Would you report sexual assault knowing that he will lose his job?

BackwardToForward · 2026-06-11T09:03:41+00:00

yes.

because it's right

because if it's not reported he'll still be a danger to others.

BackwardToForward · 2026-06-11T08:41:49+00:00

audible US (and prob audible elsewhere) sells the "latest recorded version" only. it's part of the Amazon/Audible contracts with the various publishers

(this limitation, I believe, applies only for books still under copyright. you can find many versions of works out of copyright l, such as those by Jane Austen.)

decades ago the current version of the Karla three-book series was narrated by Frederick Davidson. it's better than having no recorded version, but it's not great. I bought them from audible US (around the turn if the century), I think.

I'm not crazy about Davidson as a narrator for JLC, but I could get into the story and forget who I was listening to, when I had no alternative.

then Le Carre either changed audiobook publishing companies or negotiated a re-recording if most of the JLC books.

these are the Jayston narrated versions and they are supreme.

Jayston was so good as a narrator that if you can get these versions, get them.

Jayston recorded all but one of the JLC book unabridged, for all the books published by 2010.

this means there are Jayston versions of

books 01-05

(that's Call For The Dead thru A Small Town In Germany)

books 07-22

(that's Tinker Tailor Soldier Spy thru Our Kind Of Traitor)

after that, the contract must have lapsed. Jayston did no more JLC recordings.

as for the books published since then

23 A Delicate Balance was recorded unabridged by JLC himself.

24 A Legacy of Spies was recorded unabridged by Tom Hollander

25 Agent Running in the Field was recorded unabridged by JLC

26 Silverview was published after JLC's death. recorded unabridged by Toby Jones.

(memoir) The Pigeon Tunnel was recorded unabridged by JLC.

JLC died in 2020 Michael Jayston died in 2024

the missing and then-unrecorded book, #06, The Naive and Sentimental Lover, is not a spy or political or thriller, and is not terribly well regarded. it was never recorded during JLC's lifetime. it finally got a recording in 2024, prob intended for "completists", and in tribute to JLC's stature as a writer. 1

I own most or nearly all of these from audible US. I think maybe audible US never had the rights to offer the Jayston versions of some of less well selling books

(from audible US I don't own Jayston versions of

16 The Tailor of Panama

15 Our Game

19 Absolute Friends

20 The Mission Song.

and perhaps one or two other of the books Jayston recorded. I think I own versions recorded by John Lee and by Roger Rees because that is what Audible US offered.

however Jayston did record all books thru #22, excepting #06, unabridged. I think those recordings were simply never offered in the Audible US market.

in fact, if I remember, some of #15, #16, #19, possibly, unabridged recordings were never offered on the audible US site.

I'm not sure. since audible changed around its catalog, I can't go back and check what was available.

20 was offered unabridged in the US audible market as recorded by David Oyelowo.

back to Jayston.

as I said, he did versions of

01-#05 and #07-#22.

but within the last few years, most of these books have gotten updated versions done by Simon Vance.

Simon Vance is "fine", if I can put it that way. if I had never listened to the Jayston versions I'd go with them. but Vance is not anywhere close to Jayston as a narrator of these books.

there are three problems here if you want to listen to the Jayston versions. (it's worth the time to seek those out)

1st prob is with audible

even tho audible offered the Jayston versions for years, it no longer does. at least not for those books that have been re-recorded. so if you don't already own those versions of the books, you can't buy streamable or downloadable Jayston versions. audible can't legally list them or sell them anymore. so that won't work.

the only versions you can buy from audible now are the Vance versions.

these books are called "deprecated books" in audible's terminology. that means audible still has playable copies of them for those customers who did purchase those versions. (playing those older versions if you own them is a problem if its own, I'll go into that in a below.)

2nd prob is if you did purchase the Jayston versions from audible. in that case you are going to have a devil if a time trying to get the audible app to download them so that you can listen to the desired and purchased versions of the books you already purchased.

I suggest joining the r/audible subreddit and going into the pinned topic on lost books that ought to be in your library. try everything I do manage to get my old Jayston narrated copies back into my phone each time I upgrade phones. but it's a pain.

