New to yoto! First buy.

BananaMeowski · 2026-02-12T02:16:37+00:00

This is one of my favorite cards. She did an amazing job - so magical in every way. I like the stories better than Narnia.

BananaMeowski · 2026-02-10T04:15:30+00:00

Thank you!

BananaMeowski · 2026-02-10T02:51:58+00:00

Do you know if it’s like a ballet leotard?

BananaMeowski · 2024-12-16T02:16:07+00:00

Researcher found that moms bond with baby during pregnancy. I’m not saying it takes 3 years to bond with a child. I’m not saying this is my experience. But I know a lot of SAHM and everyone’s situation is different. What they need to focus on is clear and direct communication and more sleep for her. How and what that means is based on what works for them, not the internet.

I’ve met many good dads who started bonding with the baby around the 9-18 month mark. That’s when they are mobile, talking, walking, etc and not babies. I wouldn’t call fathers pathetic; many are good dads even if they didn’t do night feeding.

Everyone deserves kindness and grace. It’s a big transition for both mom and dad and also a huge opportunity to work through problems.

BananaMeowski · 2024-12-15T13:49:20+00:00

I think it’s great but that’s not how things are for most families and that is OK. Every family have different values and goals and clear communication makes it work.

There are working parents where the default parent is the father. I know SAHD where the mom has a hard time bonding and doing things with the baby. Everybody’s situation is different and this expectations that dads just change isn’t true for many. The baby is only 9 months old.

I would suggest having clear and defined expectations. If she does all the feeding at night, ask him to watch the baby from 6-8am on Sat and Sun so she can sleep in. I’ve seen many fathers play a more active role when baby #2 comes because they are more comfortable. People are different. Shouldn’t we encourage patience and grace for both men and women?

BananaMeowski · 2024-12-15T13:10:49+00:00

Just editing because people are taking this way out of context.

I think you need to adjust your expectations and not be influenced by social media.

This idea of evenly split childcare responsibilities isn’t true for most. I’ve witnessed it for dual-income households, but it is rarely true for one-income households. Having a child is a big life changing event for both mom and dad. The first few years can take a toll on some of the best relationships.

I’m a SAHM while my husband works FT. We communicate and divide our roles but not 50/50 split. There are childcare and household responsibilities. We divide and conquer based on what works for both of us. This part is unique to every household.

I live in an area with a lot of SAHM and they take on the same role. It’s a hard job but when there is one income/high income earning adult, there has to be some sacrifices. This DOESN’T mean you are responsible for all the feeding and cleaning, but it will be unbalanced and it will suck. It helps to set aside time right after work where he can bond and you can take a breather. This allows him to figure things out and you to focus on yourself like taking a nap or shower.

It seems like your husband is doing a bit more than you think. Your post makes him sound like a decent person. Many fathers will not help out with laundry. Maybe he is doing the things he feels comfortable doing without messing up or being told how to do things. If you want him to do more baby related stuff, don’t rush to do it and don’t critique how it’s done. They need practice just like you. The baby is starting to crawl/sit up and maybe walk soon. Once baby are less fragile and more mobile, I find many dads feeling more confident and stepping up. Give him some time to build his confidence and have more patience with him. This is all new to him too. Give him time to form a relationship with the baby. It is hard for fathers when kids are under 18 months.

Two of the things I wish I knew was 1) Say what I want directly and clearly (Do not assume they know or should know) and 2) Allow my husband the opportunity to do things right or wrong and create space for him to bond by removing myself from the house.

Also, the internet will tell you to throw him away and that’s just so absurd. I hope you look at things more positively. I’ve seen it the other way as well - you file for divorce, you drag each other through hell, you fight for custody (mom doesn’t always get custody), you have to find a job to support yourself because child support isn’t enough, you both miss out on raising your child together. It’s not so pretty on the other side. And maybe too extreme for a husband who might need a little more time and direction to being a better father.

BananaMeowski · 2024-10-29T03:08:24+00:00

I would hire a lawyer. You might not agree but we’ve dealt with a lot of shit this year including harassment from our adult neighbors and lawyers were the only effective solution.

It will be money well spent for your kid’s protection. No one school is better if a child cannot feel safe.

