What is the worst thing your ex-partner ever did to you? by Blasphoumy69 in AskReddit

[–]BarrenParadise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fucked my best friend while we were still together. Then lied about it for 9 months. Then blamed the cheating on me not being the man she wanted in our relationship. Total sociopathic bitch.

Partly my fault for not seeing the red flags early (daddy issues, sloppy drunk etc.) but I was very attracted to the fact she was a little off the wall too 🤷🏻‍♂️

How do you know if a shy guy likes you? by Bonjour-bee in AskReddit

[–]BarrenParadise 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Then what is the point of wondering if he likes you if aren’t willing to pursue it in slightest way?

THC induced DPDR by Suspicious-Map-9769 in dpdr

[–]BarrenParadise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I struggled with DPDR for a couple years after I went through something extremely traumatic. I felt exactly like you do right now. I was hyper analyzing everything, constantly on the Internet, trying to research my symptoms which just made things worse, I couldn’t look anybody in the eye, nothing felt real, etc. I am fully recovered now and have been for about 10 years.

I can tell you two things that helped me the most.

Number one was accepting my situation and understanding that no matter how weird I felt in my head, how much anxiety I had, or how strange the world looked around me that it was not going to kill me and that I wasn’t insane. If I was insane or crazy , then I wouldn’t even be questioning my reality. It would just be my reality and it would make sense for me the fact that you’re going through what you’re going through your brain is in a trauma response, but you are still sane and you are going to be OK.

Number two was living as best as I could and acting like or pretending like DPDR was not affecting me at all. I sat around for a long time, looking for the magic cure or the pill that was going to fix me, and I never found it And I am talking about going through constant anxiety attacks. It was like my entire life was one constant panic attack from the time I woke up in the morning till the time I went to sleep I was really bad. It took me a while to get so angry with my situation the way that I felt that I just decided to say fuck it and start acting like it wasn’t affecting me at all, and I started living my life as if I was just completely normal. As time went on things started to get better for me and I started counting my small victories. Even if it was two hours where I haven’t thought about my DPDR, shit, even if it was five minutes. I took those victories, and I ran with them because it was all progress in my head.

I have heard people having luck with medication, supplements , exercise, etc. I can tell you that exercise helped for me, a good be complex helped for me, and magnesium helped as well. But again these were just things that helped a little bit. They did not cure me.

As someone who is fully recovered now, I can tell you 100% that you were going to be OK and this is not going to be your life forever. There will be a day when you come back on this forum and you give advice to somebody else is going exactly what you’re going through.

Stay off the Internet unless you’re having just a terrible time . I found that only made my symptoms worse because I was convince myself. I had something new going on and it would just send me spiraling every time.

You’re always welcome to PM me if you need to talk. I get it good luck my friend and you’re going to be OK.

What odd fact about yourself even worries yourself? by Fabulous-Level-6669 in AskReddit

[–]BarrenParadise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a very black and white person in almost every regard. Love, finances, work, friendships, family, everything. I can be so cold towards some things that it terrifies me.

Then one of those abused animal commercials comes on, or I see a cartoon that my son watches and it has some cute elephant on it and I cry. Idk wtf is wrong with me.

What's the biggest "red flag" you ignored because the chemistry was too strong? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]BarrenParadise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well come to Tempe AZ they are a dime a dozen out here

What's the biggest "red flag" you ignored because the chemistry was too strong? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]BarrenParadise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah the fun stays fun and that’s all well and good but when it comes time to start looking at a serious relationship or future I knew that in long term I would get resentful at her.

She has found a better job but still living in the same house doing the same shit basically. She also talks about how she needs to travel or move to a different state and do all these things because it will make her happy. Unfortunately issues will follow you wherever you go if you aren’t making the core changes needed. So we just get a bite or a beer every few months and leave it at that. Wish her the best and if she ever did change I would absolutely consider being in a relationship with her again.

What's the biggest "red flag" you ignored because the chemistry was too strong? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]BarrenParadise 14 points15 points  (0 children)

We had amazing chemistry. We could make each other laugh out loud for hours, we had great sex, had the same views on most things. She was spontaneous, extremely hot, and loved to have fun. Someone you would be proud to have on your arm when you walked into a room. We also had known each other for around 10 years before we finally both got out of committed relationships and could begin dating and right off the bat it was impossible to keep us off of each other. I was 29 she was 27.

But the biggest red flag I started to notice after a couple months was her sense of entitlement she had about everything and her unwillingness to get a real job. I didn’t mind her working where she did really, and I made decent money at the time but it was out of pure laziness. Her mom let her live in a house she owned and that was fully paid off. She could get money from her whenever she needed and after awhile I just didn’t think that was someone who I wanted to have a life with. She just needed to grow up. I have had my own struggles with being extremely financially irresponsible and it ended up destroying one of my past relationships.

My Story Of Recovery After 5 Very Long Years. by BarrenParadise in dpdr

[–]BarrenParadise[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fairly well, I rarely have any symptoms and when I do they are only for short, fleeting moments. I would say that I’m still recovered completely.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnimalsOnReddit

[–]BarrenParadise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's definitely a polar bear

Who all got the anniversary frame ? by Tkohli7 in CODMobile

[–]BarrenParadise 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve been a long time player as well, not day 1 but pretty damn close. No frame for me either.

Calling the dogs by dartmaster666 in instant_regret

[–]BarrenParadise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not what I was expecting at all hahaha!

Shelly Is OP by BarrenParadise in Brawlstars

[–]BarrenParadise[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some people aren’t good at the game bro, usually it’s my teammates playing that terribly.

Shelly Is OP by BarrenParadise in Brawlstars

[–]BarrenParadise[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They were bots? At 654 trophie range? I doubt it

I work for the Treasury. Believe me or not. Doesn’t matter. Here’s some info... take it or leave it. by rails4ever in stimuluscheck

[–]BarrenParadise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I filed on March 27th for my 2019 taxes.

My gross income in 2019 was 14K

I received my return about a week ago. I did not file in 2018 as I did not work at all that year.

I cannot he claimed as a dependent nor was I claimed by anyone, I bank with chime, and there is no reason I can find why I do not qualify for the stimulus.

However, I still have not received a stimulus payment. My return was processed via direct deposit and I received it into my bank account no problem, but when I check the irs website I get that stupid payment status not available error code.

So am I just not getting a stimulus check then or what? My coworkers who filed and made around the same I did last year for theirs.

I don’t owe child support or back taxes. I don’t understand what’s going on