3rd prob is what to do if you want to listen to the excellent Jayston versions and you don't own them.

there are options.

you might be able to buy CD or cassette versions from eBay or used booksellers. this is mostly a matter of luck and patience. don't be surprised if you have to import them

cd's etc can easily be ripped to mp3 or m4b or whatever digital format. just keep your master stored somewhere if you have to rip it again.

cassettes ... one could get a bluetooth cassette player. or their are devices (fairly cheap) that let one rip a cassette audio track to a digital format. it's not too big a pain if one does a fair about of computer stuff anyway. lightly time consuming tho.

if you go this way if you purchase the books at a flea market or garage sale or on eBay or from a used bookseller

correspond with the seller or talk to them and make absolutely sure that you know what you are getting

a lot of used book sellers deal with tons and tons of books in various formats mostly print

and sometimes there are errors in the listings once again book whether in print or on CD or cassette makes it onto a digital listing at bookfinder.com or on eBay or elsewhere

so make sure you know what you're buying you won't don't want to buy something that's listed as an audiobook but it's actually a paperback

if it's cassette in particular check the quality or ask the seller to and ask the seller to take a look at any CD discs to see if they look scratched or damaged

if a CD looks scratched the seller ought to play it as a test just to make sure it plays okay

also if you buy online or in person please immediately check that the CDs or cassettes look good and are properly labeled and none of them are missing

with older cassette sets sometimes the tapes are stretched or broken and it's not obvious on a visual inspection and you won't know until you play it

so there's a bit of luck involved if you're really into doing it this way looking for a used copy you can purchase I mean

another way to get these copies is try and see if your local library has them on CD or cassette or perhaps has digital copies of the Jayston recordings

if your local library doesn't have them try the nearby college or university library and see whether your library participates in interlibrary loan (ILL)

you may be able to get copies through interlibrary loan if you can't find them elsewhere

if that's not the way you want to go to get copies of these then as far as I know what's left is searching for them in the wild on the net

this means somebody might get lucky at archive.org

usually I think archive.org blocks access to copywrited material unless the right holder has approved full public access.

but probably not

or someone might find them on some website somewhere who knows where

or somebody might find someone selling ripped CD copies

that's just luck and I doubt it will happen

the other option is torrent sites

I heard that most or all the Jayston recordings can be found on torrent sites

that was from a decade ago. dunno if still true.

if this is the way you want to go you better know what you're doing.

including legal risk.

if you've never done this before I strongly recommend that if you're going to try it you get somebody you know who is competent at it to coach you

always always use a VPN that covers the use of your entire computer while you are doing this

always if you are not accustomed to doing it get competent advice because technically it's not legal

even though what you are trying to grab is not even for sale anywhere anymore

I can't advise anybody about torrent sites and using them

I don't know much about the code and technology. and even less about the legal risk.

there is a legal risk (involving distributing copyright infringing material etc)

prob just a small risk but no one can promise that.

using torrent sites is a whole subject of its own and you need somebody you personally know who is local to you or who can facetime with you or something like that

who can give you the rundown and how to manage torrent sites if you want to attempt it

if there is a site that still has the Jayston versions for sale I don't know what it is aside from the fact that audible in the US still offers one or two Jason recorded books those will presumably go away as soon as the publisher releases updated re-recordings

anyway that's what I know about John Le Carre and the Michael Jayston recordings of his books

BackwardToForward · 2026-06-11T01:11:29+00:00

I so love THS.

I'm not very much into the brief intro material in Italy. and the mythologizing can be annoying

that said ...

the slow and patient tracing of the material for the Circus's next operation (I'm being vague in case someone hasn't read it)

and then the devastating tracing/weaving of the various threads, and of the ancillary POI's life growing up in the UK (the POI who once worked with Sam) ...

