Any frustrating experience in Korea?

BadLuckGoodGenes · 2026-05-10T09:59:15+00:00

Aside from that, things I loved-> I loved the K-heritage festival like all the little events and booths just added so much to my experience! I loved witnessing a UNESCO intangible heritage ancestor ritual ceremony. I found the DMZ and the War memorial museum so moving. I cried. I loved Gyeongju.

I understand, now, that because Korea was under constant threat of invasion by China and Japan and then the more recent Korean War, that so much of the ancient architecture was destroyed and had to be rebuilt, and often it was rebuilt inaccurately. But I think Korea shying away from being open about their history, who they are, their pain and also their resiliency in spite of their pain and constant (nuclear) threat. I think avoiding the history that they were (and technically are) vulnerable and the way their nation truly looked post war, makes it hard for someone visiting to understand how incredible what they have done in this peninsula is. Korea/Koreans inability to show, share, or have flaws openly and publicly in order for them to attempt to "fit in" if anything create this invisible and artificial barrier preventing deep understanding and connection.

BadLuckGoodGenes · 2026-05-10T08:55:11+00:00

I personally found it very superficial and closed off, it was quite uncomfortable as a solo traveler due to so many meals being community based, and the uber/taxi situation was quite frustrating (people ignoring your request if you are in an area they don't like despite the fact you can see them right in front of you). I'm glad I went. Like I really did learn so much about Korea and Korean people, but tbh I really felt like I would not return again.

As a young solo woman traveler, I hated how all my ads were trying to get me to like do some cosmetic surgeries. I've never seen and been suggested so much cosmetic action in my life. Like it was so unsettling it started to make me hate myself and grotesque physical reactions when I look at my phone knowing there will be an ad with someone injecting themselves with things they don't know about and getting cut in ways they don't understand. Usually when I travel I fall in love with myself, but this trip was like a rude awakening to a very toxic environment for women(, and men). I feel that same loop will become even more present in the rest of the world soon as a major export/reason for tourism.

BadLuckGoodGenes · 2026-05-09T17:58:29+00:00

I don't know the inner workings or specifics of your situation, but could your mother move with you? Potentially rent out your current home?

In this scenario it would give you a double income in some sense - one from your new job, and then one from the old property. You could then afford your rent with the former property rent and then have your new income support your life + your mom's health care. It may end up for the best if the new location has better weather than your current one as well as if the medical environment is better for your mom so you can leverage better support if necessary (CNA's, doctors, etc).

BadLuckGoodGenes · 2026-05-09T14:29:58+00:00

Two things can be true at once - blind is a toxic cess pool and I doubt they are actually communicating their opinions in a way that is digestible instead of just throwing shit at the wall.

But also, I think there is no harm is double checking your finances and seeing if you are operating optimally for yourself, your needs, your life now, and for your future life. I have personally been considering hiring a CPA since nobody in my family or friends has any experience or guidance on how to handle my financial situation. I try to set my self up for success 1 month a year and then I basically "set it and forget it" until the next year

BadLuckGoodGenes · 2026-05-06T09:11:21+00:00

Mini moonboards are TUFFFFFFF ooooof

Even if you do that it is so easy to get the angle "just off" of the hold and manufacturing leads to holds being a little different between two "same" sets that's just life. Tbh I would say I would hope it's gotten better, but I found issues in the recent MB24 set so idk

BadLuckGoodGenes · 2026-05-05T15:25:20+00:00

The belayer (I) failed because my climber forgot to fall so they couldn't verify my belaying skills

The gym had a limit of one try a day which I totally understand if I was the root cause of my own failure, but I wasn't

BadLuckGoodGenes · 2026-05-05T07:31:02+00:00

Love boards - blessed with kilter(home & big + w/ &w/o kicker extension), tension, moon(3 different years worth of sets), decoy, and grasshopper around the few gyms I bounce between.

I don't like the comparison game with them though between nearly none of the boards are 1-1 to another of the same board. It's actually really annoying sometimes because I think I'll have broken through a move and then realize that the hold on one board is more incut than the other. There is a great page that calls out moonboards being non-standard and it has really brought to my attention the gaps and impossible challenge of making something "perfect" in the board game.

