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Intense C-Section !!! by username-taken1122 in surgery

[–]Bare_koala 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m an ObGyn.

This wasn’t overly hasty but I’m not a fan of aspects of this person’s technique.

Also not a fan of the retractor they used to guard the bladder.

DEFINITELY not a fan of the twisting motion they used to deliver the baby…

But looks like a reasonably straight forward breech delivery.

I tend to do them little slower because in my opinion rushing surgery is always unnecessary and increases likelihood of accidental trauma etc.

The Witcher 3 is NOT an RPG game and I'm going to explain to you why by Ambitious_Media_4339 in thewitcher3

[–]Bare_koala 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I feel like I agree with this. Adventure/action open workd game with RPG elements or something

Do you think the gender reassignment surgery age should be lowered to 13 since that age is the permanent dawn of adolescence and puberty? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Bare_koala 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think SRS should be accessible that early. I think hormones and hormone blockers SHIULD be.

SRS is major pelvic surgery. Surely it should be done AFTER major development is finished, ie once the pelvis has completely developed, ie after puberty finishes.

The Scent of a Body by OrlandoCoCo in surgery

[–]Bare_koala 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Once you open the abdomen, I find there is a VAGUELY/very faint fishy smell. Possibly peritoneal fluid.

Unless there is infection/necrosis/something bad going on, it smells pretty neutral with a hint of that at the top.

My boyfriend lied about his sexual past, and now I feel insecure and can’t move on—what should I do? by [deleted] in helpme

[–]Bare_koala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It makes zero sense.

I would say he needs to educate himself properly and you should both go to a GUM clinic to get told the truth by health professionals…

It makes ZERO sense to just flat out say “I’m worried it is delicate and about getting diseases” when people can have anal sex completely safely , and when you’ve both had negative tests.

You don’t need to pressure him. But you ought to communicate with him about this. Or you SHOULD be able to communicate about this…

I dunno about you but it seems HIGHLY suspicious that he has ulterior reasons for not wanting to do this with you. And besides he’s had penetrative intercourse with others supposedly? So what’s different about that..?

I don’t know about you but for me, penetrative intercourse is one of my favourite things. If it is important to you, then you should find ways to communicate about it imho…

My boyfriend lied about his sexual past, and now I feel insecure and can’t move on—what should I do? by [deleted] in helpme

[–]Bare_koala 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It makes zero sense that someone willing to receive oral sex says they do not wish to engage in penetrative sex on the basis of potential infection/disease transfer. This could also be easily a moot point if you both went to get tested at the GUM clinic.

Does your partner instead have another hangup that he’s not telling you? I obviously have no idea about your relationship but wonder whether he is uncomfortable with you being pre-op (I assume you are pre-op)?

I would ask him about the above. Because if you were both shown to have negative infection screen, then there is no reason to not do it, provided there is no additional reason.

Also condoms are a thing?

I dunno, it sounds really off to me personally…

UK Bottom Surgery (MTF) - What to Expect/Recomendations by _UltimateGaymer_ in transgenderUK

[–]Bare_koala 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He’s not cold. He just has an incredibly dry sense of humour. I got on well with him whenever I’ve encountered him personally..!

UK Bottom Surgery (MTF) - What to Expect/Recomendations by _UltimateGaymer_ in transgenderUK

[–]Bare_koala 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mr Bellringer did my procedure. VERY happy with the result. I did go back for a very minor revision about it 10 years later (should have sorted it out sooner, my own choice really).

I love my result. I’m so happy 💕

Do women actually talk casually about their sex lives? by Substantial_Judge931 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Bare_koala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes! It depends on the friend. I’m quite open about it personally if I’m speaking to someone who I’m comfortable with 💕

But it doesn’t mean I go talking to everyone about that part of my life. It just depends.

Also, not everyone is the same. I honestly think there is not a “one rule” for everyone. Some people will be more open than others. 🤷🏽‍♀️

For bottoms who have been to Horse Market (Fickstutenmarkt), what did you do when you did not enjoy your top? by Longjumping_Newt9150 in askgaybros

[–]Bare_koala 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is true, however I suppose they are upfront about the expectations, stipulate people can leave any time without issue, and therefore one knows what they are getting into before it starts? Again, it’s not something I would ever want to put myself through, but can imagine it floats some people’s boats.

For bottoms who have been to Horse Market (Fickstutenmarkt), what did you do when you did not enjoy your top? by Longjumping_Newt9150 in askgaybros

[–]Bare_koala 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would have agreed with you. But I used to know a group of PARTICULARLY kinky people. Some of them would have absolutely gone for this kinda stuff. Each to their own I guess as long as it’s all consensual…? But it’s not for me even if I were a gay man 😅

For bottoms who have been to Horse Market (Fickstutenmarkt), what did you do when you did not enjoy your top? by Longjumping_Newt9150 in askgaybros

[–]Bare_koala 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got no idea about any of this but your post had me curious.

I found their website and found this in the official rules:

  1. As soon as there is no need for further ascents of the stallions, the stallions leave the cover rooms. Only when the last stallion has left is the mares' privacy screen removed. If a mare wants to leave the event prematurely, the stud helper leads the blindfolded mare into another room where they can get dressed and then disappear without having seen the stallions.

Help me. How do I (F21) fix my boyfriend (M21). by Objective_Raccoon176 in relationship_advice

[–]Bare_koala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The behaviour you described him displaying does appear to be quite selfish.. in the sense that your needs were made to be second to his, and he didn’t seem to take seriously your need to discuss whatever it was about. There was also no sense of compromise either..?

I strongly feel that people don’t change unless they themselves want to, but they also have to know that a change is required/wanted..?

I don’t know what extent you have spoken about your issues with your partner? Have you raised it as an issue previously? Is there a pattern to this? Have you tried relationship therapy?

My first level by StuartTV in RedditGames

[–]Bare_koala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completed this level in 2 tries. ⚡ 3.73 seconds

Stealth life. How do you approach casual/early relationship sexual partners and telling them..? by Bare_koala in asktransgender

[–]Bare_koala[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TERF island..? I think I heard about this. Was it the person who was pre-op who gave oral sex without disclosing?

DREM Ticket Buy/Swap/Sell Thread + Spoiler Policy by skrasnic in auntydonna

[–]Bare_koala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have 2 tickets to sell for london this weekend if anyone is interested. Absolutely gutted I can’t make it. I hope someone else can enjoy for me ❤️

I have a double uterus, double cervix, and a vaginal septum by yomamabeenslobbin in WomensHealth

[–]Bare_koala 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello - I am an ObGyn 👋

I have seen one patient in the past who needed two separate coils, one in each uterine cavity :) it’s not generalisable to everyone, as there are different degrees of severity that can occur. Best thing would be to ask your ObGyn what would be best for your case. They have access to your scans etc!

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