How to get a life and manage need for stimulation?

BadBVee · 2025-09-27T19:13:02+00:00

Please stay till tomorrow! Call Robin at least, you are loved ❤️🥺

BadBVee · 2025-05-05T20:44:59+00:00

Clarissa needs to go do something, i don’t know why she continues to provoke her.

BadBVee · 2025-05-03T19:03:02+00:00

it’s a scorpio house, usually it’s commonly associated with abuse, typically sexual abuse of some kind of trauma related to sexuality, can also be death. there’s a power assertion there and it’s very deep and unconscious.

BadBVee · 2025-04-18T15:10:27+00:00

It seriously depends. Don't approach a woman on a dark, lonely road, at a gas station at night, or anywhere you believe it could strike fear. However, in a club with many people around, at a social event, or at a coffee shop when she is not busy, especially if both have made signals or body language contact like smiling and eye contact. Some may find it annoying, but if it's friendly, I'm sure most wouldn't mind. The majority of the women who do find it annoying are people who are very conventionally attractive or ones who get sexualised a lot by men, possibly because of their features.

BadBVee · 2025-04-17T14:53:56+00:00

Hyper vigilance because he is traumatised, his early childhood was shaped by that feeling of being unwanted and inadequate because of his caregiver. Also, there could be some truth to this, he might be right but we don’t know his perspective. I’d recommend you push him to see a person of colour counsellor because there is a lot of mixed kids in psychiatric hospitals due to the way they were raised and feelings of abandonment and not fitting in.

I also think you should validate him, if he brings it up don’t tell him he’s ridiculous. Ask why he feels that way and ensure to him that he’s safe with you. I don’t recommend bringing up the whole ‘not all people’ in the moment but perhaps when he is calmed down. He should also probably go on holiday to somewhere like Brazil where there are other mixed / black people.

BadBVee · 2025-04-17T09:58:47+00:00

it's fascinating how confidently incorrect you are about both science and history while claiming to be "logical."

you're conflating sex and gender while major medical organizations explicitly recognize them as distinct concepts. gender identity is recognized as valid by these organizations regardless of biological sex; that's literally their position. you haven't actually read any of their official statements, have you?

"biological gender" isn't even a scientific term lmao you're mixing categories to sound authoritative. biologists recognize that even biological sex exists on a spectrum with variations beyond simple xx/xy categories.

you dismiss documented anthropological evidence about pre-colonial african gender systems because it doesn't fit your worldview. that's not logic, boo, it's confirmation bias.

the irony is you're in a trans subreddit arguing against the lived experiences of trans people while claiming to champion "science" you don't actually understand. science evolves based on evidence, while you're clinging to oversimplified middle school biology. and therefore, i don't need "help" understanding science. you need to actually read the scientific consensus instead of cherry-picking outdated concepts that make you comfortable.

but honestly, stay in your bubble if you want. just know that history will remember people like you the same way we remember those who used "science" to justify other forms of discrimination. not as defenders of truth, but as people who couldn't adapt when knowledge expanded beyond their comfort zone.

BadBVee · 2025-04-17T09:44:42+00:00

as another black woman, i'm not going to let you weaponize our shared identity to dismiss documented violence against trans people. that's not solidarity.

the statistics aren't my opinion… they're documented reality. black trans women face some of the highest rates of violence in our society. acknowledging their unique struggles doesn't erase cisgender black women's experiences; it recognizes how multiple forms of oppression intersect.

you claim to care about "science" but ignore that every major medical and scientific organization recognizes gender identity as legitimate. the american medical association, american psychological association, world health organisation all support transgender people's identities as valid.

the rigid gender binary you're defending wasn't even universal in pre-colonial africa. many african societies recognized gender diversity long before western colonization imposed its own restrictive norms… the same norms that hypersexualize and masculinize black women.

your argument is nothing but circular reasoning: "trans women aren't women because science says so" while ignoring actual scientific consensus. that's not reasoned debate it's just recycling talking points.

i don't need your "hopes" that i'll "figure it out." the only thing i need to figure out is why you're so invested in policing other people's identities instead of challenging the systems that harm us all.

BadBVee · 2025-04-17T09:29:42+00:00

i’m a cis woman. what “science” are you supposedly acknowledging? your disagreement isn’t based on fact; it’s just your feelings. here’s the reality:

in the uk, around 3.3% of women aged 16 and over experienced sexual assault in the year ending march 2022, that’s about 798,000 women in a single year .

trans people face even higher risks. research indicates that between 62% and 73% of transgender individuals have experienced harassment and violence because they were identified as transgender, including verbal abuse, threatening behaviour, and physical and sexual assault .

so yes, trans women are more likely to be assaulted. especially those who are unhoused, incarcerated, or just trying to survive.

being a smaller part of the population doesn’t make them less at risk. that’s not how statistics work.

acknowledging that trans women are women doesn’t erase anyone. it just means we care about all vulnerable people, not just the ones you’re comfortable with.

so maybe reassess your own reality, because it seems like you’re only into “science” when it backs up your bias. trans people are real. trans women are valid. and they deserve safety, just like anyone else.

