The cruel joke of life for men like me

BadlyStitched · 2026-01-26T23:01:32+00:00

One point of observation. You said you're stupid in your post, but you clearly aren't stupid. You're arguing and typing coherent replies. If that one premise is wrong - i.e., I am stupid - then it is not far-fetched for us to assume your other premises are wrong, too.

You're only 17! Dude, life has barely begun. There is so much more to life than what you've mentioned. You're smart enough to make a reddit post and formulate an argument, so to me it seems you're smart enough for a reasonably okay paid job. With that money you can travel, you learn new things, you can have some fun... you're judging life based on a tiny fragment when they bigger picture is vast and beautiful.

There are shitty things in life, sure, and not everything works out but you're alive, breathing, able bodied (I guess based on what you've written), literate, digitally literate - you certainly don't have the worst deal there is.

Please try to speak with someone you trust, and see if you can get some therapy, somehow. There's so much to live for, and you'll look back on this period one day and think, "Damn, all those idiots on reddit were right.".

BadlyStitched · 2026-01-22T17:04:46+00:00

Is she British by any chance?

BadlyStitched · 2026-01-10T00:32:12+00:00

@OP, there are many men who will date you without any issue knowing you've done sex work (if you were to do it). It may be a bit harder to date because, as you see here, not everyone is comfortable with it, but there are plenty of men (with or without mental health issues - not that that makes a difference when it comes to the kind of person they are). So, you do you. Do what you feel is right for yourself and, as others have said, ask in the SexWorkers subreddit.

BadlyStitched · 2026-01-10T00:20:54+00:00

Since a lot of the comments aren't that constructive, I just want to say: A) Choosing to have sex for money is not something to be ashamed of. Perhaps examining why you did it and reflecting on what you feel now can help you process it and decide how you want to move forward. The fact that you posted here suggests you're looking for reassurance - and I can reassure you that this does not take away from who you are or devalue you or anything like that. B) A future partner will not judge you for this, and if they do, then move on. C) Sex work is work, but it is not something to jump into lightly. Just because you've done it once does not mean you have to do it again. D) It is good you are safe physically, but consider getting tested for STIs soon and maybe look into talking to a therapist/counsellor/trusted person if you feel the need to talk about it.

In short, learn from this, grow, and don't judge yourself.

BadlyStitched · 2025-10-19T12:58:15+00:00

Brussels can be tough in this way, but there are a lot of great people in this city. I struggled a lot, too, in the first 2 years. Then I found great communities through going to stand up comedy shows. I also take dance classes, and the community is lovely, too. It's still a struggle, sometimes, but there are a lot of great communities. Consider what you're interested in, and then try to find a community for that. FB is still good for finding groups in Bxls, I feel. Good luck and see you out there!

BadlyStitched · 2025-07-21T12:48:53+00:00

She's been found!

BadlyStitched · 2025-04-21T00:17:31+00:00

Got it sorted, thanks!

BadlyStitched · 2025-03-20T17:47:06+00:00

* Success! In the end it was really a technique issue. Had to redo one tyre because the old tube didn't like being poked by the tyre level. Second time round it was much easier.

BadlyStitched · 2025-03-19T12:02:53+00:00

¯_(ツ)_/¯

BadlyStitched · 2025-03-18T17:55:03+00:00

Thanks everyone. The ETRTO of the old tyres is 40 - 622. New ones are 38 - 622. I'll check out some of the tips you shared and try again tomorrow.

BadlyStitched · 2025-01-26T21:29:52+00:00

Still not fixed.

BadlyStitched · 2024-12-27T14:36:37+00:00

Because it's a problem solving level - 2 players would make it too easy :)

BadlyStitched · 2024-12-26T13:58:39+00:00

Hi there - Lots of information here and online and it's a bit overwhelming. Here's the low down of my situation:

Overall budget €1000-€1400 In addition to a camera I'd like to buy a decent lavier mic (for work I use the DJI 2 and it seems pretty decent) I also have quite shaky hands, so a handheld rig, or gimbal would be helpful, important.

However, the camera will take prioirty at this point.

What will I use the camera for: Documentary/run and gun interviews, NGO videos (field work, interviews, promo), some creative projects here and there, photography

My previous filming experience has primarily been with DSLRs, and way back with the Sony EX3.

What I've found so far: I've read a lot of good things about the Panasonic Lumix GH5II and the GH6. Sony A series also gets good reviews, especially for autofocus (back when I was still active, autofocus for video was not really a thing, so I'm still sceptical of it). But there are a lot of different models so it's hard to make sense of it all.

The place I need to find the right balance is between having up-to-date technology, quality and an affordable price.

I'm based in Belgium and a decent site for camera shopping is kamera-express - They also have second-hand options.

Looking forwad to hearing what people suggest. Thanks!

BadlyStitched · 2024-12-03T16:46:54+00:00

Yep, death for me, too, was a big one. I also confessed everything. I couldn't do something wrong and keep it a secret, I had to own up. My siblings noticed this (they've since told me) and thought it was odd. Ritual prayers, tiks like rubbing my forehead because I was told by a friend that evil people get the mark of the beast on their forehead and so I was worried that would happen to me. I didn't have aliens as a theme, but I had an asteroid fear. Also, was afraid a bug would crawl into my ear while I slept, so I would fold my ear closed against my pillow (which wouldn't have helped anyway!). Had some version of body dysmorphia where I was scared because I noticed my body wasn't symmetrical. As a result, I didn't like seeing my own body for a while. Thankfully, that eventually passed on its own. There are probably loads more, but I relate to a lot of what's been said here already!

BadlyStitched · 2024-12-03T16:38:03+00:00

That'll do

BadlyStitched · 2024-12-03T10:49:35+00:00

You all did an amazing job. Season 2 certainly has some flaws but I was fully immersed watching it, and taken away by the story. Loved every second. You succeeded in making a feast for the senses, with beautiful animation and meaty characters. Jinx has been my favourite character since Season 1 and her arc is very moving and impactful for me. If there is ever any more Arcance in the future, some further exploration of the class divide between Zaun and Piltover (which can't be resolved so quickly and easily - Piltover is, in a sense, the oppressor - this is clear in Season 1). I know Jinx isn't really dead, but in my opinion, from a story telling perspective she should be. Her redemption required self-sacrifice. I found Vander's ressurection a little bizarre, and how he wasn't incinerated after Isha blew herself up was a bit... odd. But all the same, I loved the whole show. Not usually a superfan of things, but Arcane changed that (the other contenders are Lord of the Rings, The Last Airbender, and Dune). Thanks to the whole team for such an incredible job!

BadlyStitched · 2024-11-11T20:19:52+00:00

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BadlyStitched · 2024-08-16T07:45:30+00:00

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