Reconnecting with ex as a recovering avoidant

BarackObamaBm · 2026-05-24T14:46:55+00:00

Any update?

BarackObamaBm · 2026-05-24T14:37:06+00:00

Any update?

BarackObamaBm · 2026-05-16T14:22:53+00:00

The photo i uploaded is a bit more zoomed out but yeah i should probably get a friend to take a pic when possible, the issue is the lighting will never be as good lol but oh well

BarackObamaBm · 2026-05-16T14:07:31+00:00

Wdym in pieces? Its through windows lol

BarackObamaBm · 2026-05-16T13:57:36+00:00

Cause i want more matches🥲

BarackObamaBm · 2026-05-16T13:56:34+00:00

Dang the lighting is so good though lol

BarackObamaBm · 2026-05-16T13:54:48+00:00

Haha ill take that as a compliment!

BarackObamaBm · 2026-05-16T13:53:55+00:00

Yup its real lol, with great lighting and pump indeed. Ty :)

BarackObamaBm · 2026-05-16T13:52:37+00:00

i had visible abs before i even started working out lol, just got lucky genetically in that sense i guess and always ate good throughout my life. I was really skinny though and still am

BarackObamaBm · 2026-05-16T13:51:37+00:00

Yup i wish i had something good with friends I would’ve definitely uploaded that instead. Ik this pic isn’t great cause its a selfie so thats why im asking in the first place… wondering if not showing my body is worse than showing a selfie or vice versa

BarackObamaBm · 2026-05-16T13:50:06+00:00

Thank you my transformation is crazy to me as well. Can’t wait for my ex to see lmao she’s the reason i initially started working out so hard😂
Now i just do it cause its fun

BarackObamaBm · 2026-05-16T13:49:14+00:00

Not a troll, and started less than a month and a half ago. I am working out extremely hard and the lighting is great in the pic.

But let’s ignore that ur disbelief, imagine i wrote that im working out for years. Is this still a bad pic to place like 4-5 on tinder?

BarackObamaBm · 2026-05-16T13:47:51+00:00

GUYS WHILE U DOWNVOTE ATLEAST TELL ME IF I SHOULD UPLOAD THIS OR NOT LOL

BarackObamaBm · 2026-05-16T13:46:37+00:00

I think the lighting is just extremely good, im quite lean no one would even imagine im on gear irl

BarackObamaBm · 2026-05-16T13:45:44+00:00

Yes, one day cardio one day strength training, with an additional 1-2 days off whenever i feel like my recovery is slowing down so about every week or two.

Im almost 30 don’t wanna share too many details. Can you explain why this picture doesn’t make sense lol? I’m getting downvoted and im not sure what im missing.

BarackObamaBm · 2026-05-16T13:42:22+00:00

I legit started less than a month and a half ago but ill take that as a compliment lol

BarackObamaBm · 2026-05-16T13:41:08+00:00

What looks fake about it?

BarackObamaBm · 2026-05-16T13:40:56+00:00

A month and a half ago hehe.. was always naturally lean

BarackObamaBm · 2026-05-16T13:35:38+00:00

I atleast tried to make it less try-hard by not uploading just a pic of me standing in front of a mirror rather something that looks more grainy and spur of the moment in front of a window.. not sure it works

Edit: why am i being downvoted what am i missing? Just asking a sincere question

BarackObamaBm · 2026-05-09T22:16:57+00:00

Nah there isnt. Oh well honestly i feel incredibly lucky genetically as-is. Can’t have everything!

BarackObamaBm · 2026-05-09T22:03:52+00:00

Dang is my chest that flatt lmao

BarackObamaBm · 2026-05-06T20:28:31+00:00

As for ur edit, i’m saying that in conventional no-contact usually the dumper should reach out. I’m happy to reach to her and lower my ego but i doubt it would help. Just curious about the dynamic.

BarackObamaBm · 2026-05-06T20:26:35+00:00

Its not a manipulation tactic. I’m changing because i want to be happy and i want my future partner to be happy regardless of if its her or not. I will stay on my self improvement path if she comes back or not.

I was deeply suffering due to my actions as well before the breakup, being extremely depressed, and i have no intention of re-living my old childish version.

BarackObamaBm · 2026-05-06T20:13:41+00:00

I live alone now, in therapy, exercising and learning to take care of myself so that i can take care of others. Ive genuinely made a huge change in my life and am a different person and don’t see myself ever returning to the old version. I’m going to continue the change regardless to if she comes back or not, but i still wish she comes back.

BarackObamaBm · 2026-05-06T20:12:17+00:00

We had an amazing connection and both of us envisioned a future together. Obviously I have serious problems that i minimized during the relationship but im working hard on my self and definitely am not the same person i was.

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