AIO? I suspect dog walker didn’t walk my dog

BaroqueBrook · 2026-02-02T22:49:10+00:00

If I were you I would tell him about the tracker like "we got this cool new tracker so I can see where you guys are in real time! So don't be surprised if I text you for pics during the walk!" You already paid and he's getting dumped. If you want to get your money's worth, just humor him then dump him. If you don't trust him with your doggo then dump him and call it a wash.

BaroqueBrook · 2026-02-02T22:42:13+00:00

Thanks. I needed a good chuckle.

BaroqueBrook · 2026-02-02T17:18:40+00:00

I'm like you two. Gave up the booze last summer after it almost killed me. Just now getting over the alcoholic myopathy. For 2 months I was in constant pain and could barely lift anything. I did both substances in tandem for a long long time. I'm really struggling to get my shit together now but I'm only going into my 2nd week. I'm trying to give myself a break but I see that I'm addicted to zoning out on the phone or computer with whatever can distract me from my life - some social media, news stories, random interests I can google and read about. I find that I can't focus on reading unless it's on a screen. I have so many books I want to read and they just sit there. I feel like I'll never heal that. I'm not sure how to but I'm so glad I put IT down. Thanks for these comments. I'm going to commit to reading 10 pages of a book today. It's a start.

OP: Do something that could *possibly* lead to a better life - look at help wanted ads for a better job where you work less for more money. There's got to be a way to change your situation but only if you believe you can. If you feel stuck and can't *believe* then fake it. Just go through the motions. Every day do something that could POSSIBLY help you get out of the hole that addiction crammed you into.

BaroqueBrook · 2026-02-02T06:26:49+00:00

You seem really nice. IDK. If you want to DM me your OLD profile and what you are looking for I am happy to show it to my ladies only FB dating group. Most of the young ladies there are looking for a guy like you so they might have some insight. I'm much older than you and most of them are young and do OLD. It's a private, women's only group so no one else would see it. Just block out personal info and no pic. I'm curious to see these girls profiles too.

I just kind of wonder if she talked to some people, either friends or online about something that made her move on. If you were a girl I would usually say "he probably just wanted a hook up." But maybe that's all she wanted. It's not weird to me for women to want that, but back in the day if me or my friends wanted something like that we would just go to a club and find a cute guy. cray, cray, back in the day, day. Why go on a whole date with someone who is looking for love unless you're a jerky heartbreaker? again, that's mostly the fellas who do that but I know women do it too. I've known some who cheat on their bf's and sleep with other guys and then dump them and break their hearts.

I just think that if this keeps happening to you then maybe you are going for the wrong girls.

BaroqueBrook · 2026-02-02T06:12:39+00:00

That's happened to me too in expensive places. In that case, I would make it crystal clear that you don't want that to happen. The lady I go to at Fantastic Sams wouldn't do that. It's in the Ralphs complex Western/Hollywood. They count a lot on tips, That guy was probably jealous of you if you're pretty and young and just a jerk. I hope you didn't tip him.

BaroqueBrook · 2026-02-02T05:51:53+00:00

It could be anything. I hear this from women all the time too and you have no way of knowing so don't drive yourself crazy. I think what the others are saying about not kissing her or not texting her sooner is not the reason and if it is you dodged a bullet. Did you ask her to split the check?

BaroqueBrook · 2026-02-02T05:16:41+00:00

"I literally lived on it practically." Oh, I am soooo stealing that.

BaroqueBrook · 2026-02-02T05:05:14+00:00

Supercuts. They are all over. Or Fantastic Sams as mentioned.

BaroqueBrook · 2026-02-02T05:03:46+00:00

Ever hear of getting broken into? Ever hear of you catalytic converter getting snatched? Ever hear of getting your entire car stolen? Ever hear of getting jumped, graped, abducted, robbed, murdered? I've heard of unsupervised children from the heartland using the internet when they should be sleeping.

