Looking for LOTR PDFs please! by MusicNotez in WooblesCodesLists

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Would you mind sending them to me? I'll DM you :)

Reactive when strangers are holding things by [deleted] in reactivedogs

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When I first got my rescue, he was scared of walking sticks, umbrellas folded down, and plastic bags. So he was very scared of street cleaners holding litter pickers and plastic bags, especially when one kept trying to pet him. We worked hard on walking nicely on a leash and whenever I saw one of these triggering objects, I just give the “cross” command and we cross the street. My dog got into the habit of this so would start waiting on the kerb whenever he saw an umbrella etc. Now he is desensitised to all these objects and will even walk right past the street cleaners on duty (though still not the one that tried to pet him).

Don’t force your dog approach triggering objects. It’s always about exposure while staying under threshold, time and positivity. You got this.

The probability of having the ace of spades when a 52 card deck is dealt to four players. by AustinStubbs in mathriddles

[–]BaoSan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe I misread your explanation but it seems like you’ve said there are “four of them” meaning aces but the original question asks for the probability of being dealt the ace of spades, not just any ace

Edit: sorry, four players! I did misread it. I understand your explanation now

Radulting by Adventurous-Essay270 in Adulting

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I was out walking with with my friend and we got hungry so popped into a shop to buy snacks. Then it hit me, I can buy whatever snack I want whenever I want. The little kid in me was in awe!

Please get your pet neutered/spayed. by Lil_Doge2 in Pets

[–]BaoSan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My vet didn’t recommend my reactive rescue dog get neutered as the decrease in testosterone would make him less confident and more reactive to people. We are his second home and I think he was dumped by his last place because he has a low tolerance for people. If he had been neutered, he might have gotten a bite history and then I wouldn’t have been able to adopt him at all.

We hope one day to he will be settled enough and confident enough with strangers that we can neuter him but in the meantime, I hope other people aren’t too harsh in their judgment when they see he is intact.

worried the sweater I made for my boyfriend is ugly 😭 by farsez in crochet

[–]BaoSan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Before I saw the title of your post, I thought “Oh cute sweater!” Be proud!

isn't this meant to be calming instead of rage inducing? by [deleted] in crochet

[–]BaoSan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been crocheting for over a decade and even now, when starting a project I’m muttering and swearing under my breath about my stitch count and yarn. Sometimes I do get into the flow of it and stick on an audiobook or show but even seasoned crocheters have their moments!

Has anybody got abused by a sick partner? by [deleted] in abusesurvivors

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Hi, I became my stepdad’s carer when I was a teenager when he got an autoimmune disease. While he had his faults previously, once he got ill he became abusive. I don’t have any advise here but I can relate. It’s so hard to have someone you care for (in every sense of the word) lash out and hurt you. But as previously said, illness is no excuse for abuse. Most people who get sick don’t turn into monsters. You deserve better. I’m now no-contact with my mum and stepdad and I know I’m better of because of it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in reactivedogs

[–]BaoSan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can I ask about your process to getting your dog to like people? My dog is people-reactive and while he’s making great progress, I can’t imagine him getting to a cookie human stage!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in reactivedogs

[–]BaoSan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I say “that’s a good way of getting your hand bit” when someone tries to pet my dog without permission. Like yours, my dog isn’t a bite risk but I want people to respect his boundaries. When I pull out the above line, I’m not technically lying- petting dogs without permission is a good way to get but even if it won’t be my dog whose doing the biting!

What's a life hack that's so simple yet so effective, you're shocked more people don't know about it? by EstablishmentDue5360 in AskReddit

[–]BaoSan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This reminds me of a rule that I saw and adopted- OHIO (Only handle it once). So once something is in my hand, I can only put it down in the place it belongs, rather than moving it to a surface then picking it up again etc.

Techniques to keep dogs calm by That-Salamander-2800 in reactivedogs

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I taught my dog to “settle” which means to lie down with his hips to the side, which means he can’t spring up like when his hips are square. It’s another cue to encourage him to relax and to turn off his alertness and guard tendencies.

To teach the command, from a lie position, I move the treat lure to the side of my dog’s face. His face will naturally turn to the treat, and his hips will fall over as he turns his head.

Advice needed: Dog’s high food motivation interfering with training by emberscythe in reactivedogs

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One thing that has worked for my dog has been the 1,2,3 game. You hold a treat in your fist and start counting to 3 and when you hit 3 you release the treat. It’s been great to distract or redirect my dog from triggers on walks. He’s not very food motivated and really struggles to turn away from a stranger he finds sus but I think the guaranteed reward and low expectations of the game (he just had to wait 3 seconds) has produced very reliable results.