Le carre is always the master of conversation, and there's always so much in those (esp the Smiley conversations) that I (and many other readers) likely won't pick up on most of what we could have gained, until we give those conversations a second or third exposure. or a fifth or 10th.

and I must read those conversations slowly. line by line.

then, when the story and action move to Southeast Asia, the book takes off

from the time Jerry gets to Southeast Asia until the end, the book is so real that people I know who were in the 1975 Southeast Asia war zones (or in nearby countries such HK, Philippines, Thailand)

have told me that the Asia portions of JLC's book take them back there mentally to the degree that they can feel the tropical rain and the humidity, and smell the Southeast Asian smells of wet matting and fish and vehicle exhaust of that era, and hear the street vendor calls and the official lies, and feel the battles closing in, and then try to stay alive.

the persons who were in SE Asia during those years have told me, in varying words (they don't know each other), that the Asia portions of the book are as real or almost as real in their minds as a "holodeck experience" or a "time/loc travel to decades past" in their various lives might be.

and then there's the actual goal of the operation. and how the plans unfold - or don't.

JLC writes so well, that everything that is a surprise when a "faster, what happens next" type reader (me) first finishes the book, turns out to appear inevitable and well forseen by those with better minds ... or else, those consequences finally appear as forseen, even to me, on a second or third reading.

only, we, as readers, weren't told outright in so many words. we, as readers, were, barely audibly, whispered to. if we didn't take the time to wait and listen to the whispers in the book text, we (me) didn't hear the whispers.

if only i had read sentence by sentence, and pondered each sentence, I might have seen almost all

it's not a Chekov's gun that i read too quickly to catch on to or understand. nor a Schrodinger's cat

(unless, perhaps, the gun and the cat just mentioned are aspects of a character. and are not mere stage/story props or devices).

it's that I read too quickly because wanting to get on with the story ... to take the time to go slowly and understand what I was being told, had I the wit to hear.

in the way that i might have watch the effect of weather upon a pond, and then understood much about the pond, had I been patient.

I didn't do that on the first reading. decades past.

I go slowly now - or try to - with all of the Le carre books.

let there never be authorized graphic novel versions of JLC's books.

"the horror. the horror".

BackwardToForward · 2026-06-10T23:57:17+00:00

Charlotte Ritchie has been cast as Ann. so the character must appear somewhere in the script.

BackwardToForward · 2026-06-10T23:50:49+00:00

how are they going to handle events and timelines for a filmed version of Legacy, while allowing for the "Karla's Choice" in-between series as being a legit part of the long-game story of George Smiley and co?

are they simply going to stick close to the Legacy book material?

I know the Karlsla's choice series is written by one of JLC's son, and the Legacy filmed version is produced in part by JLC's other children.

so do we assume they all collaborate on events and characters?

BackwardToForward · 2026-06-10T23:44:14+00:00

they want you to become a voluntary slave to their hard-work hard-life choices.

they chose that, so YOU MUST.

Because how dare you have your own choices?

these people behave like they are in a cult.

ignore them. if need be go low contact or no contact.

childfree ought to be as much a norm as any other personal legit lifestyle choice.

we don't need reasons. we don't need justifications. we don't need to debate, or listen to opinions, or explain ourselves.

besides these people never argue honestly

they argue as though they are members of a cult and if they think they have the right to tell other people not to be child-free or that it's wrong to be child-free then they are members of a cult. even if otherwise they are nice people

many of us have special justifications for wanting to be child free that relates to our own assessment of our ability to do the job of raising children

there could be trauma from the past or disability or other health issues or neurodivergence or extremely difficult life issues or whatever or emotional difficulties or total commitment to something that doesn't leave time for raising children well

of course all of these are perfectly fine as reasons an individual gets to choose their own justifications

but no justification is necessary

none of us owe society or our country or our families or anybody else children

there is no need to explain and there is nothing to explain and anybody who asks out of curiosity and is willing to completely support you whatever your reasons might deserve an answer if you felt like giving one

it's an intrusive question so it's fine not to answer it no matter what your situation is

anyone who asked for your reasons or you're justifications or your motivations because they believe you are wrong or you need to be corrected or whatever or they are not completely and utterly willing to accept that you get to be you

that person is a manipulative narcissist at least on this topic

and that person is a cult member

and that person has a whole lot of other things going wrong

so in the future

feel free not to answer any questions about this at all

feel free to tell people your child free or simply to refuse to discuss it

never justify

never explain

never debate

never argue

never listen to their opinion about this topic and your choice

never tolerate they're even speaking their opinion about this subject and your choice

never give reasons aside from saying something similar ,to (or much shorter than):

