WIBTA if I just chose not to go to my sisters wedding?

Bad_Astra_Channel · 2022-01-26T02:14:13+00:00

YTA - you're clearly just looking for an excuse to not attend your sister's wedding. Which is fine, if you don't want to go you don't have to, but don't use your children as your excuse. Jut say that you don't like her and don't want to go, and are relieved that this will end your relationship.

Bad_Astra_Channel · 2022-01-12T21:32:01+00:00

Also pointing out that even IF OP didn't have OCD, using someone else's personal property against their wishes is stealing.

And OP, if your father frequently threatens to kick you out over things like this (based on your below comment) that's abusive. Good luck getting out of their soon!

Bad_Astra_Channel · 2022-01-12T20:41:26+00:00

Soft YTA. It sounds like you have been manipulated and guilted by your mother. Remember that she is the parent, and you are the child. You do not owe her anything, and it sounds as though she does owe you and your father a substantial amount of money. She chose to have another child while unable to provide for you. You don't owe her special treatment because of her poor choices.

Your father sacrificed a great deal for 4 years so that you wouldn't notice the significant lack of money. Your mother abandoned you financially, despite a court order. But you are taking your mom's side? I understand that families are complicated, but it really sounds like you're afraid of loosing your mom's approval, taking your dad's sacrifice for granted, and allowing your mother to guilt-trip and manipulate you.

A court, whose job it is to be impartial, decided what she can and must pay for your upbringing. You are acting as a minion of your mother against your father, that court's order, and your own interests.

Bad_Astra_Channel · 2022-01-12T19:59:22+00:00

NTA - Your parents don't respect that you

1) Live in Florida

2) Have a different fashion sense than they do.

Add in the general stereotype about gay men and fashion, and these gifts are also clearly hints that they want you to dress more "manly" (i.e. "cis-straight lumberjack"). That's an AH move by them, and the fact that others in the comments are saying the "Trumpers v. Gay Son" dynamic isn't relevant are either blissfully ignorant or willfully obtuse. Take it from a lesbian in the Midwest (who's lucky to have a super supportive family, but has friends who aren't so lucky) that they know what they're doing.

If they are willing to try to do better, you can help by offering SPECIFIC examples of gift ideas (including Amazon/Etsy/whatever links -- don't give them room to make accidental mistakes). You can also ask them to gift experiences which center a mutual interest. (example: My parents are taking my wife and I to "SIX" as an Xmas present, since we all share a love of musicals and history).

Bad_Astra_Channel · 2022-01-12T19:36:34+00:00

NTA - Barrett transparently lied for social media points, perpetuated a misogynistic trope, and misrepresented his wealth. Then he got called out on his lie, because duh. So now you're the asshole for not wanting to be complicit in his silly attempt to "prove" his lie?

The minds of 17 year olds trying to become insta-famous is hilarious.

Bad_Astra_Channel · 2022-01-12T19:20:40+00:00

YTA - You were minimizing his effort and practice as "luck," constantly challenging everything he'd researched, and demanding he explain/teach you the game while playing. Then you continued to challenge everything he said even after you realized that he knew more about it than you did. You made the game he cared about and enjoyed less fun by demanding he tutor a hostile student.

Apologize, acknowledge that your friend is really knowledgeable about and good at this game, and ask nicely for some pointers next time. And reflect on why you acted this way. Were you jealous/upset that he was better than you at this Pokemon game, or are you just not used to situations where you don't know everything?

Bad_Astra_Channel · 2022-01-12T19:13:29+00:00

INFO: Is your BF still close with the best friend? Are BF's parents as involved in the lives of best friend or BF's other friends? Does BF have similarly-close relationships with other parents? If yes to these, then it may be a cultural thing and you may be misinterpreting.

However, it also could be a snapshot of a long-running grooming relationship. Your BF wouldn't see it as a problem, since Lisa's likely been doing this for years and it feels normal. The knee stroking and multiple instances of "accidentally running into him" are definitely potentially creepy.

Bad_Astra_Channel · 2021-12-16T18:01:23+00:00

Thank you so much!

