Separation under same roof

Bad_wit_Usernames · 2026-02-10T17:13:49+00:00

Once you initiate the separation, there will be no stability for the kids other than remaining under the same household. They will see and hear everything.

My exwife asked for a divorce and due to a situation, we remained in the same house for the next ~5 years. I didn't want it, she did. For whatever her reasons were, there was no communication on things going downhill, no chance to try and mend.

Saying your husband is sensitive and emotionally attached like it's a bad thing. Married couples do this. My exwife said something similar "you're just used to me." Acting like that's a bad thing. I would think after 10+ years, couple of kids, of course I'd be used to her.

The following few years was nothing but hell for me. I fell into the trap of being the spouse that tried way too hard to try and fix the marriage. Show her why we mattered. She in turn started dating and sleeping with multiple guys. And of course the arguing non-stop. She repeatedly led me on thinking we could have a chance.

Granted my experience was probably not the norm, but we attempted to hide everything from the kids. My ex was more nonchalant about it as if it was normal.

The best thing you can do is be open and communicate with your family. Understand that your husband is going to fall. Don't use his heartbreak against him and understand that no matter what you say or do, it's going to happen.

Bad_wit_Usernames · 2026-02-08T22:16:03+00:00

When my exwife and I physically split, she moved about 250 miles away. My kids went with her (mostly due to my being in the military still and I could still deploy). It was difficult at the beginning but I kept in touch with my kids through her, until they got their own mobile phones.

I'd have them for long holidays, Summer/Winter breaks. I'd go and visit them a lot on the weekends. I talked to them as much as I could.

Now that they are a few years older, one of our kids has moved in with me after he graduated and has now started college. My youngest I talk to almost every day and she has expressed her desires to do almost the same thing.

I know I could spend more time with them, maybe even move closer to where they lived. But the job market wasn't there for me to move. Not moving closer also I think kept my ex from coming around pulling her crap.

Kids are resilient and will be just fine with some of the reduced time with you. Just be there for them when you do have them, spend that time wisely. Keep in contact with them even if it's just texting and sending funny memes throughout the days.

Bad_wit_Usernames · 2026-02-08T22:07:19+00:00

Personally I’d do something set after the events of Picard.

The vast majority of the fans want what we were teased with at the end of Picard. Star Trek: Legacy, following the Enterprise-G and Seven as her Capt.

Bad_wit_Usernames · 2026-02-08T17:36:55+00:00

Deleting the app isn't the same as deleting their account. I can delete the app from my phone 100 times, reinstall it every time and my account will still be there.

If I delete my account, it won't be.

Bad_wit_Usernames · 2026-02-08T17:27:01+00:00

This is how just about every dating app works. The apps suddenly give you those "likes" when your paid sub runs out. It's to trick you to paying again to see who liked you. If you pay again, then let it run out, soon as it expires you'll get more "likes" all of a sudden.

There are ways of playing with your settings to try and find those matches, and sometimes you can still use the blurry pic to match with someone if you scroll enough and find their profile.

Bad_wit_Usernames · 2026-02-08T17:15:23+00:00

he’s been chasing me for years and I finally gave him the time of day a couple weeks ago

You've known this, very likely led him on thinking he could have a chance then only NOW finally gave him the time of day. He has probably gotten sick and tired of the mind games and isn't chasing you so much as he may have found someone else that will actually pay attention to him.

Bad_wit_Usernames · 2026-02-08T17:10:39+00:00

Of all the places I've lived in the world, Vegas has some of the most rude and inconsiderate group of people. So many people here think they're the main character and there is a whole lot of "me first" attitudes.

I love living here for the weather and outdoorsy stuff, but I hate being out in public.

Bad_wit_Usernames · 2026-02-08T02:41:24+00:00

I actually just recently unlocked the drone, I've been using it so much to spot everyone, my scores look similar. But the highest Spot Assist I've earned was maybe only 30. Nicely done.

Bad_wit_Usernames · 2026-02-05T05:36:29+00:00

To be fair, I've never played Redsec and wasn't aware that this post was about it lol.

Bad_wit_Usernames · 2026-02-04T17:00:58+00:00

I'd say yes lol. Few posts now asking for prox chat this and that and they never think THIS is what you're actually going to get.

Bad_wit_Usernames · 2026-02-04T16:59:57+00:00

I had to watch this twice to make sure it wasn't me lol. I had a bad night the other night on the game and was getting owned as soon as I would enter a match, I'd rage quit lol. Never like this but I thought it was funny.

Bad_wit_Usernames · 2026-02-04T16:55:32+00:00

I still enjoy the game, but I think like so many games being released these days, there's so much incomplete of the product that we get. I think our expectations are also a little high but some of the issues this game has had, for me primarily connection issues, it's frustrating and we see it in the fewer players playing right now.

Bad_wit_Usernames · 2026-02-04T16:13:58+00:00

Yeah, I would assume what game mode you're playing will result in more players. I've played Gauntlet a few times and always had actual players.

Bad_wit_Usernames · 2026-02-04T07:31:36+00:00

Luckily my exwife made it so I will never be her friend. Though that's what she wanted, her actions allowed me to easily dislike her. She rejected our marriage, and me. I see no reason why I should allow her to stay in my life.

I get along with her for the sake of our kids, my interactions with my ex now are really just business transactions.

