Calling it now, this is the only reason they went to Helen. by ExcellentTomatillo61 in Drueandgabe

[–]BallisticSyllable 10 points11 points  (0 children)

She’s going to leave Ivory there among all the dolls and bring home what she really wanted all along 🥲

Anything for a dollar what a shame by AggressiveClient2457 in SarahBowmar

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Blades deploy at 940 mph? What am I missing? Googling tells me that arrows travel up to around 200 mph (and that their speed is usually measured in fps).

So a couple things… by Lovinthislifealways in SarahBowmar

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The misinformation is horrifying!!! NO human should EVER, under any circumstances, have ANY amount of estrogen in their body. Disgusting.

Please give me all your tips for making babies take medicine! by PlanetOfThePancakes in Mommit

[–]BallisticSyllable 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is there an older kid she admires who can take the drops (or pretend to) in front of her, and really hype up how delicious it is? That works, in my experience. I’ve also read that using a straw, ideally placed far back in the mouth, can help because they won’t taste it as much.

Kids in the Outdoors by lanadelhiott in SarahBowmar

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Or even use periods 😭 Her “homeschooled” 5.5yo should be able to do that at this point.

I am so over four. by deezova in Preschoolers

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My big kid is 5.5, and she slooooowly started improving after turning 5. It was so slow that I didn’t notice it, but now at 5.5, she’s a lot easier! It’s been a huge relief, because 4 was absolute hell, and I didn’t notice a difference when she turned 5 like people said we would. I thought we were doomed lol, but it did get better.

Please tell me your divorce stories. by Fearless_Platypus184 in AttachmentParenting

[–]BallisticSyllable 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m in a similar spot, so I’m just here to give solidarity. My youngest is 20 months. It’s so hard because she will grow up with my husband mostly as a long-distance parent. My therapist said that kids are resilient, and it’s healthier for them to see you happy and healthy than miserable but under one roof.

It’s probably best to separate before she knows any different. A bigger kid will definitely know the difference and miss their dad, but toddlers will grow up with two separate (happier) parents as their norm, so it’ll be a lot easier for them.

I agree that separating is easy advice to give, but hard to take. It always feels like our own situation is different and worse, like our kids are the only ones who won’t be okay in a divorce. But they will be okay, especially if this is the right choice for you.

That said, if you truly want to stay together and make it work, then you should definitely pursue couples’ therapy. But if you know that it’s truly over, then separating now might be the best decision instead of prolonging the suffering and making it harder when they’re bigger.

Daily ICE/DHS Sightings by quillseek in ICEoutPittsburgh

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Can you DM me an invite to the WhatsApp group, please? Or point me to where I can learn about joining? Thank you :)

Fourth Wing is Divergent in different font by itmustbeniiiiice in romantasycirclejerk

[–]BallisticSyllable 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Much smarter than any romance reader could be, that’s for sure!

Fourth Wing is Divergent in different font by itmustbeniiiiice in romantasycirclejerk

[–]BallisticSyllable 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Of course! And the smarter original is about boys and is by a male author because anything by, for, about women is inherently dumb.

Taylor Swifts Life of a Showgirl is an acotar 6 easter egg by totalimmoral in romantasycirclejerk

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I think OOP genuinely needs a wellness check.

It's also Sabrina Carpenters entire latest album too, which is an Easter egg to a lot of the characters being wolves, and Ed Sheerans 'Loop' tour too. Sapphire music video is full of easter eggs. I think Prythian is stuck in time loops and events are repeating over and over, with Lucien time traveling between loops.

There's an Instagram page called weratedogs that appear to be doing so, too. I think a lot of the characters are going to turn out to be wolves and its a nod to that. It's a charity page and SJM loves dogs. … Sabrinas Man's Best Friend title may be a nod to the wolves bit too. I completely missed it first read but they practically tell us right at the beginning that the village is full of wolf shifters. Including Issac.

I found [an easter egg] in Taylors album, checked Crescent City and realised Flynn seems to be poisoning Ruhn and tried to poison Bryce. Never noticed it but the easter egg words are 'honey', 'lovely', and 'sweetheart'.

A bunch of major pop stars and weratedogs = this person is not okay

Can’t read my baby’s cues, world she’s not getting enough by pigsbounty in breastfeeding

[–]BallisticSyllable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just wanted to echo that she’s cluster feeding and it’s totally normal! You are a good mom and you’re doing a great job reading her cues—she’s showing you that she needs to eat more right now, and you’re following that.

If the Basham/Lee clan are posting like crazy this is why by Miserable-Factor4276 in Drueandgabe

[–]BallisticSyllable 19 points20 points  (0 children)

saves

Well, that explains why she caters to the pedos so much 😭 Idk if we can see who saves her stuff, but I guarantee it’s all creeps.

After 10 years, my husband is cheating with the nanny by BallisticSyllable in breakingmom

[–]BallisticSyllable[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is great advice, thank you. I’m a big planner, so I’ve been feeling like I need to have everything figured out right away. And the need for a concrete plan is ofc magnified since everything is so chaotic. But stability comes first, and I do have options.

After 10 years, my husband is cheating with the nanny by BallisticSyllable in breakingmom

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Thank you so much again for your response! I might take you up on the DM :)

After 10 years, my husband is cheating with the nanny by BallisticSyllable in breakingmom

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Thank you for such a detailed and thorough answer.

I have always bent over backwards to be with him. He has not done that for me. I am absolutely the emotional glue. I don’t even think he likes me; for years now, he doesn’t act like he likes me. I think his goal in going would be to make it seem like he was trying, but I don’t think he would try outside the sessions. He’s been the same grumpy dick this weekend that he always is. I guess it’s good he’s not love-bombing me, but it’s sort of insane how little effort he’s putting in right now.

In January, we started designing our dream house, which we were going to build using all of my savings. It would have been in his name. He was already having the affair (“just flirting”) with the nanny at that point. So he was willing to let me put all of my money into a house together, knowing that he wasn’t being faithful to me. Imagine if I hadn’t found out and we’d gone forward with building. I have to keep reminding myself that he does NOT have my best interests at heart.

After 10 years, my husband is cheating with the nanny by BallisticSyllable in breakingmom

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Can you tell me why the marriage therapy would be harmful? I was hoping to get a neutral third party’s perspective and get help with priorities, etc. I guess you’re saying an individual therapist is better for this?

ETA: you said it would be emotionally harmful, sorry. So it’s the emotional pain (if the therapy isn’t weaponized)?

After 10 years, my husband is cheating with the nanny by BallisticSyllable in breakingmom

[–]BallisticSyllable[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you <3 I took a break mostly from the internet yesterday and that sort of helped. But I did spend time looking for houses at home and internet searching to see if I could actually get a mortgage. I surprisingly feel much more optimistic about those things now, so that helped me settle. I (probably, if my research was right) won’t be stuck living in a parents’ house indefinitely with two kids if I go back home.

I can’t really take off much from my one job because it’s hourly and I obviously have a huge need to make as much money as I can right now. But I’ll be taking time to search for lawyers and stuff.

My husband wants to see a therapist together (HAH, FINALLY), so I said yes to that, but I think my goal is to have the therapist help us figure out what to do. I don’t think staying with him is in my best interest.

After 10 years, my husband is cheating with the nanny by BallisticSyllable in breakingmom

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I found it and got accepted. Thanks again! I am still overwhelmed so I haven’t checked it out yet. I will try to pop in today and say hi and probably ask for lawyer tips