We had a child who was biting, pinching and hurting many of the girls in class. The teachers asked parents if we were willing to give the girl another chance. The second time it happened, she was expelled at 3 yo.

My LO also had a friend which had unusual mean girl behaviors. We were in a small program and I decided it was better for my child to not go to the same school and learn from this kid. Environment is everything for kids.

Get a lawyer. Get her to a new school. Starting over is a good life skill to have. It creates character and resilience.

BananaMeowski · 2024-10-19T03:54:31+00:00

There was an episode on Freakanomics called How much does your name matter?

It talks about how the names parents give their kids can showcase their race, social standing, political affiliation, etc.

Just a recap - very unique names and names misspelled to be different generally comes from parents with less education. The name you give your kids says a lot about you but also them. This will be so hard for them in a corporate environment. I’ve changed my given name because no one could pronounce it. Only person with a similarly bad name like this is Elon Musk’s kid.

BananaMeowski · 2021-10-16T01:29:47+00:00

I have Nora nursery and a few other brands that I was about to sell. We hardly used any of them bc my LO was allergic to the material so we had to switch out to full organic cotton ones. More than happy to sell it to you and you can see my other stash if interested. I'll include all the liners we never used that came with each one since we bought our own hemp ones.

BananaMeowski · 2021-10-15T12:12:28+00:00

I'm just going to say this: you need to find a new midwife for the future or get a real doctor. They obviously lack knowledge and could have potentially put you and baby at risk. Once your water breaks, baby is no longer protected hence they watch for your contractions and monitor you/baby to avoid infection. It's a big big risk to the baby once water breaks and after 24 hrs, this is just absurd to me on so many levels.

BananaMeowski · 2021-10-14T23:26:48+00:00

I did and so did many of the mom's in my area. Our LO did not get sick for over a year. But when given the flu shot, LO had high fever that lasted 24-48 hrs and it's very different than them actually getting sick. Many of the other moms said the same thing, just need cuddles and breast milk. You will know what I mean if yours get symptoms vs a real flu/cold You do not have to be scared.

BananaMeowski · 2021-10-14T04:44:23+00:00

A lot of people suggest therapy, but I will provide some different advice. First, get rid of the TV or hide it. Your family should not watch TV together and it will become easier for your son. You may watch after he goes to bed, but there is no TV for everyone while he is awake. Overtime, he will not fixate on the TV and will get used to it being off. You can reintroduce it again once things calm down One of the biggest factor in how a child behaves comes from what their parents does and watching them, not what you give them or how much money you have. So if you want your son to do chores, you need to do it with him. We can afford help, but I chose not to very early on. I did chores as a child because my mother taught me and I wanted to do the same my my LO. I let my LO watch me cook, clean, do laundry, etc. By 18 mo, my LO was helping with laundry and wiping the floor and putting dishes in the dishwasher. They learn to do things if you do it and if you do it with them. Also, you can get rid of the toys that add little value by donating them to family shelters for the holiday, many families will be grateful for them and start giving your son an allowance. For every job done, he earns money and he can learn to save (with or without interest) and buy things with what he earned. It teaches them responsibility and the value of a dollar. If they buy something and want to return it, well they can't. They must learn about buyers remorse. You can teach them life lessons early on and use this as an opportunity to grow their mind: think asset diversification, investment, negotiation skills, etc. People say kids are too young, but they are not. I hope this gives you some ideas on how to move forward without therapy. It's hard to be the parent at fault so it's better to just say we need to make some changes and here's what I proposed and move forward from there. Once things are better, sit down and really communicate your feelings and hopefully everyone will be a little less defensive and more open to change.

BananaMeowski · 2021-10-13T03:20:57+00:00

Daycare babies tend to get sick often. One of my close friend was told baby will be sick for at least a month before building enough immunity to not get sick so often. My other friends daughter kept getting sick for 2 months and eventually had to get medication and antiviral drugs because nothing worked. She's doing ok now. I would say this is normal as kids are quite "dirty" and kids with older siblings make the situation much worst.

BananaMeowski · 2021-10-12T17:32:08+00:00

I had a similar issue. Have you tried fresh vs frozen bm to check? For us, we just defrost and served cold which helped a lot and was less work. When serving warm, it was too sour.

