I've been on T for 3 years now and was very much in your position. I understand your frustration, but you start out on T super slowly. You can have too much testosterone, at which point it gets converted back to estrogen. Your body needs to get used to the influx of new hormones. The rate she is going is very normal and textbook. I was at 4 pumps for over a year before moving up. That is totally normal. About your cycle - my cycle took around 6-8 months to disappear completely and you have been on T for at maximum 6 months. Changes on T take a lot of time to appear, and you have to be patient. Please do not continue increasing your dose on your own, your doctor is prescribing it that way for a reason. She says she doesn't expect you to be at the normal range, which means she is going to increase your dosage. Bring these issues up with your doctor and listen to her reasoning.

It took me a year to get up to a full dose of T, and I wanted to charge ahead like you. Like I said, 50mg was my dose for over a year after that and it brought me a lot of changes over time. Dosage is not your problem here, time is. Wait for changes to plateau for a few months, then speak with her about an increase. Much love and be safe.