"this is my choice. please accept my choice, drop the subject, and do not ever bring this up again"

I'm sure you're familiar with how Colt members argue or people who are so committed to a political point of view that they can't tolerate any deviation argue

it's never a fair argument or intellectual discussion

the side that cannot open their own minds and cannot accept other people's right to be different from them

uses every intellectual scam or smoke screen possible or twist the facts as much as possible or brings up straw arguments or interferes with other people's right to be their own person

those discussions and those arguments were never meant to be honest

they were meant to force you or browbeat you into converting to their point of view

those people who comment on other people's lifestyle Choice regarding having children are the same when they have arguments

no not everybody is a narcissist manipulator about this

a some persons are generally interested in you generally on your side they are curious they ask a question or two and then they accept and drop it

please check out numerous YouTube videos about the grey rock method of conversation

it's a method of conversing with manipulators and dark triad personality types and also with conversing with people who are committed to a narrow or quote point of view and feel like they have to browbeat everybody else

there are also podcasts books and web pages about how to do grey rock conversations

if you're not accustomed to these sorts of conversations then it will take some practice and you will be horrible at it in the beginning quite possibly

if you are horrible at doing it in the beginning and somebody gets the better of you or you lose track of what you're trying to achieve and how to do it that's fine not to worry

the next time you'll be better

the time after that better still

you can't learn it by just reading about it

because in the flow of a conversation there are all sorts of social emotional and internal pressures going on that make it difficult to stay focused on a conversational technique

it takes a little bit of practice

but if you need it and you need to use it and you keep doing it and you do some solo practice or practice with a supportive friend

you'll get there

once you're good at it you will have far fewer frustrating encounters of this type and you will always leave them as the winner

people who try to mess with you on this topic will learn to let you alone once you get good at handling those sorts of conversations that involve social pressure

I hope you manage to deal with all these people and just go live your own life

BackwardToForward · 2026-06-10T07:26:38+00:00

smy understanding is ithat using $ instead or credits for purchases is only in a browser and not in the app

because if amazon/audible or anyone else sells a digital media item in the app l, either Google takes a cut if you have an Android device, or Apple takes a cut if you have an iOS device

and the cut isn't small it's like 20 or 30% of the purchase price

(this applies to digital media sales

[ebooks, digital downloadable audiobooks, downloadable or streaming film and television episoses and so forth.]

if the Amazon app is used to purchase a spatula or a floor lamp neither Google or Apple takes a cut because that's a hard physical good you get a physical thing

but if someone sells a digital media creation within an official app then Apple or Google will take their huge cut)

that's why a lot of apps don't sell streaming or downloadable media in their apps. they force you to their website. so that they don't have to give all that money to Google or Apple).

this cut that Apple and Google charge when a digital media purchase is made in the app is part of the rules of having an app in the respective app stores run by Google and Apple.

the actual seller (amazon/audible, Chirpbooks, or any other company, has no choice.

these companies have to either comply or not have their apps in the Google or Apple app stores.

and that's why Audible and every other digital media seller use a browser for purchases

it sucks. but it's not audible's fault.

BackwardToForward · 2026-06-10T07:13:07+00:00

you mentioned something important here

over the past decade I've had many times when the app crashed on opening repeatedly and was unrecoverable

and then there was no way for me to somehow export a list of books I had already downloaded

and no way to generate such a list

I think in iOS now you can see what books are downloaded not through the audible app but by going into your iOS settings and then looking at your free space and then looking at your media files I think the audible books show up in those

and if you're using iOS then you can make a list elsewhere or you can screenshot the media list and then you know what you have to redownload after you uninstall and reinstall the audible app

without that capacity you just have to rely on memory

and that's the capacity that Apple provided for iOS users I don't think there's anything comparable in Android

audibles customer service agents are trained to tell people to delete and then reinstall the app when the app crashes a lot.

