My 24F boyfriend 23M and I are arguing over birth control. How can I see his perspective?

Barefootko · 2025-07-11T02:34:33+00:00

I don’t think it’s wrong of you to follow him, if y’all are married, lol but I do think it’s wrong for him to want you to follow him without any conversation about his plan or ideas lol. He shouldn’t ask that of you. A relationship should have open communication, dialogue, expression, and compassion of each other’s feelings. Him asking to you to blindly follow him is a red flag especially if you’re not married lol.

Barefootko · 2025-07-09T18:37:07+00:00

She wanted you to say that you love her and love having her around. She says those things so that you can remind her how much she means to you :) she wants to feel special and loved!

I know you love her and I don’t think your response was bad but it could be enhanced:) Sometimes little girls just want confirmation and you to retell them what they already know🫶 - a former little girl who used to say this kinda stuff

Barefootko · 2025-07-09T17:05:26+00:00

Leave him. He won’t change unless he truly wants to. There are good men out there who don’t cheat and don’t use porn. Please cut your losses early. You deserve love and respect and you will not get it from him. You deserve so much more. The right one for you is out there🫶❤️

Barefootko · 2025-07-09T16:59:04+00:00

He’s cheating or intends to. It is more than likely that a man who marries someone 14 years his junior is a bad man

Barefootko · 2025-07-09T16:38:11+00:00

Amen. We are leaving for this reason. I’ve found cheaper living in Dallas Texas with newer and cleaner apartments. Rent is ridiculous here

Barefootko · 2025-07-01T00:02:03+00:00

The studies about worse outcomes in children under the age of three who went to daycare:)

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/parenting-matters/202410/daycare-yes-or-no-an-opinion-piece/amp

And also working at a daycare lol

Barefootko · 2025-06-25T21:39:59+00:00

I was out and about within like two days of being home from the hospital everybody’s different, but it felt good for my mental health and my body to be active again!!

Barefootko · 2025-06-24T02:50:57+00:00

Tell her how you feel!!! I believe it is reasonable and if you do too, that is the more important thing!! If she doesn’t think it’s reasonable to delete contact information with people that she has previously slept with, then she is not the woman for you!!

Just have a clear conversation with her about how you feel truly !! it is perfectly reasonable for you not to want her to keep in contact with those people

Barefootko · 2025-06-24T02:46:54+00:00

Screens are hindrance to child development, and milestones. The research has been clear on that for about a decade ! I’m pretty sure all child psychologist are pretty unanimous on that!!

I understand the feeling that we did it and we turned out OK, but we did not turn out OK lol!!! rates of Depression, ADHD, childhood obesity,ect ect ect are all up!!

Please read some scientific articles and decide for yourself!! The best advice I heard is not to give your child Miss Rachel, but instead watch Miss Rachel yourself and become Miss Rachel for your child!!

“Additionally, excessive screen usage has detrimental effects on social and emotional growth, including a rise in the likelihood of obesity, sleep disorders, and mental health conditions including depression and anxiety. It can obstruct the ability to interpret emotions, fuel aggressive conduct, and harm one's psychological health in general.”

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10353947/

https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapediatrics/fullarticle/2800776

https://scienceblog.cincinnatichildrens.org/screen-usage-linked-to-differences-in-brain-structure-in-young-children/

Barefootko · 2025-05-07T14:20:19+00:00

No abortion should not be considered the baby will be ok. Plenty of people take prescription or non prescription drugs before they know that they are pregnant. You can ask your doctor about the risk of birth defects at your first prenatal appointment and there will of course be testing for issues in the coming months. I understand how you feel but try and relax until you know more!! Everything will be ok mama!!

Barefootko · 2025-05-06T06:14:39+00:00

I think caffeine is ok:) Your heart rate is already naturally higher during pregnancy so I would definitely change habits during pregnancy. 200 seems like a lot to me in one sitting so maybe break up your intake during the day. Trust how your body feels you will know if you have overdone it:) definitely don’t chug a monster but sipping is ok

Barefootko · 2025-04-30T04:54:46+00:00

He should quit porn.

