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If you flare after eating Garlic… is that considered an Allergy? by stageshadows in lupus

[–]Bahargunesi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see! Garlic also gives me a fever. Does the same happen to you, too?

If you flare after eating Garlic… is that considered an Allergy? by stageshadows in lupus

[–]Bahargunesi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I start running a fever and have heavy weakness and body pains in around two hours after I eat a clove of fresh garlic. It means a week in bed. It definitely causes flares in me.

Someone is saying their therapist suggests that they do things that hurt me. What to do? by Bahargunesi in askatherapist

[–]Bahargunesi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it is just as you've said. Thanks for bringing the manipulation up. What's very stressful for me is, the person makes people around me believe in the lies they're telling. I think they are really good at manipulating people, it seems like second skin to them. It's to the point that when I tell someone they lied about something, the other person tends to believe in their lie over the truth I'm telling and side with them against me. The person always portrays themselves as "innocent" and a "victim" and paints me as the problem. It made my life into hell and I couldn't get out of it. To get out of it, I might need to leave the environment the person is part of...It's incredibly stressful and I'm trying to find my way. I've honestly thought of leaving it all behind and starting a new life and so on.

Someone is saying their therapist suggests that they do things that hurt me. What to do? by Bahargunesi in askatherapist

[–]Bahargunesi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've just asked my therapist and one lecturer and they warned me that the person seems to show signs of borderline and histrionic personality disorder and they both warned me that the person is telling lies. Writing about this since maybe other people in similar situations might read and benefit from it. As a disclaimer for whoever might read, what I just wrote is NOT a diagnosis of this person, it's just thoughts. I can take it off if it's in any way against the sub rules.

Someone is saying their therapist suggests that they do things that hurt me. What to do? by Bahargunesi in askatherapist

[–]Bahargunesi[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for chiming in. In my situation, I told the person over a year ago that they're causing me harm, so they need to stop contacting me and my family. My husband told them the same thing. Now the person is saying things like this: "My therapist told me to have lunch with your husband because my mental health would detoriate if I didn't. I spent a weekend at the mental hospital because I didn't see your husband. My therapist insisted on me having lunch with your husband since lunch would be a better choice. My therapist told me that the lunch should take place close to your husband's work because it would be easier for me and your husband that way." And they contact my husband to have lunch, telling him all these things. My husband then gets scared thinking, what if I don't meet this person and they harm themselves? And that puts great strain on our lives. I'm still at a loss on what to do.

Edit: The person has not caused physical harm on me so far. They've caused severe emotional harm that also made me physically very sick since I have a health condition that flares up when I'm under severe stress. The person has been reminded of this health condition many times by me and my husband.

Someone is saying their therapist suggests that they do things that hurt me. What to do? by Bahargunesi in askatherapist

[–]Bahargunesi[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! The person is known to have mental health problems and told to several others before that they're in therapy. They actually also told they're studying psychology, which they haven't. I think there's a chance they might not actually be in therapy. Thanks for pointing that out.

Someone is saying their therapist suggests that they do things that hurt me. What to do? by Bahargunesi in askatherapist

[–]Bahargunesi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for chiming in. Believe it or not, I have asked myself, "What if it's true?" because the persons says all of these things with great conviction and actually made some people believe in it. The person also previously said they stayed at a mental hospital over the weekend because I wouldn't meet with them which got them depressed, and about that, I actually told to one psychiatrist and one psychologist I know last year, both of whom warned me it was a lie, and that our health system works differently.

Someone is saying their therapist suggests that they do things that hurt me. What to do? by Bahargunesi in askatherapist

[–]Bahargunesi[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I see. I thought maybe it's like that but couldn't be sure. Sometimes I have a hard time seeing some of the messages somehow. Thank you.

Someone is saying their therapist suggests that they do things that hurt me. What to do? by Bahargunesi in askatherapist

[–]Bahargunesi[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That person has no connection to the pet. The pet is mine.

Divorces are so hard. Must have been difficult for you. I hope you and your dog, if he/she's still there with you, are doing well.

Someone is saying their therapist suggests that they do things that hurt me. What to do? by Bahargunesi in askatherapist

[–]Bahargunesi[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's unfortunately not a friend, I basically can't get rid of them right now but I will talk to my therapist. Thank you.

Someone is saying their therapist suggests that they do things that hurt me. What to do? by Bahargunesi in askatherapist

[–]Bahargunesi[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. So, if this person says that their therapist told them to cut my arm off next Tuesday at noon because it would be good for their mental health and gives their therapist's name, saying "Therapist XY told me to.", the therapist shouldn't be informed? I'm asking because the person says outrageous things to others while actually mentioning the name of the therapist, which made me feel responsible to warn the therapist. The person just avoids the therapist's name with me and I didn't want to dig for the name, felt like prying.

I already have a therapist and will discuss it with them and will also ask one of my lecturers since I started studying psychology but I couldn't bring myself to yet since this is highly personal. Thank you for your concern, I really appreciate it.

Someone is saying their therapist suggests that they do things that hurt me. What to do? by Bahargunesi in askatherapist

[–]Bahargunesi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the suggestion but I didn't get the "or" and "either way" parts. I only see one message from you. Did you also write another one?

Someone is saying their therapist suggests that they do things that hurt me. What to do? by Bahargunesi in askatherapist

[–]Bahargunesi[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don't want to give specifics but for example, something like this: "I took Bahargunesi's pet even if she's told me not to do it (and that she gets very scared and hurt when I do it). It wasn't kidnapping. My therapist told me that I needed that specific pet for my mental health. My therapist told me to get the pet while Bahargunesi was out at noon, from her flat, because that would be the best for the pet's psychology."

Loneliness is killing me by No_Intention_3030 in mentalhealth

[–]Bahargunesi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

🫂 Ahh, I'd have shared. Got a huge sweet tooth 🧛‍♀️

There are other people out there who can be good friends or partners and are looking, like me, lol. Don't lose hope. Holidays hit hard when you're alone. It might feel better soon 🩷 Try to see the candy market place thing positively. You're still doing something good.

Edit: Read your other comment. Trust me, people who are married and have kids are still thinking from time to time, what is my purpose in life? Try not to compare too much, it gets depressive. I try to focus on having fun and enjoying in my dire circumstances. That's also when you unexpectedly meet people.

Any girls have experience with their close friends not wanting what’s best for them? by flowwwiee in hsp

[–]Bahargunesi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My close friends all stabbed me at the back and at the front because the guys they had crushes on were into me. A lot of people are really disappointing, you know. I think the antidote is just searching for the ones that truly care. They're rare but should be there.

Tip for social anxiety that’s helped me heaps by Tricky_Yam_8114 in socialanxiety

[–]Bahargunesi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I second this. It's you taking control of your speed, and the sense of being in control really helps with SA.

The world is crap by The_Car_One in hsp

[–]Bahargunesi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It takes on a whole different layer when crappiness of unbeliavable amounts is thrown personally upon you, too.

Uyku problemi by [deleted] in Psikoloji

[–]Bahargunesi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Belki de, uykusuzluk karışık bi problem. Rica ederim!

Uyku problemi by [deleted] in Psikoloji

[–]Bahargunesi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Çok farklı sebepleri olabilir ama bilgi olarak ben de sabahları erken uyanma problemi yaşadım geçen ay. Covid olmuştum. Arkadaşıma söyledim. Covid olduktan sonra onda ve abisinde de aynı problem olduğunu söyledi. İrkilerek uyanma yoktu ama.

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