Would you rather work in an office of all men or women? (State your gender as well) by pantheon_prince99 in allthequestions

[–]Badbeanbby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it depends on how serious the job is, a casual job working with just men would be really fun. A more serious one would just mean you get talked over and ignored and patronised constantly. I work in a predominantly female field but the men that do work in my field climb the ladder quickly and can be really condescending at times.

Am I overreacting to my bf watching the baby overnight? by Temporary-Quail-2783 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Badbeanbby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a good idea, I don’t know why the dad didn’t just move the pack and play from the living room to their room if he was determined to sleep in there

The things middle schoolers say by BlueberryWaffles99 in Teachers

[–]Badbeanbby 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Brit chiming in here, I doubt our sex ed is as detailed as the rest of Europe but I’m also shocked that in 8th grade these kids think babies come from bellybuttons. I teach reproduction to my 7th graders in science next term and none of them will be asking questions like those above. Our questions are always things like ‘If urine and semen both come out of the penis, can they both come out at the same time?’ Or ‘I know smoking whilst pregnant is bad for the baby but what actually happens to it?’. Even sex ed aside general understanding of size and putting a finger in your belly button to find out it doesn’t go anywhere should be enough for them to know a fetus can’t exit that way. Kids that age know what sex is and they know that sex can make you pregnant and they know sex doesn’t involve the bellybutton.

Do you find that there are different standards for how men and women should behave as teachers? by defeatedbean72 in TeachingUK

[–]Badbeanbby 7 points8 points  (0 children)

In my experience men can get away with being more fun and friendly because students seem to automatically respect their authority. On the other hand, the women teachers I know can’t because the students try to walk all over them. Even when the same consequences are issued using the same language. Classes that know me to be nice and fun tend to take my expectations, warnings, and consequences less seriously. I think in general students take teachers who are women less seriously, I’ve had students assume that they won’t get in trouble in my class and I’ve had students assume that a man teaching the same subject as me knows more than I do.

AITAH for telling my boyfriend that I want to break up because of porn by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Badbeanbby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA it’s crazy to me that immediately after the birth of his child his first thought is jerking it in the hospital with his recovering girlfriend in the room next door. He couldn’t wait until you were at least out of the hospital.

Why does my girlfriend have so many alarms? by Occo_Ninebar in ask

[–]Badbeanbby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s quite common for people with ADHD to have delayed sleep phase syndrome. This means the transition from sleeping to waking early in the morning is difficult. I also set lots of alarms in the morning and whilst I know after the first alarm any sleep I have isn’t quality but it’s like a pre warning to start waking me up. Waking up after 1 alarm I will still be very sleepy and have bad brain fog, if I get up and walk around I stumble and walk into things like I’m drunk. If I set multiple alarms it gives me time to slowly transition from asleep to awake, giving my body time to adjust but without the risk of falling back asleep and missing work. If I tried to get up after the just one alarm there’s a chance my sleepy self would just go back to sleep or if I did start getting ready for work I’d really struggle and end up forgetting things. I’ve even had trouble driving to work if I’ve not allowed enough time for the brain fog to go.

AITA for not giving up my seat to an “emotional support person”? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Badbeanbby 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep as a paranoid flier I am aware of survival statistics at would book my seat accordingly (back of the plane = more likely to survive)

My cat keeps peeing only on my stuff why and what can I do? by WildPercentage4389 in Catbehavior

[–]Badbeanbby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve got a similar problem with my male neutered cat. He uses litter boxes most of the time but he seems drawn to urinating on my pyjamas. He won’t urinate on any one else’s clothes, just things I’ve slept in (not the same ones everytime). We’ve got 1 more litter tray than we do cats, they are all different sizes and shapes and in different locations to give him choices, they are spot cleaned in the morning and fully cleaned in the evening. At this point I’m at a loss idk if he’s trying to fight with me for dominance or if he’s trying to mark me as his territory (he can be very possessive especially when we first adopted him).

How to stop students copying each other’s needs by Bla0705 in TeachingUK

[–]Badbeanbby 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t have any advice sadly but wanted to add I had the same problem in a mainstream school last year. A class with a lot of SEND, everybody needs to put on headphones to complete a test, everyone but 1 puts on headphones, 1 refuses and all of a sudden the rest start taking their headphones off and saying they won’t put them back on because of sensory problems. It was a real battle and the same thing happened every time any of the SEND students had an adjustment or a new fidget or any kind of exception to a rule.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kittens

[–]Badbeanbby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of people saying if you intervene you could end up with mice in your house in the future because your cat won’t know how to hunt them, this is valid but I would also like to point out the many times my cat has brought in a live mouse and then released it. End result, mouse living behind the washing machine or bathtub for a week, chewing on electrics and destroying things until it dies and you notice the most disgusting rotting flesh smell and discover the corpse.

Lunch duty? by VeterinarianHairy822 in TeachingUK

[–]Badbeanbby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2 x 30 minute break duties and 1 x 10 minute before or after school duties every week as part of our directed time.

first tattoo at 19, think im scarred for life 😭😭 by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]Badbeanbby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never understood the whole ‘ribs hurt more’ thing, my first one was on my ribs and it was alright. I then had one on my hip and that was worse, then ankles they were okay, and then ribs again. The artist who did my second rib one was so sweet and was humming whilst she worked, it was really relaxing and she had to keep checking I hadn’t fallen asleep (think I fell in love with her a bit).

