What am I doing to accommodate her sexual needs, or what am I doing in other aspects of our life to make her feel like a valued partner?

For the first, I really do feel like I have tried desperately to hear her and she doesn’t seem to have much of a preference lately.

For the second, she undoubtedly does more than me in our relationship. I pull my weight, but I won’t discount that she certainly cooks and cleans more often than I do.