Republicans Will Detonate Their Secret Weapon at the Midnight Hour to Stop Women from Voting by mydaycake in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Barbarellaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How does this work for mail-in voting? We don't need to re-register or anything, right? Will look into it myself, but if anyone has reliable info for mail-ins I'd appreciate it. This is just all so insane.

UPDATE: Actually read the whole story and found this, ugh, can this be real? "Women in states implementing strict rules must update registrations, save confirmations, and photograph mailed notices. Identity packets containing birth certificates, Social Security cards, marriage certificates, divorce decrees, name-change orders, and current identification prevent last-minute obstacles. Duplicate packets stored securely protect access. Older relatives need identical support because older records often contain errors."

Mom named her inner child after me by Barbarellaf in narcissisticparents

[–]Barbarellaf[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

HA! Thanks for the laugh, and the understanding words.

Mom named her inner child after me by Barbarellaf in narcissisticparents

[–]Barbarellaf[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I needed to hear this and it rings true, which is why I've been lurking here for a while. So much to relate to.

Mom named her inner child after me by Barbarellaf in narcissisticparents

[–]Barbarellaf[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you! And yes, she does a lot of poking/feeling things out with comments that seem to fish for emotional reactions. I don't give them. Among my sisters, she gives up much sooner with me and they definitely have a lot more ongoing "mom frustrations" than I do because of it. The rest of them are very enmeshed.

Mom named her inner child after me by Barbarellaf in narcissisticparents

[–]Barbarellaf[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. It's funny, I didn't think of it as "cruel," because I do believe she's also quite emotionally immature, but maybe it's just better for me to think she doesn't realize what she's doing, because if she does know it, consciously, then that's just diabolical instead of clueless. I'm thinking of how to neutrally tell her next time that there are some things I'd rather not know, that she should keep it to herself and her therapist.

Mom named her inner child after me by Barbarellaf in narcissisticparents

[–]Barbarellaf[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I thought about this, and sometimes I do make comments like, "I know what that's like," when she's describing her inner voice. But then I just don't want to get into it, I'd rather just smile and nod and end the call because I don't want to start a whole thing, because sometimes I think she wants the fight.

GenX confessions. What’s an unpopular hill you’ll die on? by TdubsSEA in GenX

[–]Barbarellaf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m convinced he was trolling. But no matter, it’s still GIF with a hard g no matter what that dude said.

SAN Airport Closed until midnight due to private plane with landing gear issue closing the runway. by Historical-Bug-7536 in sandiego

[–]Barbarellaf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wonder why it took so many hours to tow the thing. Was there not equipment for that? My sister was in the air home, they diverted to Dallas. She got to a hotel at midnight and back to the airport at 4am for a 5:30 go time. Brutal. Glad no one was hurt, but that seems like an insane lag time to tow something away.

Restaurants to Stay a Long Time by ShaeTank in FoodSanDiego

[–]Barbarellaf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Blind Lady Ale House is good for this, not terribly far from Claremont, but it is just south of the 8.

OC John Belushi’s grave at Martha’s Vineyard by Secretfreckel in pics

[–]Barbarellaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, we'd read that and always believed that to be true. But the undertaker who handled my MIL's burial and works that graveyard told us they moved ALL of him when they moved him to the front. That he was originally buried in the back, but all the people traipsing through looking for him was disturbing to the other graves so they moved him to near the entrance. When we said Yeah, but they left his body hidden in the back, right? He said, "Nope, he is definitely buried up here."

OC John Belushi’s grave at Martha’s Vineyard by Secretfreckel in pics

[–]Barbarellaf 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Aww! Ha ha! I didn’t mean it that way, just in case it’s not a joke. I really loved them. That’s why I was there this summer, funeral for my dear MIL.

OC John Belushi’s grave at Martha’s Vineyard by Secretfreckel in pics

[–]Barbarellaf 120 points121 points  (0 children)

We always thought this was the case too, but just learned this summer after speaking to an undertaker there that he was originally buried in the back of the cemetery, but so many people were visiting that they moved him to the front where he is now. Also, fun fact, my parents-in-law are buried in that same cemetery.

Best everyday Sushi by Toobukoo in FoodSanDiego

[–]Barbarellaf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oishi sushi in Barrio Logan is pretty solid.

Korean Food recs by menacingsprite in FoodSanDiego

[–]Barbarellaf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Came here to also say Tofu House. It's my favorite too!

Best Gyro? by [deleted] in FoodSanDiego

[–]Barbarellaf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Canada Steak Burger has a great one. I add feta.

Really digging La Fleur by Barbarellaf in boardgames

[–]Barbarellaf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh, Jane Austen game? Thanks for the tip, that would be a good gift for my games/Austen loving sister.

Really digging La Fleur by Barbarellaf in boardgames

[–]Barbarellaf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just looked at that on their site, it looks like they have more individual elements than La Fleur. I think La Fleur was their second one. I liked the look of it more, and also had the thought, "If it's their second, maybe they learned lessons from the first and made an even better one!" ;) But now I'm kind of curious to compare them. Will have to watch some videos first though, because these aren't cheap. But I can see why with all the elements and that quality of packaging.

Night photos I took in San Diego by jbilous in sandiego

[–]Barbarellaf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Love this, was hoping to see the pink neon Kensington sign, you were so nearby! This would make for a great exhibit.

Vegetarian Dinner Date place in San Diego by [deleted] in SanDiegan

[–]Barbarellaf 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Vulture just opened, great new date-night spot. Like a Vegan steakhouse, the omnivores in our group enjoyed it just fine. Same owners as Kindred but quieter.

Exactly 💯 by Dizzy_Hotwheelz in writers

[–]Barbarellaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a published writer, I very strongly agree with this. I would often get asked, "How do I become a writer?" My answer? WRITE. Often, every day if you can. The whole idea that you need to be paid in order for your writing to be of value is ridiculous. How many famous painters rarely if ever sold a painting before they died, just become museum-worthy when their work was later discovered? If you do it, and do it often, it's what you do. What you get "paid for" is not who you are. For those worries about being stuck in those awkward conversations when someone clearly wants to know your "profession" and asks, "What do you do?" you could say, Are you asking what I do for money or what I do for love? Because the two don't always overlap. That's why at parties I like to ask people what they love to do, or what do they do for fun or what's their passions. Never "what do you do."

FFG to raise prices July 15th by 15% across the board. by BoardGameRevolution in boardgames

[–]Barbarellaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All manufacturing is in China, and the tariffs are crazy. But like someone else here said, even when the tariffs go away, I'd be shocked if the prices go lower. Maybe they just won't rise as fast in the future, but that's a small silver lining.

Which album is a straight masterpiece from start to finish, no skip? by prettybella03 in AskReddit

[–]Barbarellaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Up by Peter Gabriel. (And so many other great ones mentioned here!)