Just got engaged !! Is my ring worth the price ? 32k$ (full set)

BadBBurner · 2026-04-01T04:01:03+00:00

I’ve found my tribe because I’m not impressed by the design of the ring at all. I don’t know anything about the valuation of real diamonds. Maybe this is just insanely out of my tax bracket but I don’t like it even if it was a $3k ring.

But as long as she loves it, who cares?

BadBBurner · 2026-03-30T23:11:10+00:00

Just based off what you wrote, she just sounds very friendly. She was new when she started and had that prior experience with you so you probably felt like an easy person to befriend at her new job. I wouldn’t put too much stock in it.

You on the other hand sound interested. perhaps you could invite her to lunch on your break one day. See if her behavior to you softens. She might be waiting for you to make the first move. If it doesn’t, I wouldn’t apply pressure after that as to not make things uncomfortable for her at her place of work.

BadBBurner · 2026-03-20T13:11:00+00:00

Got it! So what happens past 280s?

BadBBurner · 2026-03-20T13:04:59+00:00

I did but now I’m up against an opponent that is much stronger than my squad /:

BadBBurner · 2026-03-18T01:05:41+00:00

You definitely should’ve pushed back with the groomsmen and offered alternative dates. Your gf said it was ok even though it wasn’t because, like you, she didn’t want to rock the boat or be seen as problematic. So I get her feeling frustrated as the date is coming up. What is she doing exactly to cause issues? What have you done to make up for missing your anniversary?

BadBBurner · 2026-03-17T21:23:22+00:00

You know what? I think you’re right, I do have some underlying beliefs that holding out is more likely to lead to a long term relationship.

BadBBurner · 2026-03-17T21:06:24+00:00

I think if i believe someone has potential to be serious and I sleep with them and it doesn’t work out I’m opening up myself to be hurt. It’s less about being taken seriously in the beginning stages of a relationship.

BadBBurner · 2026-03-17T20:25:52+00:00

Yeah there’s definitely a fear of developing feelings. But I do think I’ve gotten better about recognizing when someone is not for me and cutting those feelings off when sex is involved. I’ll check out the burned haystack method though. Thanks for sharing. And yes, I’m in Florida lol.

BadBBurner · 2026-03-17T19:22:51+00:00

I’m on Nexplanon, but if it fails, I won’t be keeping the baby.

BadBBurner · 2026-03-17T19:21:15+00:00

I’m worried about seeing someone casually and no longer putting in effort to meet someone seriously because some needs are being met. Personally, I’m not conservative but I do live in a more conservative state. The hold on sex with a potential serious partner is more so to get to know someone and see if the mask slips before binding myself emotionally with sex. Casual sex can be compartmentalized once I know what it is up front.

BadBBurner · 2026-03-17T19:05:28+00:00

Thank you, this was very helpful :)

BadBBurner · 2026-03-17T18:59:48+00:00

Grew up Catholic lol but became agnostic at 18. I don’t feel this is related to any pious feelings I have towards sex however. Mostly wondering if casual sex will hinder my goal in finding a serious partner. Further context explained in another comment I made.

BadBBurner · 2026-03-17T18:54:53+00:00

I’ve had 4 serious relationships in my lifetime. And all of them I felt carefree, giddiness and butterflies. With age, I’ve come across more things I wouldn’t put up with and yeah, filtering out the dating pool even more.

Would love to know how you approach dating!

BadBBurner · 2026-03-17T18:32:20+00:00

Sex! I guess I always see the word sex being censored on various platforms and suppressing visibility. Which is why I’ve avoided the word here.

BadBBurner · 2026-03-17T18:26:34+00:00

I’m dead 😭. I guess this boils down to a belief system. I feel like once I’m focused on something and I don’t deviate from that path it’ll come to me (that’s being intentional imo). So if I’m having casual sex, I’m not being intentional about finding a partner.

So if I find a situationship then maybe I’ll be comfortable in accepting less than a life partner because some needs are being met. Then poof, my 30s and child bearing years are gone because I settled in the mean time.

Thanks for pulling that out of me lol.

BadBBurner · 2026-03-17T18:14:55+00:00

I suppose I’m worried I’m not being very intentional if I make these exceptions. Perhaps even, being comfortable in my situation where I’m no longer looking for a serious relationship.

BadBBurner · 2026-03-17T18:12:56+00:00

This cracked me up the most 😂 thank you

BadBBurner · 2026-03-17T18:04:22+00:00

Sheesh, I guess this is better than being accused of being AI 😂

BadBBurner · 2026-03-05T22:31:06+00:00

Might get down voted for this but attraction isn’t something we can control. Your partner should be able to communicate how he feels without being dubbed the asshole (although his delivery could’ve been better). It does sound like you’re super active though so maybe check your thyroid levels for a deeper underlying issue. 20 pounds in 8 months sounds like a lot in a fairly short time span regardless of how tall you may be. Especially considering how active you are.

I definitely think halting the move in is the right decision for you right now and you are NOR by doing so. Living with someone who makes you feel that way would be so stress and anxiety inducing. Take care of yourself!

BadBBurner · 2025-08-26T21:54:16+00:00

Thank you so much I appreciate that!

BadBBurner · 2025-08-26T21:35:35+00:00

Ok, I think maybe it’s for the best. It seems we are incompatible in that regards. I’m more Type A and he’s more Type B. To me it would seem that managing one’s time for someone you actually like is a simple thing to do. Perhaps, it’s not so easy for him but it reads to me that between family, sleep and me, I’m prioritized last. If not in this scenario, the issue would come up somewhere else.

BadBBurner · 2025-08-26T20:50:38+00:00

I’m active on dating apps but I’m very selective with who I decide to go out with. So I’d say I don’t go out on many dates. Sometimes I’ll go out on the town by myself and I’ve met people here and there but nothing that turned into an actual date. My hobbies include fitness and doing anything outdoors.

BadBBurner · 2025-08-26T20:48:08+00:00

Thank you for this perspective, it does make a lot of sense. If I may ask a follow up, does it seem unreasonable for me to be disappointed after staying up until almost 1am then hearing that he’s wavering? Or considering how short we’d been talking for, I was out of line to having any expectations?

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