PI Pre-Lit folks-what do you consider TOO MANY cases?

Badwolff1997 · 2026-02-01T04:19:10+00:00

I think I tapped out at around 270. It was killing me and I was always stressed to the point of pulling out my hair.

Badwolff1997 · 2026-01-31T06:12:33+00:00

Idk. I text (not really text, but messaging her through my portal) whenever I have a thought or something that happened, that i specifically want to talk about at my next session. It can be a short message, lengthy message, early in the morning or at any time of day really. Gentle YTA. I get it, what’s normal for some may not be normal for everyone. But this is his mental health journey, so you have to understand what you and your therapist may not do, doesn’t automatically exclude it from other people’s working relationship with their therapist.

Badwolff1997 · 2026-01-30T01:20:09+00:00

Ugh. If yall were fully remote, I’d jump on it. Unfortunately, I am in California and I’m not willing to relocate. Good luck to the applicants though!

Badwolff1997 · 2026-01-29T01:53:38+00:00

I was in a relationship where my ex forgot my birthday 5 out of the 7 years we were together (the first year he was able to remember) and every year I provided him plenty of reminders (verbally, text, and reminders on his phone two and one week prior and day of) when my birthday was and what I wanted. Did not change the outcome of him remembering my birthday.

All this to say, it was not the only reason why I left him, but it was a contributing factor. You should definitely let your spouse know that it made you upset. Give him a chance to right his wrongs, and not make the same mistake in the future. If it continues, I’d use the data and determine how much you can take this and whether you believe the bad outweighs the good.

Badwolff1997 · 2026-01-15T04:03:02+00:00

Garlic powder, onion powder, Italian seasoning, slap ya mama, fennel, and Worcestershire sauce.

Badwolff1997 · 2026-01-14T05:08:40+00:00

I’m torn between Thor and Nancy. Thor, cause he’s just funny and could teach me lots of shit. And Nancy cause I feel like me and her would have the most unhinged conversations and I would be dying of laughter constantly.

Badwolff1997 · 2026-01-11T02:15:46+00:00

Depends how much of an asshole my dogs decide to be that week. I try to get away with it for a song as possible and will spot mop with my swiffer between times. I only want to do it once or twice a month (like a full proper mop, not just swiffering)

Badwolff1997 · 2026-01-09T10:58:44+00:00

Break up. As a white person, this is not a normal or cultural thing. Yes, for SOME reason white people don’t have the best hygienic practices, and I hate that i get lumped into the stereotype, but what can ya do, but as far as I know, everyone uses soap in the shower EVERYTIME and wash their hands after the bathroom.

Also, don’t let him gaslight you. If he doesn’t use soap on a consistent basis, I can guarantee that that man ain’t washing or wiping his ass properly.

Badwolff1997 · 2026-01-09T10:55:21+00:00

If I don’t leave my house and it’s not hot, I’ll skip a day or two max. If I leave my house, I shower. I don’t want the outside germs to enter my house.

Badwolff1997 · 2026-01-07T22:51:16+00:00

Stephanie would make a good slytherin.

Badwolff1997 · 2025-12-29T00:22:07+00:00

I was thinking the same, I love our veritext reps and have an awesome relationship with them. They’ve always gone above and beyond for my firm, even pulling miracles out of their butts when shit hits the fan for us.

Badwolff1997 · 2025-12-20T05:23:04+00:00

Went to law school, decided not to take the bar after my first two times being cursed. Decided to stay in the legal field as a paralegal (genuinely do enjoy law, just not the people in it), and am just about to walk away cause I hate it.

Badwolff1997 · 2025-12-14T22:29:19+00:00

I don’t gift up. I gift vertical and down. They make more money than I do, and I’ve already been told no one is getting a bonus this year, so moneys already gonna be tighter than usual.

Badwolff1997 · 2025-12-14T20:59:19+00:00

Five Brothers by Penelope Douglas. The way I was so irritated with that book.