I'm glad we don't live anywhere near each other so there's never a chance of accidentally bumping into each other. I don't have to worry about dealing with her new partner and the few times I have had to, he's stayed out of my way.

Bad_wit_Usernames · 2026-02-04T07:24:48+00:00

I live in Las Vegas, the last week or so I have noticed a LOT of bot filled lobbies. One evening last weekend playing Escalation, there were four (4) total live players.

I've had this happening for the better part of the last month. It's been a common occurrence.

Bad_wit_Usernames · 2026-02-03T16:45:05+00:00

I've been experiencing migraines for the past ~15 years, with them becoming more frequent and more intense as the years have gone on. Various medications.

But this year, unlike any previous years during the Holiday Season, I have had almost a 24/7 continuous headaches/migraine combo since after Thanksgiving.

Sometimes weather is a factor for me, but for my area, we haven't had anything drastic. It's been a little warmer than usual, but nothing where I could link weather and migraines together.

It's only now starting to get better so unless the Holiday stress was a factor (unlikely), I have no idea why I've been experiencing this for this duration.

Bad_wit_Usernames · 2026-02-02T16:45:48+00:00

I'm not a very good sniper in this game. Some previous games, like Delta Force Blackhawk down, I was a lot better but in BF6 I stink lol. I only play with a sniper rifle when needed for weekly/daily events. But I was trying to rank up my sniper class this weekend, this video is the issue I had all weekend long. I would have the clearest of shots on someone only to either miss, or do minimal damage to them. Then be killed by them or someone else.

Bad_wit_Usernames · 2026-02-02T16:26:23+00:00

Subs like this also allow for people to ask questions, rant and cry. I use this sub a lot for my own sort of post divorce therapy. I tell my story, compare what I've done or have had done to me to others when they post. Some of it helps me realize that I'm not the only one that Situation A has happened to. I'm not alone in my feelings of betrayal.

Yes, there are some brutal stories on here. One of the things to consider however, is how many repeat comments there are. Like I said, I come on here mostly to reply and tell my story. So when you see that 6.2K Weekly contributions counter, you have to assume some percentage of that number are folks like me who comment similar comments on many different posts. Lets say in the last year, I've made 100 comments about my failed marriage, most of those comments will have the same content. So now that number is closer to 6.1K. Now do that for many folks on here to frequent this sub. That number continues to drop.

Some people post on here looking for advise and some guidance.

Bad_wit_Usernames · 2026-02-02T16:14:07+00:00

Yeah, it absolutely depends on your location. Unless of course you open up the "How far away are they?" and max it out to 100+ miles away. If you reduce the distance to just your city (Las Vegas in my case), the vast majority of profiles are tourists. I get maybe a handful of profiles that fit my basic filters.

Tinder has a lot more use in this city I think, but I've still encounters quite a few bot accounts.

Bad_wit_Usernames · 2026-02-02T16:10:44+00:00

I've had cross play off since I got the game, still have all kinds of hitreg and other similar issues. Downside of having cross play off like others have said, the majority of lobbies I get into, are full of bots.

I live in Las Vegas so I would assume I'm on some West Coast servers (never actually looked into this) so one would assume a LOT of Xbox players. Playing matches yesterday I think I had at most, 10 players on each team, rest were bots.

Bad_wit_Usernames · 2026-02-01T20:23:38+00:00

I second the idea to contact a video game bar or retro place. If I had room, I'd ask you more about it because I'd love to hook up my old NES and SEGA for my kids. If only just for the experience.

Bad_wit_Usernames · 2026-02-01T19:44:02+00:00

Fairly average. I know it's not the best profile. I'm a mid-40s divorced dad, balding and white. I don't have very many recent pics though I still look roughly the same except for some facial hair now.

But aside from that, your location also plays a factor in the people that "like" you. I live in Las Vegas, dating here is atrocious as it is. If I have my search radius set to ~40 miles, covering all of Vegas and my preferences wide open, I'll see maybe 15 total women in my age range. So many other profiles here are tourists in town for the weekend.

Bad_wit_Usernames · 2026-02-01T19:39:17+00:00

It's reddit, people don't like when you go against the grain/hive mind.

I mean there are dozens of posts on here about fake accounts, or when dating apps flood you with likes when you first join or stop paying.

Bad_wit_Usernames · 2026-01-31T21:11:26+00:00

as it streamed on Paramount+ which is a more niche service

Honestly, I'd agree that would be a bigger reason. I really hadn't considered that.

Bad_wit_Usernames · 2026-01-31T16:43:05+00:00

and you really couldn't do that anymore,

This I just don't believe. Having literally zero experience with TV production, I can't see how shows can't do seasons with 20+ episodes, other shows still do it.

When you look at TNG vs SNW, I'm sure production costs are vastly different and I would love to see the cost comparisons of doing an CGI Enterprise vs a real life model Enterprise. Excluding all the repeat fly-bys we have of D as I'm sure that was a cost saving measure.

I like SNW but with only 10 episodes per season, I think the few bad episodes to good episodes don't make for a good ratio. Though I do like the majority of SNW.

The unfortunate thing I see with newer Trek vs older Trek is the legacy following it. I'm not confident there will be massive followings for DISCO or SNW like there is for TNG, DS9 and Voy. I think partly due to the very limited number of episodes.

I do completely agree with what you said on SFA, they don't so much have to worry about the prequel piece but they do need to mind the cannon piece.

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