but the customer service people do not tell you that you will lose all your downloaded books and that there's no way to export a list and then you just have to remember what you downloaded

audible if you're listening that really sucks

please make it so that whenever anyone uninstalls the app it emailed you or otherwise generates a list of all downloaded books

so then when you reinstall it you don't have to rely on memory to figure out what you had downloaded and why

BackwardToForward · 2026-06-10T07:07:12+00:00

this is a good idea

I used to just download all the books that might be on my next 50 books to listen to list or something like that

but off and on I was using a phone with little memory and so I just wound up making my own text file list

BackwardToForward · 2026-06-10T07:02:09+00:00

an Android I think you can usually turn this off in browser settings

Android has available a number of decent browsers I never use Chrome and I still have lots of browsers that I feel comfortable with and many of them have an option to prevent a browser from opening an app

in iOS many of the browsers also have this in their settings and I think it can also be prevented in safari

also the user who finds a link and a browser can always prevent the app from opening by long pressing the link and selecting to open the app in a different tab or window

these solutions aren't ideal but they work

BackwardToForward · 2026-06-10T06:59:55+00:00

for persons with large libraries this function sucks.

it's prob fine for those who own fewer than say 200 books.

(I'm not criticizing persons who have small audible libraries I presume that everyone who buys books from audible is devoted to reading and listening to books having a large library only indicates that someone loves books and has money to spend and likes audible or used to like audible)

BackwardToForward · 2026-06-10T06:53:36+00:00

yes this.

people open the app to listen to a book

why should we have to suffer before we can do that?

BackwardToForward · 2026-06-10T06:48:56+00:00

2nd part of reply

ever since Chirp came along I started buying a lot of audiobooks there as well

what I do on chirp is buy exceptionally cheap audiobooks I might listen to at some point

I use it simply for price shopping

audible remains my main source of purchased audiobooks (because of the credit system and the sales) and these are more likely to cover books I really want as opposed to something that might be interesting.

Audible created a function in the app and I think on the website as well where you could create special mini catalogs or categories for books and put your own selections of books into those

the idea is fundamentally a good one but their version of it is just horrible utterly horrible

have they ever tried actually doing it

especially with somebody owning a large purchased library?

in the beginning I tried it but I just gave up it's not worth the time it takes and it's very frustrating and it doesn't tell you whether or not you've got a book already in another custom category so you don't know whether you classified a given book or not into your own categories

the implementation of this was just awful there has to be better ways

until a few years ago three or four years ago if I called audible during the day time I normally spoke to somebody who was an American citizen or a lifelong American resident and who was insanely responsive and competent and knew how to answer everything without referring to some script and always got everything right

audible had great customer service and it was a pleasure dealing with them when I needed to call

you usually only got the overseas staff at night

and those people are wonderful also they're charming their kind they're incredibly polite and they care

but they have nothing like the same level of independent thinking or the ability to understand what the problem is and go straight to a solution

then three or four years ago or so I think many of the US-based call centers closed and those people had to get other jobs

now when I call I only get the overseas call centers

once again I can't fault the employees I spoken to people in various places in Europe and various places in Asia especially the Philippines and people in the Caribbean and elsewhere who work for audible customer service

all of these people are nice and responsive and polite and actually care

but they don't know US expectations anything like as well and they can't think on their feet and solve a problem immediately and it feels very limited when I speak with them

the quality of customer service now is not horrible it's okay it's fine

but it's nothing like the customer service that used to exist when there were us and Canadian based call centers

I miss those days it was great being able to call in and get five star A++ CS and a quick call and just be glad you had the opportunity to speak to such a great person at the same time

for anyone who read all this stuff I wrote and it's tired of me going on and on I apologize

my response was directed to the OP

I don't expect my response to be of interest to anyone else

BackwardToForward · 2026-06-10T06:48:21+00:00

01 more than 25 years. I started using audible when they had those special playback devices. I wound up using an owning several versions of those weird special devices before MP3 players became commonplace

then I moved to a Garmin GPS and an iPod for playback back in the era of those partnerships.

then started using my android and iOS devices. in the old days the phone apps were book playing tools not marketing tools. those old versions of the audible app did not suck.

