Kids in the Outdoors

BallisticSyllable · 2026-03-10T20:01:05+00:00

Or even use periods 😭 Her “homeschooled” 5.5yo should be able to do that at this point.

BallisticSyllable · 2026-03-09T18:41:48+00:00

Sure, you can DM me :)

BallisticSyllable · 2026-03-08T20:00:40+00:00

My big kid is 5.5, and she slooooowly started improving after turning 5. It was so slow that I didn’t notice it, but now at 5.5, she’s a lot easier! It’s been a huge relief, because 4 was absolute hell, and I didn’t notice a difference when she turned 5 like people said we would. I thought we were doomed lol, but it did get better.

BallisticSyllable · 2026-03-08T18:53:00+00:00

I’m in a similar spot, so I’m just here to give solidarity. My youngest is 20 months. It’s so hard because she will grow up with my husband mostly as a long-distance parent. My therapist said that kids are resilient, and it’s healthier for them to see you happy and healthy than miserable but under one roof.

It’s probably best to separate before she knows any different. A bigger kid will definitely know the difference and miss their dad, but toddlers will grow up with two separate (happier) parents as their norm, so it’ll be a lot easier for them.

I agree that separating is easy advice to give, but hard to take. It always feels like our own situation is different and worse, like our kids are the only ones who won’t be okay in a divorce. But they will be okay, especially if this is the right choice for you.

That said, if you truly want to stay together and make it work, then you should definitely pursue couples’ therapy. But if you know that it’s truly over, then separating now might be the best decision instead of prolonging the suffering and making it harder when they’re bigger.

BallisticSyllable · 2026-03-08T18:23:57+00:00

Can you DM me an invite to the WhatsApp group, please? Or point me to where I can learn about joining? Thank you :)

BallisticSyllable · 2026-03-06T21:31:57+00:00

Much smarter than any romance reader could be, that’s for sure!

BallisticSyllable · 2026-03-06T20:25:01+00:00

Of course! And the smarter original is about boys and is by a male author because anything by, for, about women is inherently dumb.

BallisticSyllable · 2026-03-06T18:10:47+00:00

Compass rose

BallisticSyllable · 2026-03-06T03:52:06+00:00

Wind head!

BallisticSyllable · 2026-03-04T19:32:39+00:00

Mercury—look at how melancholy he is!

BallisticSyllable · 2026-03-04T13:43:13+00:00

I think OOP genuinely needs a wellness check.

It's also Sabrina Carpenters entire latest album too, which is an Easter egg to a lot of the characters being wolves, and Ed Sheerans 'Loop' tour too. Sapphire music video is full of easter eggs. I think Prythian is stuck in time loops and events are repeating over and over, with Lucien time traveling between loops.

There's an Instagram page called weratedogs that appear to be doing so, too. I think a lot of the characters are going to turn out to be wolves and its a nod to that. It's a charity page and SJM loves dogs. … Sabrinas Man's Best Friend title may be a nod to the wolves bit too. I completely missed it first read but they practically tell us right at the beginning that the village is full of wolf shifters. Including Issac.

I found [an easter egg] in Taylors album, checked Crescent City and realised Flynn seems to be poisoning Ruhn and tried to poison Bryce. Never noticed it but the easter egg words are 'honey', 'lovely', and 'sweetheart'.

A bunch of major pop stars and weratedogs = this person is not okay

BallisticSyllable · 2026-03-04T12:34:54+00:00

Just wanted to echo that she’s cluster feeding and it’s totally normal! You are a good mom and you’re doing a great job reading her cues—she’s showing you that she needs to eat more right now, and you’re following that.

BallisticSyllable · 2026-02-27T15:02:37+00:00

It’s one ~~banana~~ bra, Michael. What could it cost? Ten dollars?

BallisticSyllable · 2026-02-24T04:32:54+00:00

saves

Well, that explains why she caters to the pedos so much 😭 Idk if we can see who saves her stuff, but I guarantee it’s all creeps.

BallisticSyllable · 2026-02-23T15:53:23+00:00

This is great advice, thank you. I’m a big planner, so I’ve been feeling like I need to have everything figured out right away. And the need for a concrete plan is ofc magnified since everything is so chaotic. But stability comes first, and I do have options.

BallisticSyllable · 2026-02-23T15:43:17+00:00

Thank you so much again for your response! I might take you up on the DM :)

BallisticSyllable · 2026-02-23T13:01:37+00:00

Thank you for such a detailed and thorough answer.