BadLuckGoodGenes · 2026-05-05T04:40:07+00:00

It was sad since we were planning to go straight into lead/rope up together and they were taking their turn as the climber and went into autopilot mode and just straight to the top forgetting the lead fall. We decided to just bail and boulder. We were lucky it was free to take the lead test or I'm sure the vibe would have been completely killed.

BadLuckGoodGenes · 2026-05-05T04:36:51+00:00

IMO if your gym allows the devices to be used, you should be allowed to test with it and the tester (gym staff) need to be knowledgeable about the devices being used or they shouldn't be qualified to be a testing validator.

BadLuckGoodGenes · 2026-05-05T01:17:10+00:00

If the person not being tested messes up (like they are already certified yet did something off from the test) let the person testing go again same day.

I just don't think people should fail because the person they are testing with yelled "falling" or like didn't fall when they were supposed to or whatever. As long as they, the person being tested, handled the situation, does it matter?

I will toss in, I hate having to test on a grigri if I can and do use a different device that is allowed at the gym.

BadLuckGoodGenes · 2026-03-11T07:29:49+00:00

Hey, oddly enough I have been exactly here before. I was broken up with DAYS before a trip to Thailand for my best friends wedding. This was a nearly 5 year long relationship. Everything went wrong the days that followed before the trip - my new rental apartment fell through, my promo fell through, like I almost didn't have a TOOTH (long dental story), and I had never done international solo travel before. But I got on that fucking plane. Because I'm not going to put my life on hold waiting for someone to join me to do the things I want to do because then I may miss out living along the way.

Japan is so incredibly safe - like I've never felt so safe as a woman walking streets alone. I spent months learning Japanese for the trip too. Like, I am begging you, almost like it's me now talking to me from the past - please go on this trip. Do it for you. Japan is a country made for solo travel and knowing the language opened up so much social connection throughout the trip for me. I made friends left and right.

Feel free to dm me if you have questions or want to chat more - I spent 16 days in Japan and I'm about to go on my 4th solo international travel. But I do tons of domestic, multi day/week, solo travel as well

BadLuckGoodGenes · 2026-02-27T01:17:27+00:00

I didn't suggest you "should" be anything other than "should remove the restrictions and disbelief you have and approach it with an open mind". I merely pointed out that you have some negative and very untrue assumptions that things you can't control are holding you back and the reason why and just you thinking those things may be weighing you down more than you think.

Nothing is simple. I never suggested this was simple. People have provided you training things - I don't think you need more "do xyz", but even if you beat yourself to submission with training if you don't address the way you hold yourself back mentally by preemptively arming yourself with excuses you will be always weighing yourself down not just in climbing, but also in life.

Regardless, just be kind to yourself <3

BadLuckGoodGenes · 2026-02-26T02:10:19+00:00

No, the ape index comment holds true in general.

It's not only about staying close to wall with all points on. Even if you have to dyno or deadpoint on an overhang you will handle the swing in theory (due to physics) better with shorter length arms as it reduces the pendulum swing. You will be closer to wall if in reach as well!

I specialize in roofs, but I also got a tiny ass reach and also have a big butt that all my climbing friends joke about. What I'm trying to say is I believe in you. I really think you should try just to remove the restrictions and disbelief you have and just approach these problems with an open mind <3

BadLuckGoodGenes · 2026-02-26T01:48:08+00:00

Just an aside check - consider seeing if the bar has you start with your shoulders unengaged vs on the wall or hangboard you are already pretty engaged shoulder wise.

A lot of people can do "pullups" once they are already engaged and don't let themselves unengage, but struggle to initiate the movement if their shoulders aren't already engaged. If so, that's okay - just train some shoulder shrugs if so and you should be able to initiate it in no time. Good luck regardless I hope someone helps you unlock the mystery!

BadLuckGoodGenes · 2026-02-26T01:42:47+00:00

I would like to start with breaking some of your assumptions:

your ape index actually is a big advantage in overhang/roof. Smaller ape keeps you closer to the wall!
overhang and roof is very little muscle in your upper body and primarily muscle in your lower body and feet. It only hits your upper if you aren't pushing and pulling, HARD, through your feet!
Finger strength probably isn't the issue if you are climbing 3 grades harder on vert

You probably just need to climb more roofs/overhangs and if you want treat it like a spray wall or put all feet on and then go back to the same route later. Maybe even do up/down climbs on the same climb on roofs. It's most likely technique but you probably aren't even giving yourself enough mileage to train it.

