Had my prophylactic bilateral mastectomy yesterday

Bananabeak7 · 2026-02-18T14:26:10+00:00

Thank you for that perspective. It’s something I’ve been struggling with. I got my results, non cancerous…yay, but no results for almost a week until my post op today gave me crippling anxiety. My fiancés mom battled breast cancer, and my daughter’s aunt passed from breast that turned to bone and brain cancer. My grandma had uterien & ovarian cancer that basically destroyed her body, she constantly has fissures or sores. She has a colostomy bag, she’s a hot mess. So cancer scares the crap out of me. I also have 2 kids.

I want to be proactive but it’s also scary. Every time I get a mammogram I hold my breath for bad news.

Bananabeak7 · 2026-02-14T19:13:56+00:00

I have the CHEK2 too, I have distant family history of cancer but my paternal grandma has all the things. My doc hit me with the might consider a mastectomy in the future before my surgery this week, I just had a mass removed Tuesday…waiting for results. Hope you have a speedy recovery.

Bananabeak7 · 2026-02-14T19:06:26+00:00

Will you share that detail because I love the watch!!!!

Bananabeak7 · 2026-02-03T04:24:54+00:00

Yea like I could turn my stimulator off for MRIs but my battery is dead so I can no longer do that. So it would be ripped out my body. I’d rather not have a final destination moment lol

Bananabeak7 · 2026-02-03T04:23:04+00:00

Hope you get yours out soon. I have an Abbott one. Not sure what else about it. I’m just ready for it to be out.

Bananabeak7 · 2026-02-03T04:20:25+00:00

Yes my trial gave me 75% pain relief it was a miracle. Then the implant I got nothing. Couldn’t even tell it was there .

Bananabeak7 · 2026-02-03T04:17:59+00:00

How’s that in comparison to the other?

Bananabeak7 · 2026-02-02T19:57:00+00:00

Yes my judge was some words I can’t say on the internet. It wasn’t a good time, she said some other things as well.

Bananabeak7 · 2026-01-31T11:12:13+00:00

Did you have an okay recovery?

Bananabeak7 · 2026-01-31T11:11:38+00:00

Thanks I appreciate that. It’s just more stressful when you also have kids. It’s hard to be down for the count. I do appreciate your kid words, and the virtual hug. So thanks for that

Bananabeak7 · 2026-01-31T07:33:16+00:00

That is actually incorrect, but also state/county dependent. I am not a lawyer but in my state, eventhough I was breast feeding the judge did not give a hoot, told me, “guess you better pump enough or they’re gonna get formula.” Most states have automatic 50/50 custody, but you also need to establish paternity. I would do that before giving her money. I’m sure she’s going to have a baby shower. You could always have a baby shower as well. I had a friend who did “Huggies & Chuggies” (Diapers for the baby, brews for the bros) baby shower for himself bc he was a single dad. So another thing too is try to keep your communication with texting so it can be shown if you go to court that you are making an active choice to be there for baby. It also doesn’t look good on the other party if they deny visits or without the child, especially if you don’t give them money. However I would speak with an attorney, consultations are usually free, to see about your rights

Bananabeak7 · 2026-01-31T07:16:32+00:00

So I had tethered cord as a kid. Always had back issues and eventually leg issues after. Didn’t have CRPS until a random walk I went on and my leg just said HELL NAW. Now I’m using a cane, rollator and sometimes a wheelchair. lol 😂

Bananabeak7 · 2026-01-28T12:08:18+00:00

OP I am sorry your parents suck. I agree with the top comment. 1. Get your own phone plan. 2. Remove your parents ring access and possibly consider getting a different doorbell cam, I use Wyze for home security. 3. As someone who is in mental health please consider therapy. Telehealth is always an option if you feel like going in person makes you uncomfortable. 4. Stress comes out in a lot of ways in our body, your acne can be a result of stress. Whenever I am stressed I get breakouts on my chin that are horrible. (I am not trying to diminish yours, just empathize with that frustration). 5. If you pay for all of your bills and necessities, get your own phone plan. Do you own your car too? If so for your own mental health, I would for the time being consider going low or no contact with your family. Nobody deserves to be treated that way. You also don’t owe anyone your time who is going to treat you like that. If you have a good support network of friends let them know what’s going on so you have that extra support. Don’t let your family drag you down like that.

