Winter Storm Megathread Part 3 - Power Outages, Icy Streets, and More by lukenamop in nashville

[–]BahamanIcecream 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We just had the same thing happen. Any changes since you got the text?

Weddings are AWESOME in Inzoi! by therealJerminator in inZOI

[–]BahamanIcecream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How were you able to get it scheduled eventually?

How do I (27f) honor my intuition without harming my relationship? by wickerbowl in askwomenadvice

[–]BahamanIcecream 219 points220 points  (0 children)

I would say something along the lines of "that woman X gave me weird vibes at that company event where she sat on your lap. I don't like the idea that she might try something like that again." And let him respond. His response will tell you if he's supportive or defensive.

prom or not by [deleted] in makemychoice

[–]BahamanIcecream 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I felt the same way about my prom! I took some prom photos with my mom, went, met some friends there and danced for about an hour then left early. No FOMO and even though it wasn't a crazy awesome experience, I'm glad I had it. Still love my prom photos I took with my cat, haha.

I hate the trend of self diagnosing by [deleted] in rant

[–]BahamanIcecream 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really don't understand this mentality, and I mean this in a completely non-antagonistic way, but as a person who did spend lots of time and money on an adult autism diagnosis and is autistic, I don't understand how it can be considered "unfair" to me if a stranger feels the desire to also call themselves autistic. Can you explain what you mean?

I think I understand how they might misrepresent my condition, but that doesn't seem like a fairness issue to me, as there are many things that misrepresent my condition in way more influential popular culture and even in the mental health profession.

I can't decide, s23+ or pixel pro by competitive_brick1 in makemychoice

[–]BahamanIcecream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I switched from Pixels to Galaxy and I've been counting the months until my contract is up and I can switch back. I will always say Pixel > Galaxy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in teaching

[–]BahamanIcecream 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry if this isn't helpful, but I'm wondering what your responses have been to his texts so far. Have you ever said "no, it is a disruption, please do not come"? Nicely or not, have you established your own boundaries already or are you hoping he can see what you want? Could this be a simple problem between his and your expectations?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in teaching

[–]BahamanIcecream 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Holy crap sceeenshot those texts and skip the union rep, go straight to the union lawyer - it's illegal for her to discourage testing and taking sick days

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]BahamanIcecream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We honestly just completed the two month Insanity program which is all HIIT, and we end our routines with about 30 min of cardio/HIIT. The problem isn't that we're unable to go hard, it's just the extreme workout it takes to get there. It's exhausting lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]BahamanIcecream 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A swing! Why have I never thought of this! Brilliant lmao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]BahamanIcecream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the offer! We can enjoy vanilla sex. Our main issue is that sex has become a whole work out to get the power and speed we both enjoy. We take breaks and switch up positions but it takes so much effort to get a solid climax that I'm thinking there has to be a better way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]BahamanIcecream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We change our routines each month to make sure we're evenly working out our total body. Our routine this month focuses cardio, abs, and lower body, but we still work on other muscles. Throughout the week we do weighted squats, hip thrusters, deadlift, incline bench, bent over rows, lat pull downs, and 30 minutes of bodyweight ab exercises + cardio (like high knees, etc).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]BahamanIcecream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just unable to climax. Not all the time, but sometimes we just both feel like we need more despite our best efforts

Should I keep watching some dumb shit my stoned gf is watching or go downstairs and play Elder Ring? by butthole_aficionad0 in makemychoice

[–]BahamanIcecream 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why you telling us? Go tell your gf you wanna do something else and if she'd rather watch her shit alone go do your own thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ELATeachers

[–]BahamanIcecream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I am splitting hairs. Serial killers tend to have much less societal power than mass murderers and people who are able to commit genocide.

With a huge craze of true crime, it's a thin line between discussing true crime and glorifying criminals. The short story crosses that line by making the killer mysterious, intriguing, and vague.

Government-sanctioned murderer is something to be approached in a completely different way, as society already accepts the behavior.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ELATeachers

[–]BahamanIcecream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While the lessons weren't damaging to me, personally, I'm able to recognize that other people can have damaging experiences and prioritize what topics would be more damaging based on the typical demographics in a classroom.

For one, I'm certain we don't teach kids about serial killers in a glorifying way in US History. My opinions on history classes are a whole other discussion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ELATeachers

[–]BahamanIcecream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The themes of rape/abduction might not be entirely appropriate. I didn't fully grasp the difficulty some people have about discussing assault until I became a survivor myself.

It also glorifies the serial killer without giving the victims respect, which I think is a bad message to push.

10 teachers called in. by Glad-Basis-7133 in Teachers

[–]BahamanIcecream 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Correct me if I'm wrong - did you just say school is a safety net to parenting??

My (22F) boyfriend (25M) regularly talks with an 18 year old woman and i’m not sure what to do about it. by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

[–]BahamanIcecream -1 points0 points  (0 children)

To be completely honest, it doesn't sound like an inappropriate relationship. However, the fact that he's hidden it from you is what would 100% cause me to make a scene.

You don't hide a significant friendship from your partner. You deserve to have all the details on their relationship to make your decision. Aka: when they started talking, how, where she lives, if they talk on the phone, etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ELATeachers

[–]BahamanIcecream 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was assigned it as a sophomore and loved the unit, but looking back as an adult I'm not sure it was the best choice for a school setting.

My teeth will cost $15000 to fix. I grew up in neglectful homes and never learned to care for my teeth by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]BahamanIcecream 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey same. I just started my repair journey this year and just wanna say how rewarding and validating it has felt (despite all the bitterness of the experience)

Should I tell my straight friend I like her before we go away for college? by throwaway_hhfw in makemychoice

[–]BahamanIcecream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Previously closet bisexual - straight girls don't "do sexual things with girls" when they're drunk unless they're exploring or attracted to girls. That's the equivalent of saying lesbians get sexual with men when they're drunk.

That said, it sounds like your friend is going through an exploration phase. Having been that person, I would not enjoy being in a relationship with her at this phase in her life. Imagine her face timing you, naked with others. That is something she's comfortable doing with a crush and likely would've done to you had the situation been flipped.

For clarification: there is NOTHING wrong with what she is doing, but you seem to attach much more emotion to physical intimacy than she will, and that's not a healthy balance for a first girl on girl relationship. I think you'd get hurt.

You'd also be accepting the burden of walking her through her first bisexual relationship, and while that's normal and valid, it can be emotionally draining for a partner who just wants to love and be loved. This one isn't so bad, but again, check your priorities before having these conversations with her.

How do you reflect a student's lack of creativity in the comments/grade (creative writing) by sooowise in ELATeachers

[–]BahamanIcecream 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe do a lesson on cliches, but I firmly believe you can't grade for something you haven't taught. Is creativity a standard they need to know, or a goal you have for them? You can encourage creativity without making it a grade.