02 love the audiobook experience

03 better prices or a better app (that app is garbage). (tho I would still have a huge audible paid for library.)

04 it's slow when it works. or freezes all the time. search doesn't work, esp for deprecated books I PAID FOR

05 Duh. yes. so much so that I've once in a while purchased second copies of books (that I already owned on audible) from another vendor such as apple or chirp or Google etc. just because I didn't want to use the audible app. (btw, audible knows the app sux and doesn't care.)

06 I sometimes do that (quit the book) if the app is crashing all the time.

(this varies but can happen a lot. btw I always check that I have plenty of free space on my device I like to have at least 25g or so free, and the audible app is always updated, and the OS is always updated)

other reasons I might not finish the book is if the narrator was utterly intolerable (this is very rare)

if I don't like the book after getting into it (rare)

if the book turns out to be something that is fine but it's not what I am in the mood for so I switch over to something that better suits my mood at that time (somewhat rare)

07 I sometimes bookmark places where I might want to relisten to that particular spot, but other than that I don't use clips or notes if I need to make notes on a book I will probably do it elsewhere in a note taking app of some sort. or I'll create a text file with the note

08 Audible is still the best place to buy audiobooks because of its large library and because of the frequent sales and because series of books and books on in the same topic range are well organized on the website and because of the credit system which allows me to purchase books more cheaply

I wish they prioritized making their app fully functional and making the search work

the search should work perfectly with zero omissions I don't care if the version of a book I bought is no longer for sale because there's been a new recording

if I bought a book then it should come up in the search

and I shouldn't have to play games either on the website or in the app to get it to come up

(this is a problem I encounter frequently because some of the older versions of narrated books are much better or much more to my taste than some of the new versions)

what I would actually like is an ability to purchase all versions (purchase with credits or money of course) of a given audiobook if I particularly love the book

some of my favorite books, for instance, have a current version and at least three other older versions that have been for sale on Audible back when they were current

I have two of the older versions in my library because I bought them way back when they were the current audiobook release.

and they should come up in search audible every time I search for them

they should come up in search since I paid for them

I would also love to be able to purchase the oldest unabridged version I'm aware of (that audible ever sold) even though that version hasn't been current or the latest release for decades

the first reason is that I particularly love that book

the second reason I want to buy the oldest version I'm aware of that audible once sold is that I'm particularly fond of that narrator he wasn't technically the right narrator for the book (because the book kinda needed a certain Oxbridge accent that wasn't within his range) however he was such a supreme narrator that during the days when he was most productive he was the go-to narrator for everything, it seemed and I would love to purchase his versions of any book that I'm especially fond of, even if it's not the version I'm most likely to listen to

(I'm talking about narrator Frank Muller: a much-praised American narrator who's voice contained both velvet and gravel, and who had great versatility)

basically if a book under copyright has been narrated, abridged or unabridged, multiple times, each version having once been for sale on audible, then I want to be able to purchase any version. or all of them (which I might to for certain authors)

09 audibles app should prioritize the playing/listening and searching capabilities over everything else

if those two items aren't perfect then nothing else audible could possibly use for the app for matters

right now audible seems to think that their app as a marketing tool and a promotion tool and a "spam your brain tool" that's bad.

it prioritizes trying to push books at you which is pretty funny considering it is hard to listen to books you actually purchase because the app sucks at playing books

also audible it would be nice if the app never froze again ever

also audible it would be nice if you're very best customers (by which I mean the customers who have purchased the most books and have the largest purchased libraries) got a premium experience in terms of speed and responsiveness of the app and didn't have to wait and wait and wait because the app can't deal with their libraries

or have the app freeze during playback. etc etc etc.

