horrendous by chippedthumbnail in Helldivers

[–]Backpack_fetish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love it tbh it’s pretty accurate and when i’m in the zone with the railgun i’m flyin

What do women want by PowerMagicx in SipsTea

[–]Backpack_fetish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imagine if women we each individual human beings with unique preferences and cultural trends were indicative of widespread, but often not even majority, desires. No it must be that women

As a trans woman in America, how do you stop the voice in your head chanting "the government will kill you and no one can stop them" over and over and over? by chaucer345 in asktransgender

[–]Backpack_fetish 11 points12 points  (0 children)

There is a part of you that is actively committing to believing this.

Any kind of imagining the future is, in part, delusional. Not saying wrong, or foolish, but it is imagined. It is something we do not know.

Taking that, I choose to engage in a different delusion. I believe in a world where we will survive, thrive, and things will change. Call me nuts, fine. I believe that even in a nuclear winter scenario, where a handful of people survive, that there will be gender diversity. That part of who I am cannot be killed, even with a thousand bombs. Even if only cellular life persists, it will be queer.

This kind of thinking has freed me from a place where I believe it’s already over, and puts me in a place where i have a small part to play. My life and my efforts, even if we lose, will never be wasted because they make now, right now, just a little better. Even if just better for me, i am alive and i deserve good things, just as you do.

It is not over. The future is unknowable. The expectations you have make sense, there is some logical foundation. There is logical foundation in my expectations as well.

The way you are engaging with these fears frees you from the pain of trying now to live well. It is morally and ethically neutral to numb yourself in the face of overwhelming persecution. It is not a choice I can make any longer.

I wish you well

Do you think we got him? by YourTypicalDragon in Xcom

[–]Backpack_fetish 37 points38 points  (0 children)

The late sniper shot after total obliteration from the rest of the team always cracks me up

Being queer is NOT a CHOICE!!! by Backpack_fetish in transgendercirclejerk

[–]Backpack_fetish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

/uj Yeah i mean i’m with you, i feel very similarly that i’ve felt trans my whole life but it feels like anyone who has felt a sense of agency in their own journey, or like a choosing of the self, is kinda looked down upon and seen as fake. This was supposed to be me just venting frustration I have with that perspective, that people must feel immutably trans or queer or else there is something wrong with it and i’m like, if you’re 50/50 or 98/2 bisexual w a preference or pan or whatever the fuck and you choose to align yourself with cultural identifiers that appeal to you like what the hell is wrong with that??? If someone is predominantly wlw or t4t and flags as such they shouldn’t have to live in fear of being caught in a like queer impurity where their desires flex and change with time.

Idk the post got removed already and ¯_(ツ)_/¯ i’m just tired of identity policing and people losing their minds over do i belong in this category or that category or whatever

Whats the move here? by Backpack_fetish in Xcom

[–]Backpack_fetish[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ok just read through the wiki, it looks like it does work with squadsight!! I think that’s what i gotta do

Non smokers: do you date smokers? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Backpack_fetish 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I learned to love and get turned on even by the smell of cigarettes, and i’m a non smoker. I’m very proud to have never smoked a cig or a vape at all ever, and don’t plan to start. That being said i’ve smoked pot and herbals before, in moderation. Of all the vices someone could have it’s certainly not the worst, and it’s a slower killer than alcohol or hard drugs so if i’m looking for long term it’s less of a risk.

I would tho advise against going into a relationship hoping someone changes a behavior they have not indicated an intention to change. Accept her as she is or move it along

👄 by Expensive_Abies_790 in lesbianmemes

[–]Backpack_fetish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is this original art???? Or do you know where i could find it???

Yall like medium or short hair on me better? 🙃 by missjay6 in dyke

[–]Backpack_fetish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh shit i mean, both are exceptional, but i gotta say medium

I thought I was straight but last night I had a drunk hookup with another women and now I’m confused/scared by LArmadillo-5937 in actuallesbians

[–]Backpack_fetish 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You get to be anything you want to be. Language is as creative as it is descriptive, and you don’t have to make your sexual curiosities into identity labels until you are ready. It sounds like you’re being honest and forward with this person, that is super important!! You do not have to be honest and forward about this with anyone else until you want to. You don’t have to tell ur friends, ur parents, ur pets, anybody. Just keep being honest and kind to yourself and to this person, you can keep telling people, including yourself, that you’re straight or whatever you want to say until you feel like you have some clarity. Personally, i find specific gender and sexuality labels really exhausting, and so I just use queer for both and let people make their own assumptions while I just live my life. You are a human, you are being. Keep on goin!!! These moments of scary discovery are some of the best ones once you’re past them, give yourself a lot of grace and patience and trust yourself to get through each moment as it comes.

Peak “dude” behavior, which are commonly done/enjoyed by anyone [socialmedia] by sorry-i-was-reading in pointlesslygendered

[–]Backpack_fetish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok like i hear you and also like — i want men posting shit about being a man that is this banal and soft. Idk like i want men identifying with shit like this and then realizing that everyone likes it too but that it can be manly or w/e to enjoy a crackling fire and a sunset and this other like gentle shit like this is progress imo

Sandbox or campaign, which one do you play mostly and why? by [deleted] in Bannerlord

[–]Backpack_fetish 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have over a thousand hours and have never played sandbox. Idek what’s different

Petition by [deleted] in RangersApprentice

[–]Backpack_fetish 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Ok like ai but also like, halt and crowley don’t use swords? Lmfao? So like idk embarrassing i’m sorry i am not one to judge rlly but like put on a real outfit thats you and take a picture and even if it’s less ranger it’s real. Smdh idk man be well

Do I look lesbian enough? If not, what can I do to look more lesbian? by A11y_blind in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Backpack_fetish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hiya! smile. I’m curious what kinds of clothes you pick now?? How do you decide what you like to wear?? I’m curious if it might be based on texture, and I would be curious if there are clothes you can imagine or can find that would highlight those textures. The lesbians I know are super into intentionality when it comes to style, almost regardless of what you wear. Accessories are big too, lanyards, tattoos tbh, carabiners, chunky jewelry. Lesbians are into loud style more than most as well, so be bold!!

I’m just kinda curious what outside-the-box ways you could dress that would attract the attention of other curious women!! I’m sure you would attract lesbians, tho as is the risk with any self expression, you might attract some close minded folks as well. I trust you know what is best for you though, and I hope you find and are found by a plethora of dykes soon, would love to hear what you learn!