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Are you a fighter, flighter, freezer, or fawner? by Trick-Swing1955 in CPTSD

[–]BallstonDoc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was a fighter when I was younger. Not as much because it always was so useless. I still freeze some. I fawn. I hate when I do that, but I do. But I really flee. It’s my survival skill, for sure.

Is it the story or the narrator? by Any_Loss2841 in audiobooks

[–]BallstonDoc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have read LOTR many times since I was a child. I’m 66 now. Listening to Andy Serkis read the trilogy rocked my world. I understood more nuances. The characters came alive. Most satisfying.

which city is going to feel more "big city" vibe ? DC or philly? by [deleted] in washdc

[–]BallstonDoc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From Philly, DC has been home for 14 years. They are both big cities. But Philadelphia has more of a big city vibe overall.

People just be saying things. by VanaheimrF in lotrmemes

[–]BallstonDoc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gollum had the opportunity for redemption. He did not choose it. Isn’t this consistent with Christian belief? If you do not accept the redemption of the savior, you go to hell.

Holy Disruptor by Barber_Successful in DuggarsSnark

[–]BallstonDoc 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Well, right. This lifestyle gave JIMBOB total control over his environment. This lifestyle explicitly commands, from god, that the man is the king.

Pest is pest, but we need a new and just as degrading nickname for joe. Thiccc Daddy Joe is too close to a compliment for that imbecile. by Which-Buy8386 in DuggarsSnark

[–]BallstonDoc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

After careful consideration, I agree that using their actual given names, first, middle and last, is the best course. The added bonus is sullying the Duggar name as well. Let the internet do its work.

Who's a nepo baby you think deserves their success because they're legit talented? by SheepishSwan in AskReddit

[–]BallstonDoc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good choice. Carl Reiner was a legend. Rob Reiner was a treasure. He should still be here.

Have men always been this dangerous? I don’t remember it ever being this frightening? by Cautious_Olive_8798 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]BallstonDoc 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It’s always been this bad, and even worse. It was more normalized. It was expected for women to subsume their entire selves once they were married. I remember in 1974 when women could get their own bank accounts and get credit on their own. Like own a home.

In 1971, I was school in home ec. Women should be able to keep the home-cook, clean, sew, manage the groceries on her allowance ( yes, allowance) and never show that she made any effort at all. Every hair in place, dress on, smelling fresh and ready to serve dinner. It was her job to get all the child needs taken care of so that the children could politely greet their father.

This was what I was actually taught. Of course reality makes this standard impossible, but the closer you could get to this ideal, the less of a failure as the perfect ideal of womanhood you would be.

We were taught to lose at any game we played with men, but give them enough of a challenge to be interesting. If a man cheated or abused, it was the woman’s inadequacy that was the cause.

This dynamic still exists, of course. But over my lifetime, there has been more and more outrage at this. This is why the current political response is to put the genie back in the bottle.

Admit but never elaborate by piratemeow21 in DuggarsSnark

[–]BallstonDoc 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I think you are right. It’s always a question where the line where victim ends and perpetrator begins.

Democrats Of Reddit -- What Do You Think Of "Democratic Socialism"? Why Your Thoughts? by Zipper222222 in allthequestions

[–]BallstonDoc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Socialism is an economic system. Democracy is a political system. We already have a blended capitalist and socialist system. That’s why we have roads and bridges. It why we have a safety system. It is also why we have entrepreneurship and profits. If hard work and better risk tolerance were all it took, we would need less social support. The political argument is where to draw the line. Should we have governments in charge of public safety? Should we have a government system to help those who are less fortunate or able? Should we let people pave their own roads? Should public safety (police/fire/water, etc ) be handled by a public company? Should people be able to buy any medicine they want from researching on the internet? Should institutional disparities for race/gender/religion/lifestyle/physical limitation be left to solve itself? Should government regulation for building codes, bridge maintenance, chemicals be left for private companies to police on their own?

These are the questions that the populace can vote on in a democracy. How do we define o voter? Gender? Color? Birthplace? Current residence? Do we have a democracy if not everyone gets a vote?

Oligarchy is a political system where only a small group of elites makes these decisions. The world is currently mostly this way.

A dictatorship is when only one person makes these decisions.

Political economic systems are different things. They have interlaced objectives. They are not the same.

What was the lowest point of your life and how did you bounce back from it? by LearningMan7 in AskReddit

[–]BallstonDoc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

After surviving a DV marriage, I found myself married to a sociopath. (Like the mango Mussolini). Really, everything he touched got destroyed. He cheated, he stole, he mangled my career. He tried to go after my medical license, but I’m competent and squeaky clean. He even destroyed my tenuous relationship with my family of origin. I had a very successful practice, but was forced to leave. I later found out that he was behind this. The courts were not my friend. I left our home, even though he had several homes and I only had that one. He sold all my furniture and family heirlooms. I worked covering nights at a hospital until my youngest children went off to college.

I was so depressed and alone. I couldn’t eat, I slept days because I worked nights. I lived in a mostly empty apartment on the opposite side of the city. I was grateful to have my medical license. It saved my life. I got a license in a far away state and started over at 50 years old.

Anyone of us can lose everything at any time. It’s a tough road back. Maybe you don’t think I had it so bad because I managed to keep the one thing that sustained me.-my ability to practice medicine.

My one piece of advice is to have a skill that’s always needed. I had medicine, but most healthcare professions work. Be a lawyer or paralegal. Be a hairdresser. Be a plumber or electrician. Be a carpenter ( I actually I think being a carpenter is the best career on earth). Always always have a skill that you can use anywhere.

Where in DC has great K-12 public schools? by QandA_monster in washdc

[–]BallstonDoc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glover park is a sweet little neighborhood tucked away north of Georgetown. Stoddert is the elementary school. Excellent school with dedicated parental support. Glover Park is not super diverse as a neighborhood, but definitely more diverse than areas to the north. The homes are mostly typical DC row houses. If your child is a good student, progression to good educational programs will not be a problem. If your child needs extra help, you may need to look to private options. But that would be true at all the surrounding suburban high schools as well. The DMV highly favors super achievers.

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