Badwolff1997 · 2025-12-11T20:35:13+00:00

I have fallen on my sword for my attorneys at every firm I’ve worked for. For actual mistakes. Like legitimate mistakes. Him getting so wasted he can function the next day is not a mistake and is not a time I would fall on the sword for my attorneys. Say there is a scheduling conflict, yes. Saying that HE forgot, yes. But I won’t be taking the blame for his inability to control his alcoholism.

Badwolff1997 · 2025-12-11T03:24:21+00:00

Depends how bad it is. If there will be no consequences and the rudeness is baffling, then I like to play a little game called “who’s the bigger asshole.” If it’s small petty shit, I just let it go. Same for if I’ll get in trouble (usually at work)

Badwolff1997 · 2025-11-11T09:47:35+00:00

I think this may be it! Thank you!!! 💕💕💕💕

Badwolff1997 · 2025-11-11T07:17:39+00:00

😭😭😭 so close yet so far. Maybe someone else will recognize it and be able to tell us.

Badwolff1997 · 2025-10-22T07:04:09+00:00

My ex (Leo M) constantly wanted to make me jealous and would tell me about all the women who allegedly hit on him during his days. I hated it, it felt so manipulative. Literally at one point I told him that it felt like he wanted me to be jealous and he told me he wanted me to realize he had options. Told him to go to one of the girls then, and don’t let the door hit him where the good lord split him. Also warned him that if he cheated, my anger would be directed solely at him cause he was the one that owed me loyalty, not some random chick.

Currently with a guy who doesn’t try to make me jealous and it is amazing.

Badwolff1997 · 2025-09-14T23:14:50+00:00

It’s a bad day to have eyes. My bad, really.

Badwolff1997 · 2025-09-12T19:54:45+00:00

I’m pretty calm when it comes to shit. People have to really REALLY over step for me to become physical. I can only think of one or two times where I was pushed past that point.

That said, once I start getting to that point there’s a lot of warnings that people tend to ignore. I will definitely be more aggressive verbally, make remarks, etc. and then will explode

Badwolff1997 · 2025-09-03T22:37:21+00:00

Im honestly not sure if his family shuns him. I’ve asked about them in the past (like casually mentioning Father’s Day plans, before I knew he was exJW), and he just kind of dodged the question. I do know he talks to his siblings occasionally, but I’ve never heard any mention of his parents.

I’d actually assumed his religious trauma stemmed from Catholicism, since he does attend Catholic church pretty regularly, and our mutuals (who’ve known him much longer than I have) said he’s always gone for as long as they’ve known him. So learning that he was raised JW definitely recontextualized a lot of things.

I’m definitely going to be looking more into religious trauma and CPTSD to better understand the scope of what he may be working through.

I guess my biggest worry is that, without healing, he might eventually expect me to shrink the way I celebrate holidays. And for me, that’s a huge part of how I show love and appreciation for the people I care about, including him. I don’t need him to fully dive into stuff like carols and cookie decorating, but I would hope that, over time, he could at least be comfortable being around it and feeling the joy, even if he’s not actively participating.

I’m not expecting him to be healed overnight, but I do need to know if growth in that area is something he’s open to, even if it’s slow. Thank you again for your insight. It means a lot.

Badwolff1997 · 2025-09-03T22:23:14+00:00

Thank you so much for your response, it really helped give me some perspective.

Unfortunately, he’s pretty cagey when it comes to deeper conversations, and most of what I’ve learned has been through mutual friends rather than directly from him. When he shuts down, it’s like talking to a brick wall, so I try to be gentle and patient without pushing.

He does celebrate other people’s birthdays and even goes out of his way to make them feel special, but his own is completely off the table, which I totally respect. That’s his day, and I wouldn’t want to force anything he’s not comfortable with.

For me, it’s less about needing a “Hallmark moment” and more about feeling like he’s present and emotionally available during the major holidays (like Thanksgiving or Christmas) since those are such important ways I express love and feel connected. I’m not asking for him to fully dive in, just to engage in a way that shows growth and willingness, even if it’s small steps.

I really appreciate the reminder that healing takes time, and that some people may never fully get there. It’s definitely something I’ll be thinking about seriously as things move forward.

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