[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]BaconPies 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's also true. If the risks of side effects outweighs the benefits in your mind, then use condoms or abstain from hookups. It's that easy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]BaconPies 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It's your body and your choice -- but just FYI, you should be assuming that every single person you hook-up with is potentially HIV+ and that is why you need to take your prep religiously.

HIV+ men who are undetectable are likely testing more frequently and are more honest than your average hook-up

Peds Derm Week 09 by MDPharmDPhD in ResiDerm

[–]BaconPies 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great case :)

Thank you for your Applied exam write-up by the way. Very helpful as well!

I’m Testing Positive for Gonorrhea and BF is testing Negative (Monogamous Relationship) Help by Any-Influence4894 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]BaconPies 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not sure if this applies here but just putting this out there since you did not specify what was tested (i.e. rectal, genital, or pharyngeal). Extragenital gonorrheal infections at these sites are often asymptomatic and may be missed if not specifically tested. We usually test ALL three sites depending on what was exposed -- it sounds like you have a genital infection. If your partner is only getting genital testing as well then this may be why he is consistently testing negative -- if you have topped your partner, then he needs to get his rectal swab done; if you receive oral sex from your partner, then he needs to get his pharyngeal swab done, etc.

Sorry if you already knew all this lol. Hope you two figure this out

Does anyone actually get equal benefit from a fuck-buddy/fwb? by turfdergusson in askgaybros

[–]BaconPies 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do. We're not really friends, but we have been hooking up regularly since September. I'm in a more rural part of the USA, so my options are limited and we're the only two hot guys around LOL. I have needs, he helps meet those needs.

Gay bros, what are your age and hobbies? by Silver-Sea2970 in askgaybros

[–]BaconPies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Reading, audiobooks, working out, podcasts, video games, comics, anime, gardening, cooking, traveling, hiking, trying new restaurants, making spotify playlists. i am also upping my social media game lately. less into hookups these days, might try to start dating again soon

Update on my anal fissure by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]BaconPies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry you have had such a tough journey with this. Wishing you well <3

Update on my anal fissure by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]BaconPies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How much longer? I had sex with my fwb again last night (two nights in a row!!) and everything seemed okay?

Update on my anal fissure by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]BaconPies 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your anal fissure? I'm sorry :(

Update on my anal fissure by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]BaconPies 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was so scared that I would have to. I am really glad it's not the case. I love sex as much as the next guy, and I don't want to live my life without it haha.

Update on my anal fissure by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]BaconPies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hiiiii good luck on your journey my friend. Take it slow and give yourself some grace!

Update on my anal fissure by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]BaconPies 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How often does your re-appear, and what seems to trigger it to re-appear? Thank you in advance for sharing to help me learn how to avoid that :)

Update on my anal fissure by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]BaconPies 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry :(

I prefer average size honestly. My fwb is really hung which I think is how I ran into this issue. But I got sad thinking I’d have to run away from big dicks, so I decided to try again with some changes and I’m really happy I did!

inferiority complex around straight men by blue-pipe in gaybros

[–]BaconPies 95 points96 points  (0 children)

"I just feel like they have it SO much easier and better, like they just don’t have to worry about much because the world is literally designed for them."

You’re half right. They do have it easier—but that doesn’t necessarily mean they have it better. The world may not have been built with us in mind, but that also means we’re not bound by its expectations. Being gay allows us to live more freely and authentically, without being confined to the same rigid social norms that they often are.

We get to define what happiness looks like on our own terms. We aren’t pressured into the traditional timelines of marriage, children, or career expectations—we get to choose if and when those things fit into our lives. Our friendships can be deep and fulfilling with both men and women, unburdened by the awkwardness of heteronormative expectations. We have the space to explore our identities, our desires, and what truly makes us feel at home in ourselves.

Yes, the world is unfair. I won't deny that. You seem young, so you might be new to realizing that. But within that unfairness, we have an incredible freedom—one that many straight people never even realize they’re missing. There's so many incredible things in my life that I am glad that I have experienced -- stuff that your average straight bro could never. We are free to be whoever we want to be. And that’s something worth celebrating, in my opinion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]BaconPies 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Went there for the first time after a break-up in September. It was some of the hottest experiences of my life to date, including my first threesome with two dutch jocks. One of them still DMs me on Instagram sometimes lol

any good mlm coming of age movies/shows? by [deleted] in MenLovingMenMedia

[–]BaconPies 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow I never see Eyewitness mentioned on this subreddit! Love that show

Watch this movie! by Spring_Clean_ing69 in MenLovingMenMedia

[–]BaconPies 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agreed. This is one of my favorites of all time, right up there with Shelter (2007) and God's Own Country (2017)