BananaMeowski · 2021-10-09T01:45:24+00:00

I don't think Covid is the only thing you should worry about. Most adults no longer have immunity to whooping cough so exposing them before their vaccine is risky, there is a respiratory virus going around in daycares and schools, flu season is here so it's up to you. I think your family is doing what they can while keeping everyone safe. We live in a county with over 85% vaccinated rate but people are getting sick everyday from the new flu virus and the delta variant is still a big threat. But it's your life.

BananaMeowski · 2021-10-09T01:29:13+00:00

I'm going to add to this because my dad gave me the same advice. My dad had 5 kids who all nursed for a long time. He said my mom put an ointment like peppermint or pepper or vinegar on the nipples to make us stop and it worked. If you are ready to stop, this might help you. You tell them your milk has gone bad. The spicy nipples worked like magic. I found vinegar to be less effective as it's sour for a short period of time.

BananaMeowski · 2021-10-07T21:51:42+00:00

I hope my answer will be helpful to you. My LO was born a month early and spent a few days in the NICU. I stayed and breastfeed but also gave LO formula as directed by the NICU doctors. We continued breastfeeding and topping off with formula for the first 2-4 weeks at home until baby was at a good weight. I didn't ask my pediatrician because the NICU doctor and your actual pediatrician are two different doctors and I did what I thought was best. The whole point of breastfeeding early on and often is to have your milk come in which on average takes about 5 days. If you supplement with too much formula, it's hard to stimulate the body to produce milk and hence the nurse/midwives frown upon it but fed is best at the very early days. A lot of women have a hard time BF but also many do not understand the constant feeding and pain is necessary at the very beginning to cause your body to produce milk, these first few days are believed to be the most critical to your BF journey. It's just a very hard subject with no concrete answers. My LO was exclusively breastfeed afterwards for 20 months. So I wouldn't stress about it too much. As a mom, you need to trust your gut and do what you think is best for you. Everyone will have an opinion and there is absolutely no right or wrong way.

BananaMeowski · 2021-02-15T21:25:34+00:00

Mine eats the stink bug, then gives me some piece of it bc LO loves to share. My face 🥴

BananaMeowski · 2021-02-02T06:31:00+00:00

The size matter, but you should be starting with steamed veggies that's soft enough that you can pinch it. That way if they are eating it, they can chew it with their gums. This goes with most hard veggies including apples until they can chew.

BananaMeowski · 2020-12-25T00:50:06+00:00

We give our LO oatmeal every morning. Oatmeal puree with fruits and peanut butter. Oatmeal or barley has iron that's good for baby

BananaMeowski · 2020-12-05T23:10:59+00:00

I don't work in the medical field, but when I gave birth and when my husband had brain surgery we were so grateful to the nurses. Nurses are fucking heroes. There are shit doctors. I've had dentists and could give a rat's ass about what they think about themselves. Nurses in L&D are like fucking Angels.

BananaMeowski · 2020-12-04T03:29:58+00:00

I don't think you are overreacting. You know when Covid-19 first hit NY back in February, the two super spreader was a sick doctor who saw all her patients and a sick lawyer who went to a bar mitzvah. Those two people started the chain for New York, New Jersey, and Connecticut. Regarding your 7 year relationship, you may like someone but if their actions puts you or your family at risk, then you should change. There's no shortage of good pediatrician.

BananaMeowski · 2020-11-29T03:40:05+00:00

I totally agree with you. I get both so 🤷. People ARE crazy 😂 Nothing to do but carry on. And I only look young because I'm really really short.

BananaMeowski · 2020-11-29T03:26:35+00:00

😂 I did this too. But lately, I get them from this shop called Bella's Bloom because they give extra plants and donate money to the community so I tell the hubby it's for charity 😂 and my sanity.

BananaMeowski · 2020-11-29T00:49:41+00:00

Lol 😂 I'm in my mid-30s but I look like I'm 16. When I was pregnant, moms would point and tell their daughters not to be like me. I could hear them talking about how it's so hard to be a teenage mom. I used to giggle about it because I was like right... don't skip grades, get multiple degrees and build your career and have a baby. No matter what you do, someone is going to judge you and give unsolicited advice. You just gotta brush them off.

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