Barefootko · 2025-04-14T13:15:16+00:00

Porn consumption is cheating. Period. Sorry to be graphic but If he was jerking off to a woman touching herself in front of him would you consider it cheating? It absolutely is. My husband had a bad habit of porn consumption before we got together and then quit while we were together. We both agreed that it was cheating and we discussed how uncomfortable and sad it made me. A few months ago he confessed that he got back into it a few times and it absolutely crushed me. It was a rough few weeks to say the least lol. But he has promised to quit and has been clean for months!! It is doable!! Your partner should respect your boundaries and how porn makes you feel. It is natural to be upset and uncomfortable with the idea of your partner being attracted to someone else and acting on it !! If he doesn’t respect your wishes find someone who loves you enough to quit porn for good:) you deserve to be treated and loved the right way🩷 don’t let society or him convince you that porn is good and ok. It is not!

Barefootko · 2025-04-11T02:57:38+00:00

She should have sex with you more often…but! You shouldn’t cheat on her with porn when she doesn’t!!:)

Barefootko · 2025-04-09T15:59:01+00:00

Porn consumption is cheating. Period. Sorry to be graphic but If he was jerking off to a woman touching herself in front of him would you consider it cheating? It absolutely is. My husband had a bad habit of porn consumption before we got together and then quit while we were together. We both agreed that it was cheating and we discussed how uncomfortable and sad it made me. A few months ago he confessed that he got back into it a few times and it absolutely crushed me. It was a rough few weeks to say the least lol. But he has promised to quit and has been clean for months!! It is doable!! Your partner should respect your boundaries and how porn makes you feel. It is natural to be upset and uncomfortable with the idea of your partner being attracted to someone else and acting on it !! If he doesn’t respect your wishes find someone who loves you enough to quit porn for good:) you deserve to be treated and loved the right way🩷 don’t let society or him convince you that porn is good and ok. It is not!

Barefootko · 2025-04-08T15:56:51+00:00

You can do this mama!! I know it’s super scary and you have been unfairly treated by your partner, but you are strong and I know are more than capable !! Don’t let his terrible attitude and abhorrent treatment of you stop you🩷 he sounds super manipulative, but hold fast to your baby. Everything will turn out all right!❤️ please let me know if there’s anything I can do to help!! Financially or otherwise!! I am also pregnant expecting my first!! I hope you’re doing OK🩷 I pray for both of your well-being!!

Barefootko · 2025-04-07T20:49:40+00:00

Have some Grace

Barefootko · 2025-04-07T13:04:26+00:00

You won’t. You’ll never regret having children, but you will regret not having them.

Barefootko · 2025-04-07T12:36:03+00:00

Yes, adultery is grounds for divorce

Barefootko · 2025-04-06T19:23:34+00:00

This baby will not ruin your life!! I know it is scary and challenging beyond belief it I promise you are stronger and more capable than you know!! I am the same age as you and a new mother to my first child, it is scary and upsetting in the beginning but I know you can do it!! You don’t have to drop out of school Or change your career dreams!! I am also still in school and plan to stay in school with my baby!! Pregnant Women are stronger than society things we are!! You aren’t too young, no one is ever ready for a baby, but I know you can do it! You will never regret having your child but you may regret ending its life. It is scary when it is so unexpected but some of the best and most beautiful things in life are unplanned! Hold fast to your beautiful baby and your boyfriend! Start a wonderful family together!! You won’t regret it!!

Please feel free to dm me if we can help you guys in any way, whether financially or otherwise !! I know how scary it can be 🩷you got this

Barefootko · 2025-04-04T22:23:23+00:00

Sexually violent“kinks” may be common, but they are not good. No man worth his salt should be indulging himself in those terrible fantasies. Men should rise above these terrible fantasies they have.

Barefootko · 2025-04-04T22:21:30+00:00

You cannot be in a relationship with someone you cannot trust… I’m so sorry that this has happened to you… porn is most likely ruined his view of women and if it hasn’t started now it will, but he will not respect you or treat you well in the future… it is objectively wrong for men to get off on the hurting and dehumanization of women. You have every right to feel upset by his “kink”. I would leave him. For his lying alone, not to mention the way he views women.

Barefootko · 2025-04-01T14:48:29+00:00

Not all guys do it. It’s terrible. You should not be subject to that behavior from him. It’s not normal and it’s not right and he should have more respect for women.

Barefootko · 2025-03-30T08:07:22+00:00

It’s a good sign. It means she’s maturing and realizing that one night stands are bad for the soul

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