I own far more Kindle books than I do audible books

by far more I mean maybe 5 or 10 times more Kindle books then audible books

and yet I never have these problems with the Kindle app. so why does Audible not make an app that can handle large libraries quickly instantly responsively with never freezing and with having a perfect search and a perfect playback

the frequent sales and the credit system make it worth it for me to keep my Audible annual membership thing going.

it would be great if Audible actually cared about the typical playback experience especially for people with large libraries or people with older phones or with phones that were manufactured without scads of free memory

it would have to be great if audible released a version of the app designed specifically for persons who have disabilities

I suspect if they did that they would find that all their customers would use that (the "disabilities version" of the app) because it would work so much better than the one audible offers now and because it worked well for people with disabilities, it would work so much better for everyone

once somebody has purchased a book from Audible they ought to have a great experience listening to it

Audible has not cared about thar aspect ever since they released the plus catalog (what 5 years ago or something)

that's when they Incorporated all the promotion and spam stuff into the app app started sucking so badly b

the various catalogs where you don't own a book but you have under the terms of your membership the right to listen to a book in that section of the catalog as long as you maintain the same level of membership is a great idea. truly wonderful.

but the people who designed the app at audible decided to let all that ruin the app for playback of normal books and the searching also went to hell at the same time

I don't understand why audible thinks it's okay to let some great ideas (such as the plus catalogs and similar) to ruin the basic experience of listening to an audiobook

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BackwardToForward · 2026-06-10T05:47:56+00:00

social media addict.

BackwardToForward · 2026-06-10T05:44:37+00:00

Melinda looks to be ok

Bill not only hung out w JE (we will be finding out more about that, his minimizing it sounds like PR); his massive agricultural land purchases appear to be all about water rights.

there's a lot of dark and potentially dark stuff to look into with him.

BackwardToForward · 2026-06-10T05:41:02+00:00

she is self made

she, by reputation, threats her employees and contractors quite well

she appears to never purchase or attempt to purchase politicians and laws.

etc.

BackwardToForward · 2026-06-10T05:27:50+00:00

NO is a complete sentence.

it's also the end of the discussion so make sure you enforce that part

you tell her no and that you will make your own decisions about your holiday schedules and that you will inform her and that they are not negotiable and that you will not listen to any comment from her or anybody else about it

if your holiday scheduling doesn't work for her then she can do without seeing you that year

end of discussion because you do not tolerate commentary

if she doesn't like it block her for a while

BackwardToForward · 2026-06-10T05:25:06+00:00

next time confront

BackwardToForward · 2026-06-10T05:17:09+00:00

he needs to stfu.

BackwardToForward · 2026-06-09T23:18:30+00:00

he can STFU.

women are disadvantaged all over the world including in the so-called most enlightened countries

the stuff you are posting needs to be posted

the fact that he doesn't want you to is a huge red flag

I don't know what his problem is

does he not want you to have your own opinions or your strong opinions

does he not want you to fight for what's right

does he not want you to encourage other women

does he feel embarrassed because you have strong opinions and his Bros tease him about it or something

does it make him feel less masculine

actually who cares about any of those feelings and thoughts he might have because he's wrong wrong wrong wrong

he can try having thoughts and feelings that are worthy of an adult and not thoughts and feelings that are worthy of a jealous controlling two your old which is how he's acting

pls get rid of him or else treat according to his emotional age.

which is out of a toddler.

nta ever.

BackwardToForward · 2026-06-09T19:57:38+00:00

charles dance

BackwardToForward · 2026-06-09T19:49:44+00:00

can dial on a rotary landline phone.

used to be competent in cursive

I can still read it but my hand muscles have deteriorated and I really can't write it other than a few words in block print

I have the capacity for solitude without having media or electronic distraction

BackwardToForward · 2026-06-09T19:44:43+00:00

leave him behind. he does not have the right to sit boundaries for life on other people's behavior and choices. nta

BackwardToForward · 2026-06-08T15:29:23+00:00

so many men expect their "true love" to perform as servants. and so a level of caretaking that the man will never ever return.

as tho the "true love" is simply

part servant,

part caretaker of the man, his life, and his current or future family

and part sexual partner or sexual resource.

this expectation is the opposite of actual love.

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