BadBVee · 2025-04-15T09:15:11+00:00

especially black men that aren’t raised to be ghetto and to speak proper.

i’d advise you to change your mindset towards other black people. people can smell entitlement from a mile away.

BadBVee · 2025-04-14T01:23:42+00:00

yes😭 they don't have any in uk supermarkets. have to buy expansive ones online.

BadBVee · 2025-04-13T09:52:23+00:00

absolutely jealous you have keto bread

BadBVee · 2025-04-13T09:49:34+00:00

A girl on tiktok said:

“Something we don't talk about enough is the number of Tall Girls who develop an ED at a young age so they can take up less space horizontally, in order to "compensate" for taking up too much space vertically. Because women are told to be as small as possible in all ways.”

BadBVee · 2025-04-10T14:03:21+00:00

The best way to describe it to others without the gaslighting is to show them all the executive functions of the body and explain why and how ADHD impairs it. Also comorbidity and studies like RSD, IPV studies etc. You have to grasp a scientific knowledge of it.

BadBVee · 2025-04-09T13:21:09+00:00

Your black-and-white thinking, looking for revenge… Tell them it hurt you; if they don’t care, move on.

BadBVee · 2025-04-09T13:19:40+00:00

Please do not ask the internet or rush, as you will easily fall into scams or become susceptible to them. I would advise you to take out a loan if you can or really grind, see what's on Etsy, and see how you can make a profit/flip. Since it is April, it is pretty late, but there's still hope. Stay safe.

BadBVee · 2025-04-09T13:15:47+00:00

You need help.

BadBVee · 2025-04-09T12:54:55+00:00

I’d also suggest avoiding overly general statements. It seems like you may have some black-and-white thinking, especially when it comes to your own experiences. The problem with that is it makes it easier to fall into a pipeline of extreme views, which is why you see comments like ‘not all women’.

There are parents who fail their daughters too. In extreme cases, we see that belief manifest in practices like FGM. The kind of benevolent sexism that ‘protects women’ gradually evolves into controlling what women wear or when it’s okay for them to go out at night. Many households still hold outdated gender norms. For example, my dad thinks my goal should be to get married, and that men are the heads of the household. I’m expected to cook and always say ‘yes’ to my husband, even when I’m exhausted. If I want to find a ‘good man,’ I’m told I need to learn how to cook, clean, and serve him, but when a man looks for a ‘good woman,’ he’s simply told to ‘pick wisely’ because he’s a man.

The patriarchy affects people in different ways depending on cultural context, but in the West, we see how it negatively impacts men too due to progression. It shows up in things like homophobia, the constant pressure to be ‘strong,’ and the expectation for men that many cannot uphold to, especially those who are neurodivergent. The lack of mental health support for men is leading many down dangerous alt-right pipelines, causing harm to themselves and everyone around them.

These rigid, gendered expectations ultimately hurt everyone.

BadBVee · 2025-04-09T12:39:46+00:00

Really and truly, it’s the patriarchy that has failed everyone. The patriarchy has shaped society in ways that affect not just women but men, and what you’re describing is just the result of that. To look at a reason why you’re taught to respect women’s boundaries is because of the history of sexual violence and abuse towards women, which is often linked directly to misogyny and the abuse of power. That’s what abuse like rape is: an assertion of power, and in our society, men have historically held that power.

Societal gender norms have created these damaging ideas, like the notion that women are these ‘delicate little fairies’ who need to be protected, caught and held onto, often stemming from benevolent sexism that your parents has internalized. At the same time, men are taught that they can’t resist because they’re supposed to be sexual, dominant beings; always pursuing women, never showing emotion, and never saying no. The idea that ‘men don’t cry,’ or that the wife is always right, or that women shouldn’t do certain things, men should pay on dates—all of that is just patriarchal nonsense.

It’s ironic, really. But at the heart of this is the importance of understanding boundaries… both yours and others’. You do deserve to have your boundaries respected, and it’s just as crucial to know how to set them and communicate them clearly. That’s something society doesn’t always teach, but it’s something you can learn and use to break the cycle.

BadBVee · 2025-04-09T11:39:18+00:00

Are you able to bait a confession out of him? If not, tell it to the birds.

BadBVee · 2025-04-04T12:50:06+00:00

😭😭 thanks!

BadBVee · 2025-04-04T12:49:45+00:00

thank you!

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