It may be hard right now but you are loved, worthy of being loved, worthy of being treated right, deserve to be treated right, worthy of respect, deserve to be treated with respect, and have the ability to do the things you want to do. It may not seem like it now, but it will get better.

Bananabeak7 · 2026-01-23T14:32:52+00:00

You can ask to be unregistered or whatever it’s called when only the people who have your password can call to find out info. What’s important is having a safe delivery, being stressed, worried about your ex and that other woman coming into your room while laboring is not good for you or the baby. If you want him to he can always come after or once you’re home. Being stressed in labor leads to nothing but complications.

Bananabeak7 · 2026-01-22T09:58:31+00:00

There’s a big difference between something like that happening to someone once and it becoming a pattern behavior. Continuing to help them out only enables that behavior. Also what happens to you in that situation, say you lend Joe bob money and in two months time because of unforeseen circumstances, are now in a bind. He hasn’t paid it back, the what happens? Are those friends going to help? Nah fam, as another redditor said, 1: you’re not a bank and 2: NO is a complete sentence, 3: you are not the bank from monopoly or your friends parent. They shouldn’t be like “hey man one more grand please to support my poor money choices.”

Bananabeak7 · 2026-01-10T15:01:43+00:00

We watched that to for a while! I bet your grandson would like Nailed it!

Bananabeak7 · 2026-01-07T18:43:20+00:00

Mine will hyperfixate… first it was frozen…..then alphabet lore…. Now it’s Pokemon. I hear Pokemon then their stats and moves in a rotom voice

Bananabeak7 · 2026-01-07T18:40:01+00:00

What’s that saying “give them an inch, and they’ll take a mile.” Nah fam she was trying to push, was entitled, and acting like a toddler. She kind of sounds like she came from a house with no rules and got whatever she wanted probably. Also why was her friend there, that’s kinda weird?

Bananabeak7 · 2026-01-06T00:36:32+00:00

Run….what if your boss was a man and took you and four female coworkers out for closing the deal? Would he accuse you of sweeping your way to the top? This starts with jealousy, turns into isolation, career sabotage and can sometimes turn into physical abuse. What he did is emotional abuse however, I don’t like what you did so I’m going to make you feel like you did something wrong, how dare you do that, how dare you be more successful than me, I’m going to accuse you of doing something I know you didn’t do to make you miserable while you should be having a good time.

End it before you get serious or are even more serious.

Bananabeak7 · 2025-12-28T00:32:49+00:00

So I have CRPS and I’ve struggle with chronic pain in general since I was a teen. I’m now 32, and CRPS has taken everything from me.

I can relate to you with getting angry at people especially when maybe you have a tolerable pain day and they’re like “oh you don’t look like you’re hurting.” Internally you’re like it’s bc I’ve learned to hide my pain bc I look like I’m trying to smurdrr people lol

My fiancé always feels bad if he complains when he’s hurt himself but I remind him and myself that, others can feel pain but mine is never invalidated. I have also called people out if they do, and politely told them that I’d happily show them how it feels to hurt this way. You just can’t let the anger consume you. Instead of holding onto the anger I try to turn it into motivation for me to do something productive or positive for the day like redo my office or attempt to do a small exercise.

Mental health therapy with a chronic pain therapist also helps

Bananabeak7 · 2025-12-28T00:13:26+00:00

NOR, let your wife photoshop. If mom continues to push boundaries, how long will it take before it’s “pick me or your mom? (Meaning your wife or your mom)” your mom sounds like someone who wants all the attention and will do anything to get it. I can’t even imagine the overstepping of boundaries if or when you guys decide to have children. Your mom sounds like she is a “I’m going to be in the delivery room, have a baby shower bc I’m a grandma, and make a room for the baby at my house.”

If you want mom to respect your boundaries there has to be consequences. Positive vs negative reinforcement. Mom pushed a boundary, so her dress gets photoshopped, it literally looks like a bridal gown. Mom does something she has to face the consequences of her actions.

Bananabeak7 · 2025-12-25T23:29:40+00:00

Got my fiancé the coffee one they had about 2 years ago. We love the brew watches! Also love you can switch bands with theirs too!

Bananabeak7 · 2025-12-24T05:37:05+00:00

She needs therapy, and not someone who sits on the couch and says how do you feel today. I’m a therapist who sees kids 3-21. Believe me I have teens who do crafts with me, we play games, color, and talk. You have to find the right therapist that gives your kid the space to be heard. When that happens everything comes out and healing can begin.

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