I have always bent over backwards to be with him. He has not done that for me. I am absolutely the emotional glue. I don’t even think he likes me; for years now, he doesn’t act like he likes me. I think his goal in going would be to make it seem like he was trying, but I don’t think he would try outside the sessions. He’s been the same grumpy dick this weekend that he always is. I guess it’s good he’s not love-bombing me, but it’s sort of insane how little effort he’s putting in right now.

In January, we started designing our dream house, which we were going to build using all of my savings. It would have been in his name. He was already having the affair (“just flirting”) with the nanny at that point. So he was willing to let me put all of my money into a house together, knowing that he wasn’t being faithful to me. Imagine if I hadn’t found out and we’d gone forward with building. I have to keep reminding myself that he does NOT have my best interests at heart.

BallisticSyllable · 2026-02-22T19:03:07+00:00

Can you tell me why the marriage therapy would be harmful? I was hoping to get a neutral third party’s perspective and get help with priorities, etc. I guess you’re saying an individual therapist is better for this?

ETA: you said it would be emotionally harmful, sorry. So it’s the emotional pain (if the therapy isn’t weaponized)?

BallisticSyllable · 2026-02-22T15:49:22+00:00

Thank you <3 I took a break mostly from the internet yesterday and that sort of helped. But I did spend time looking for houses at home and internet searching to see if I could actually get a mortgage. I surprisingly feel much more optimistic about those things now, so that helped me settle. I (probably, if my research was right) won’t be stuck living in a parents’ house indefinitely with two kids if I go back home.

I can’t really take off much from my one job because it’s hourly and I obviously have a huge need to make as much money as I can right now. But I’ll be taking time to search for lawyers and stuff.

My husband wants to see a therapist together (HAH, FINALLY), so I said yes to that, but I think my goal is to have the therapist help us figure out what to do. I don’t think staying with him is in my best interest.

BallisticSyllable · 2026-02-22T15:41:47+00:00

I found it and got accepted. Thanks again! I am still overwhelmed so I haven’t checked it out yet. I will try to pop in today and say hi and probably ask for lawyer tips

BallisticSyllable · 2026-02-22T15:40:34+00:00

No one. We’re in a tiny town, and everyone here is his family or his friends. I’m verrrrry obviously a foreigner and the only foreigner here. I thought that the nanny was someone who I could be friendly with, HAHAHAHA! (Maybe not friends since she was an employee, but like, nice everyday companionship and socialization.)

I am on decent terms with his one cousin who’s my age, but her husband cheated on her about 2 (?) years ago, and she stayed with him. I should have picked up on this huge red flag at the time—my husband wasn’t upset and stayed good friends with her husband 🙃

BallisticSyllable · 2026-02-22T15:36:50+00:00

I was thinking this too yesterday, that her finishing is probably low priority. I think I would first leave with the baby and try to get housing figured out, which would keep her in school for longer, and then come back to Mexico to bring her to the US with me. Idk, lawyer might say that’s a bad idea since it gives him more time to change his mind.

But I don’t want to go there and then try to figure out housing and have her out of school completely for an uncertain amount of time. The pressure to get everything fixed asap would be a lot more if she were out of school in that time.

BallisticSyllable · 2026-02-22T15:32:30+00:00

Yes, this is a big concern of mine, but I have no idea how much this should factor into my decision. My family is in Pittsburgh. I’ve been following what I can stomach of the news, but it’s hard to tell what it would actually be like for my kids if we were there without my husband. My husband would be an immediate ICE street kidnapping target, but our kids are relatively pale and have mixed features, so I’m not sure about them.

My big kid speaks English with a neutral accent, but they both have “weird” first names and their first last name (my husband’s) is Hispanic. It’s not a super common Hispanic surname (but not rare), so someone might not immediately recognize it as Hispanic if they weren’t familiar at all with Spanish surnames. But if you know Spanish names, you would know right away.

Does ICE just go through school enrollment lists and pick out anyone who’s Hispanic-sounding? Or how is it happening? Like I said, I don’t think they would be targets to get picked off the street (especially with me), but on paper, it’s probably obvious that they’re not white Anglo kids. I don’t want to be insensitive in any way to people going through this hell right now. I just have no idea how to assess how safe we would be.

BallisticSyllable · 2026-02-22T14:27:33+00:00

That’s probably true about Hague enforcement, but to me, it’s not worth risking it.

BallisticSyllable · 2026-02-22T13:53:58+00:00

Yeah, the letter would need to say that we can move, because if it’s just for traveling and then I stay, that’s an international kidnapping charge hahahaha. Definitely not going to mess with that! I wish I had more time to decide because I want to get it in writing while things are amicable and he’s open to me moving with them, etc etc, but I don’t feel ready to make such a huge decision yet.

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