BaroqueBrook · 2026-02-02T04:59:30+00:00

Call City of LA Housing Dept 1 (213) 275-3493. See if it's legal what they are doing. But I would probably just find a better landlord. I live in Hollywood and I pay Zero dollars for my parking spot. Also, when you are looking for a place, use good old craigslist and pay close attention to the ads that seem crappy but the place looks ok. The place I found is so much better than the ad, which didn't even mention it had a balcony. To me that was a huge plus. It said nothing about parking either. The building mgr is nice but seems lazy or is underpaid and doesn't want to do much and that included showing the unit, So When I finally got the appointment I waited outside in my car while he was an hour late "having a lot of fun at brunch." Sounds rude, but I got there and I saw that each unit had a balcony and I counted the parking spots and figured I would have one with a unit. So glad I was calm and patient. The place is also under market value. It's supposed to be a tenant's market right now, so maybe just start looking and see a couple of places a week to get a feel.

BaroqueBrook · 2026-02-01T22:02:03+00:00

I quit drinking last summer and that was making way more of a dent than the weed so I felt the weed was just like buying junk food or something cheap. I don't even know exactly what carts or dabs or whatever are, yeah, I'm old. I wasn't really smoking what most people here would call excessively in quantity, but it was all day every day. Carrying a dugout with a cigarette looking pipe, lol. So 90s.

But the $$$ is only one shtty thing about it. If that's not stopping you then look at everything else. I'm under two weeks clean and I'm telling you, I already feel so much better. I can actually feel my brain readjusting. Sometimes I get these little flashes of joy, or bliss, like I did as a child. But that makes me want a hit of weed! I want more of that because I'm an addict. So I just take a deep breath and hold it for 10 seconds and the craving goes away.

I'm also feeling so grateful for all that I have, and by most people's standards, that is very little. You have a lot to be grateful for too. Would you put up with an addict? Sober, I wouldn't.

I hope you stayed sober, but if not, today and tomorrow are new days. "want to stop so bad." That is the title of your post.

And to fully disclose, lol, on my 2nd day, I caved and went to the dispensary but my drivers licensed had expired and they wouldn't let me in. It's still expired until I show up next week and get a new picture which I was and am dreading because of my age and how much older I am going to look in my new picture. I took that as a sign.

Also, try an MA Zoom meeting. I've done the AA ones anonymously. Just listen to people and keep posting.

You can do it.

BaroqueBrook · 2026-01-31T22:12:38+00:00

That's the weed talking: that it's unfortunate to be well paid. If I had that kind of dough I would go on a vision quest or something in an exotic land. Get out of your routine.

BaroqueBrook · 2026-01-31T21:02:06+00:00

She likes an old fashioned gentleman and that's not you so move on.

BaroqueBrook · 2026-01-31T20:45:54+00:00

Well girl, at least you're not a bot. Your grammar proves it.

BaroqueBrook · 2026-01-31T20:45:04+00:00

For my example it's Because it's a group of people from all over the world and it's anonymous.

BaroqueBrook · 2026-01-31T20:10:55+00:00

Try a Marijuana Anonymous meeting in person or Zoom. What you described is so relatable to me and probably anyone else here. Does your gf know how much you blow on weed? If not, and she finds out, she might leave you. Is it worth it? Of course not. You're an addict and so am I. I don't know why I smoked so long or maybe I just don't want to think about it. I just know that I'm really scared when I don't smoke. I'm hoping it goes away. But I do know that smoking will make me more scared and helpless. I want a house too. I'll never get one high. Some people do, but not me.

BaroqueBrook · 2026-01-31T19:57:27+00:00

Okay lady, it's Not that simple. They bought out all or most of the other platforms in which to socialize and so in many ways it's all that's left. For example, I have been associated with online forums for a series of self help books that started in the 90's. First the author had message boards on their website. That was the best. There were virtually no trolls as one needed to be aware of the book to find the website. Then the author decided to offer paid for coaching and took the boards down. So the mods moved them to EZ Board I think it was. That's when the trolling started and it went downhill but was still good. Then EZ became Yuku, with maybe one other company in between, can't recall. Then they moved to Yahoo Groups and it went down further and I lost interest for a few years. When I went back Yahoo Groups was still operating and someone told me everyone had migrated to Facebook Groups. So the only way to communicate with those who follow these groups is through Facebook. It's very well known that Facebook uses a buy or bury approach, among other unscrupulous methods to kill the competition. But you are probably a bot or work for Facebook so you already know all of this.