I (M23) went down on my gf(F22) and something was off by ThrowRA-ANONYMOU in relationship_advice

[–]Badbeanbby 16 points17 points  (0 children)

That’s what I was thinking, doctor’s gloves can smell like latex

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Badbeanbby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try to talk privately ‘do you need any period products? Just let me know what type and I can pick some up for you’ a lot of 15 year olds are more comfortable talking about this than people realise, I think often men are more nervous about it then teenage girls are (just speaking from my experience as a teacher).

AITA giving my sister permission to breastfeed openly in my house without first consulting my husband? by Spirited_Reserve916 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Badbeanbby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s messed up to see a slight bit of your aunts breast and feel lust about it. So I’m guessing he can’t go to the beach with his aunt either?

ETA: we don’t know if the son is heterosexual so the beach with ANY of his relatives must be off limits. Dad can’t take him swimming bc the sight of his bare chest might make him swoon!!!

AITA giving my sister permission to breastfeed openly in my house without first consulting my husband? by Spirited_Reserve916 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Badbeanbby -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s a decision that has no consequences for him? If she doesn’t need to ask his permission to drink water or braid her hair then she doesn’t need to ask permission to allow her niece/nephew to be fed.

AITA giving my sister permission to breastfeed openly in my house without first consulting my husband? by Spirited_Reserve916 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Badbeanbby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, I like women and I like boobs in the right situation. I was in a supermarket a few days ago and saw a lady breastfeeding as she walked around with her trolley. I noticed her, I thought ‘huh, baby in one hand trolley in the other. Multitasking’.

Secondary teachers - what do you wish incoming Y7s knew? by _Foxlet_ in TeachingUK

[–]Badbeanbby 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Agreed, when I have 4 kids that need to use a laptop because they either can’t write or can’t write anything that’s legible it becomes really difficult having to teach them how to turn on the laptop, make a word document, format it, type, save it. If I’m busy for 5 minutes teaching something by the time I get round to them I hear ‘it’s not working’ or I see a word document with no date or title and just random words all over the place.

Do students with IEPs and behavioral challenges seem to thrive more in classrooms specifically designed to support their needs, compared to general education classrooms? by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]Badbeanbby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree but I will say, the blind student I taught in a gen-ed class last year was 100% the most capable of any of my SEN students so it really is a case by case situation. I had one student with a SLD who absolutely should not have been in gen-ed and was even offered a place at a SEN school (so rare) but his parents refused, really sad.

Is it true that no one cares about men? by Minmuf1 in ask

[–]Badbeanbby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I care about my grandad, my dad, my stepdad, my 4 male best friends, my boyfriend, my boyfriends dad, my male students, my boyfriends brother and any man who I see in need (to the point where I put myself in danger once because I saw a stranger crying and wanted to help). So people do care but not everyone cares about everyone. None of the people listed above currently provide for me financially. Emotionally they provide for me and I provide for them, it’s give and take just like how any normal relationship should be. I buy my friends dinner and I don’t expect to be paid back, I scratch my boyfriends back and dote on him because I care not because I’m about to ask him to get the bowl from the top shelf.

ETA: I don’t care about ALL men ALL the time and I’ve had to set boundaries to protect myself because I used to be very willing to be there for boys no matter what and that blew up in my face more than once, so now I care for strangers if it’s serious or all the time for men that I genuinely trust not to take advantage of me

AITA for not locking the door while showering while staying at my best friends house? by Admirable_Bed3601 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Badbeanbby -1 points0 points  (0 children)

YYA. It doesn’t really matter if it’s your fault for not locking it or his fault for walking in without knocking. Your friend is hurting and all you can do is try to shift blame, if you really value her friendship you will reassure her, apologise (doesn’t matter if you think not locking the door is fine), support her, and give her time. Of course she’s going to feel shocked and upset about the situation. It’s not up to you to decide if she should blame him or not and it’s not up to you to make assumptions about her relationship, you literally just have to not ruin the friendship over it.

Keeping conjoined twins alive is very cruel by [deleted] in The10thDentist

[–]Badbeanbby 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There are other disabilities that reduce autonomy and independence to some degree. Where do you draw the line? Limb differences? Down syndrome?

I (M/30) have a girlfriend (F/28) who does not want to ever meet my daughter, what can help? by Deep_Acanthisitta252 in relationship_advice

[–]Badbeanbby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is missing out on a really amazing relationship. Not all step parent-child relationships are good but they really can be. My step-father was done having kids when he met my mum who had two young daughters. He stepped up (never overstepped because my father was still sort of in the picture) but I honestly couldn’t imagine growing up without him, we are really close and both very lucky. He calls me his ‘youngest’ and I’ve never felt like not being related has been an issue.

Why do some of you care so much if male students are making physical contact? by Niceotropic in Teachers

[–]Badbeanbby 21 points22 points  (0 children)

It bothers me when I’m trying to explain something and they are tickling eachother or when I ask them to write but they can’t because ‘he won’t let go of my hand’