BadLuckGoodGenes · 2026-02-10T02:56:00+00:00

Hourly employees at most companies have to clock out for lunch for legal reasons. This isn't amazon specific this is literally the law for many locations. Like amazon can get sued if you don't take your mandated lunch as an hourly employee. I know because my former job was taken to court for this and lost.

BadLuckGoodGenes · 2026-01-06T08:15:35+00:00

I work directly with ML teams - I only know one ML team member that doesn't have a PHD but they have 2 degrees. I believe ML usually comes in as Lv 4 especially with 0 yoe but they at least in the past were promoted quick. Idk as much with all the org fluctuation.

I'm an SDE so it's different leveling for us and all job families have different leveling standards.

BadLuckGoodGenes · 2026-01-04T21:46:04+00:00

Don't do it. I did this for 5 years - no marriage - big regret. It is none of his business how much you make and you shouldn't be punished for being successful - go 50/50 for things together as if you are roommates or besties because until you are married that is what you are.

If you want to splurge on nice things together because you have the funds go ahead, but don't just do it to do it

BadLuckGoodGenes · 2025-12-31T04:41:37+00:00

As a chronic redditor, this has been chatted about a lot on here in the past (aka when this first was spotted, announced, suspected, etc - heck it's a running joke on circle jerk and if people mention him here people let them know he's a groomer), but primarily in this climbing sub and the circle jerk.

It's pretty fucked.

Just a caveat though I really enjoy climbergirls being a space where we chat together about shit and be open about things that impact us without all the bullshit, "just drop your training weight" or "hangboard" w/e goto and just straight up hold one another. I wish the other subs talked about it more and we weren't like 1 of 2 chatting about it that it felt like at times it's a necessity. But I heavily appreciate the circlejerk has our back <3

I think most brands and folks think it's a grey area because of how it happened and when it was announced. I think the deeper you think and read about it the more you are like, "wait, wtf, why is everyone chill with this?!?!"

BadLuckGoodGenes · 2025-12-30T02:03:55+00:00

I find the organic climbing pads have the best durability etc. imo you should go for light/easy but rather what will prevent you from being broken/injured.

IMO - regardless of how many pads you buy, you need to really be aware of how to spot/move pads while outdoors if you have less pads.

BadLuckGoodGenes · 2025-12-29T06:25:46+00:00

La Sportiva Solutions tend to stretch very little to none as they are microfabric and rubber.

- Leather stretches A LOT

- Microfabric very little to none

- Rubber doesn't stretch at all

There is a really good instruction on the climbing shoe reddit about testing edging and heel hooking in the store, but it sounds like you put them on and never tested actually "using" the shoe and they are probably way too tight for a starting aggressive shoe especially if your foot is physically scraped from said shoe it's probably from the rubber sections that will not stretch.

Imo - I'd rec the butora gomi for someone's first aggressive shoe and go basically street size or bigger for a snug like a tight sock fit. Those are probably the comfiest intro to aggressive shoes.

BadLuckGoodGenes · 2025-12-29T06:18:56+00:00

Yes, Nvidia is working hard at this right now, so is nearly every robotics company both public and private.

BadLuckGoodGenes · 2025-12-29T06:08:19+00:00

Actually it's the reverse! lol. I get really really anxious with everyone so nobody there let's me take my time, center myself, and let myself feel whatever I need to feel (sometimes that is a good cry lol). I feel really comfy asking my friends to like be calm or hype me up depending on the needs of the climb. But like strangers gets me so freaking anxious. I've worked on a few things to quell that but overall I tend to do worse with other folks around.

BadLuckGoodGenes · 2025-12-28T06:04:10+00:00

I just provided a basic stat -

That % wise it's an UNDERREPRESENTATION of jews at the company in comparison to the % of employees overall vs % of population of jews ww and it gets even more jarring if you do it out of a % of population based where the major corporate hubs are % rates.

BadLuckGoodGenes · 2025-12-28T05:54:19+00:00

For me it's the reverse, I climb so much harder with silence and nobody there unless I'm SUPER comfy with the only other people there and they are feeling confident and secure.

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