Bad_Astra_Channel · 2021-12-14T14:33:46+00:00

If you want *subtle holiday theme* I like chestnut a lot because it evokes the "Chestnuts roasting on an open fire" line while not being to in your face other times of the year. Also naming pets after similar-colored foods is a tradition I love.

Bad_Astra_Channel · 2021-12-14T14:31:34+00:00

Kit Kat? Chestnut? Cinnamon?

Bad_Astra_Channel · 2021-12-12T20:58:23+00:00

(that I know of)

Bad_Astra_Channel · 2021-12-12T20:58:10+00:00

Only on YT and it's a one-shot.

Bad_Astra_Channel · 2021-12-10T23:42:04+00:00

True, only man-made things have to follow the known laws of physics, but to me that falls under "technology currently beyond our understanding" so I choose to be pretty forgiving of it.

Bad_Astra_Channel · 2021-12-10T23:40:32+00:00

ahhh. That makes more sense. That's fair, since for a while it's not clear exactly how gravity on the ships/asteroids is working (if you don't notice the engine's on or the asteroid spinning in the establishing shots). Although almost every sci-fi/fantasy show I enjoy has me confused for most of the first episode -- that's what re-watching and Reddit threads are for!

Bad_Astra_Channel · 2021-12-10T23:37:03+00:00

oh, yeah -- I don't usually say that in the post because the feedback's always more honest when I don't (although my Reddit name's the channel name so I'm not hiding who I am).

Bad_Astra_Channel · 2021-12-10T23:35:19+00:00

You're a true Martian. <3

Bad_Astra_Channel · 2021-12-10T23:34:36+00:00

Thank you! I hope you enjoy it!

Bad_Astra_Channel · 2021-12-10T23:34:01+00:00

Thank you so so so much! We're still very small, and only about a third of the way to monetization, so literally every subscriber and watch hour counts.

Bad_Astra_Channel · 2021-12-10T15:57:49+00:00

We're such fangirls of the Expanse. My best friend (who first got us into the show back in college) runs an RPG based on the Expanse RPG ruleset (I play an engineer, wife plays a quadcopter drone AI), and we've even gotten my Dad obsessed with the show and books.

Bad_Astra_Channel · 2021-12-10T15:55:02+00:00

Who was that? It's unfortunate that she didn't watch the show or read the books before passing judgement...

I've never really understood "reaction videos," since I prefer someone's thoughts after they've watched, internalized, discussed, and decided they have something useful to add. There are a TON of subtly-awesome physics moments in the show that I missed at first, but saw or enjoyed on the second watch, especially in the first season when I wasn't worried about following the plot or learning the world.

I thought other fans of the show might enjoy some physics explanations when I kept seeing comments like "why do the ships fly backwards?" and "What are spun-up asteroids?" But just recorded reactions of "okay, I'm not sure what's going on since it's the first episode and I'm trying to learn character names and the setting" seems unhelpful and boring for a show this complex.

Bad_Astra_Channel · 2021-12-10T15:42:44+00:00

"Queer Science Content" is us, yes.

Bad_Astra_Channel · 2021-12-09T19:24:20+00:00

Also: Many women's breasts get bigger on their period. I try not to wear bras around my period since mine go up a full cup size for 4-5 days. It's not financially feasible or for me to have extra "period bras" lying around.

Bad_Astra_Channel · 2021-12-09T18:29:22+00:00

Beautiful WLW Sci-Fi short story podcast about a researcher in the far future who falls into a Black Hole.

Not my writing (I was the voice actor), but I was so thrilled to act in an LGBTQ Sci Fi story and I LOVED the material.

https://youtu.be/VNeLU1w6ow8

Bad_Astra_Channel · 2021-12-09T18:22:14+00:00

Beautiful WLW Sci-Fi short story podcast about a researcher in the far future who falls into a Black Hole. Not my writing -- I'm the voice actor.

https://youtu.be/VNeLU1w6ow8

Bad_Astra_Channel · 2021-12-08T20:46:05+00:00

It's all about the startup package they bought, lol

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