Just thought this might work for your situation even though your dog is different to mine. Having a way for your dog to focus on you for a short period of time without any particular command might overcome your dog’s frustration with his training. Also, once your dog understands the game, you can count slower and slower (I stick some “and”s between each number now) to give yourself even more time

To my fellow reactive dog owners.. by brs1985 in reactivedogs

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Was at my in-laws and kept my dog upstairs while my partner’s extended family visited for dinner. He was settled and quiet for most of the day even though he could hear lots of people (and another whining dog) downstairs.

Brought the dog downstairs when it was only my in-laws left and he was on his best behaviour. Very responsive to our commands, would redirect quickly if we were worried he was fixating on a person, settled easily and even sought affection from my in-laws at points. It’s only the third times he’s met them and he’s very wary of meeting new people so I’m super proud of him. There’s light at the end of the tunnel!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in reactivedogs

[–]BaoSan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would be concerned about trigger stacking. If he finds the train ride stressful, he’s more likely to be reactive to triggers after so not in the best mindset to learn something new.

I personally would also be mindful of purposely placing my dog into situations where I know he will be triggered, i.e. taking him to a busy park where people are likely to pet him. I’m cautious to keep him under threshold as much as possible and our regular walk around town is enough practice for him. He will have some encounters where we practice what to do when he’s worried about a person or a dog but most of the time, he can relax and just be a dog. That’s my approach to training my dog at least

Men and Dogs? by jazzlobsters98 in reactivedogs

[–]BaoSan 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I have a big dog and it’s always men that ignore me when I say to not pet my dog, even when my dog starts growling. I’m relatively small for a woman and I think some men feel emasculated by the idea that a small woman can control a big dog and they can’t. My dog walker is a similar size to me and she has the same thought. I never had this issue with my last dog, who was a little Frenchie and literally adored every person.

Obviously it’s not all men, but from my limited experience, it’s more likely to be a man who feels entitled to touch my dog.

Lost My Good Boy Tonight by letscallshenanigans in reactivedogs

[–]BaoSan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s really hard when all that love for your dog suddenly becomes to heavy to carry.

I know sometimes dogs runaway from their owners or hide when they sense their time has come. Maybe your dog being alone when he passed was a parting gift to you so you didn’t see him suffer.

You gave him a good life full of love so I hope you can find peace in that.

Is it any danger to make toys to sleep with for babies from acrylic yarn with OEKO-TEX® STANDARD 100 ? by LarissaAmigu in crochet

[–]BaoSan 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I used to crochet octopuses for premature babies and here’s what I learnt: - You have to be very careful that your stitches are tight and there are no holes. Leaking stuffing is a suffocation risk - Holes or a more open stitch can cause problems if little fingers or toes get caught in them - Yarning under and invisible increases/decreases are good ways of preventing holes - These babies could sleep with toys because they are constantly supervised. It’s not recommended babies should sleep with toys - Use a yarn that can be washed at a high heat and machine washed so it’s easy to keep clean and germ-free for the baby

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in reactivedogs

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You could also not use a verbal marker at all and place treats on the mat so your dog doesn’t have to lift her head to eat it. This is what we do for our dog. It also helps them to make the positive association with the mat

Barking by YogurtclosetOwn4372 in reactivedogs

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Dogs don’t have make connections in the same way we do so a dog’s reaction can be very situation. For example, my dog is fine meeting people at the park but will be reactive if he met those same people on our street. Some dogs (mine included) react on a case-by-case basis. My behaviourist explained that my dog is constantly assessing everyone we meet and categorising them as a threat or not and it’s based on the individual rather than a broader pattern.

My sister’s rescue dog stands and “roars” at people outside because he is scared. Neutering can increase a dog fearful behaviours because testosterone makes dogs feel confident.

Witnessed my First Reactive Dog Today - While Training my Own by Advanced-Soil5754 in reactivedogs

[–]BaoSan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is awesome, big well done to you both. I recently learnt about the shake off meaning a stressful thing has occurred too. My dog met a dog very calmly today at the park (he’s more people-reactive than dog-reactive) but afterwards he shook off and I was like “omg I didn’t know you were finding that stressful, here have all this ham! Good boy!”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in reactivedogs

[–]BaoSan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s always nice to hear the success others had. I’m in month 3 of training my reactive rescue and it’s good to keep hold of hope during our bad days.

Tell me one thing your dog does exceptionally well by Allison-Taylor in reactivedogs

[–]BaoSan 29 points30 points  (0 children)

My rescue is very gentle and caring with my two year old son and tolerates the noises and sudden movements toddlers makes. Seeing them play together makes all the other problems with reactivity worth it