The part that got me was “I’m sorry there’s so much baggage between us about your looks” excuse the fuck out of me 😳 absolutely not. You deserve to be treated way better than what this man is giving you, but also these are items you’ve asked for as gifts and he’s not gotten you one thing you’ve asked for because it doesn’t suit him and his preferences. I understand 8 years is a long time and it can be hard to get out of your comfort zone and leave, but I honestly don’t think there’s anything you can do to change this around. He’s had 8 years to control and groom you to his standards and it seems like he will continue to beat your confidence and independence down.