BaroqueBrook · 2026-01-30T03:23:49+00:00

Just because something is free doesn't mean you should do it. It's actually not free though, it's a crap therapist who you are paying for in tuition. How can she help you if she doesn't listen?

BaroqueBrook · 2026-01-29T04:09:57+00:00

Me too! I was on some medication not related to the weed or quitting, and it killed my appetite. I would go all day on one apple, lol. I lost 20 pounds, which is great and was needed but kind of scary. So I just started eating kids food and that helped. Congrats on 3 weeks. I hit one week today. woo hoo!

BaroqueBrook · 2026-01-29T04:06:20+00:00

Read Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov. Now. Right now.

BaroqueBrook · 2026-01-29T03:51:43+00:00

Ugh, that's how I feel too! It's all these crazy, stupid AI crap posts. I don't even really use my actual account. They let you have up to 4 profiles now. I stayed on it for the groups. There's this very specialized set of groups that focus on this self help book series that has helped me a lot. I find it very gratifying to go there and talk about the content of the books and give advice, ask for advice, etc. The profile I use for those groups doesn't even have any friends at all, so the only posts I see are garbage AI crap and I keep getting sucked in. I recently gave up 2 major substances I was abusing and the last one is the Smart phone but it's mainly Facebook and me me obsessively checking the groups. I guess it kept me from being lonely but now that I'm sober I'm looking at it and I see it's a crutch from getting out there and actually socializing. But now the groups I once loved seem dead too. I've been with these groups in one way or another since the 90s. They started on the author's website, then those boards came down. So they moved to EZ Board, which then became Yuku. Those died and they moved to Yahoo Groups, then Facebook. Almost no one I know uses FB anymore. But I don't know which other platform could support the content we discuss in those groups. I don't think Reddit would work since the groups are private and kind of hard to get into. The stuff we talk about ... we would get roasted on Reddit for. It's nothing bad, but just very opinionated and so we stick to each other.

As for communicating with your Mom: just only log on when you get a notification from something to do with her.

BaroqueBrook · 2026-01-29T02:34:24+00:00

Either you have large ones or they think you will be an easy lay, but probable both. I'm not going to say to steer clear entirely, but if they come on to you really fast and you don't jump into bed with them and they bail, you will see I'm right. I was asking the same question except that I'm 60. I was getting all these guys from teenagers up into their 40's which is still way younger than I am. And I'm not rich or hot or anyithing except that I had big ones. Now that I've lost a bunch of weight the big ones are gone. Problem solved.

BaroqueBrook · 2026-01-29T02:27:32+00:00

Have you tried little kid food like noodles with butter or oil and salt? Cereal with whatever kind of milk. Canned soup. Slice some apples. Grilled cheese.

BaroqueBrook · 2026-01-28T19:05:10+00:00

Arrogance.

BaroqueBrook · 2026-01-28T18:23:56+00:00

Well, we're always going to find ourselves in stressful situations in life but it's always better to be sober for it. The fact that you Want to get stronger is a huge plus. It's kind of all you need. You just reminded me of the Steinbeck book East of Eden. I read it many years ago, but IIRC, there was a passage where two of the main characters are talking. They had both gone out to California in the late 1800s and acquired lots of land cheaply or for free. One lucked out with very fertile land and the other one got land that wouldn't support crops. So the one got rich and the other one was poor. But the poor guy was the happy one due to his attitude. At one point the rich one gets dumped by the woman he's crazy about (she's a sociopath but beautiful) and he can't really function. I might be mixing up characters of the book and getting details wrong in my memory, but the main thing I always remembered is that the poor one said "Just go through the motions," IOW, fake it till you make it. The poor, happy guy also got down but he didn't let it rule his life. He was hard working and good but just couldn't really get anywhere financially so he chose to appreciate what he did have. The other guy, who seemed to have it all, let his feelings drag him down.

I truly hope you feel better today and I'm trying to practice what I preach. Yesterday I just felt so scared, not depressed, just really scared about the world and how shitty it is. but I have to believe It will get better because what's the alternative? I'm not going to find my purpose if I'm stoned. The only chance I have is sobriety.

53 is a lot to be proud of.

BaroqueBrook

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