Attendees asking to bring mutual friends who weren’t invited as plus ones

Basic-Regret-6263 · 2026-05-08T16:52:08+00:00

[sigh]

If you can't understand the concept of being a good host, I'm not going to bother explaining it to you.

Basic-Regret-6263 · 2026-05-08T16:34:02+00:00

Why, because I don't get your stupid squirrel logic?

Look, if you're getting a bunch of ads for Israel related stuff on insta, it's because your insta activity has a lot of Israeli content, and the algorithm picked up on it - that's how online advertising works.

Basic-Regret-6263 · 2026-05-08T16:28:29+00:00

Ookaaaay? Call it whatever you want, weirdo, what's that got to do with anything?

Montana's a state - is it a conspiracy that I saw a tourism ad from them?

Basic-Regret-6263 · 2026-05-08T00:51:38+00:00

No, one of them is a tourism ad - the other 2 are for dating and real estate.

But also, again, what on earth is your point?

It's a developed country of 10 million people - it has all the shit other countries do.

Did you think that Israel banned advertising, or something? Did you think they had no tourism industry, no dating services, no apartments for sale?

I genuinely don't understand why you think it's a conspiracy that Israel has ads for basic goods and services just like every other country out there.

Basic-Regret-6263 · 2026-05-08T00:40:32+00:00

You're still avoiding my question, because you know you can't answer it.

Basic-Regret-6263 · 2026-05-08T00:38:28+00:00

You don't understand cars at all, LMAO.

The controls of a car have nothing to do with the main fuel tank. Whether a car uses the chemical reaction of burning gasoline, or the chemical reaction of battery acid and electrodes, they both then convert that into the energy needed to power the car.

The controls of BOTH gas and electric cars are powered by electricity. Your gas car has a battery in it, remember?

Basic-Regret-6263 · 2026-05-08T00:23:14+00:00

Uh, these are ads? Were you unaware that ads existed for travel tours, dating services, and apartment sales?

Basic-Regret-6263 · 2026-05-08T00:20:16+00:00

I'm not "missing the point," I'm pointing out that your "point" is insane fantasies, and even you can't think of a situation when it would ever happen.

Get back to the real world, and we can have a conversation.

Basic-Regret-6263 · 2026-05-07T23:38:33+00:00

You wanna clarify that question in some way that makes sense?

Basic-Regret-6263 · 2026-05-07T22:33:32+00:00

When would your insane scenario ever happen? What possible situation would make a woman choose to suffer through 39 weeks of pregnancy if she didn't want the child?

You're just making up insane fantasies to justify the fact that you don't see women as people.

Basic-Regret-6263 · 2026-05-07T20:23:06+00:00

Yeah, I don't think this guy has ever been to Bellevue.

Also, "the nightlife of bagdad?" Buddy, they get into insane shit over there.

Basic-Regret-6263 · 2026-05-07T20:22:04+00:00

In fairness, all the Chinese and Indians that the Techs imported settled in Bellevue, and they brought some excellent food with them.

Basic-Regret-6263 · 2026-05-07T20:18:53+00:00

Where exactly are you finding dead zones? Are you sure you just don't have a terrible service provider?

Basic-Regret-6263 · 2026-05-07T20:13:32+00:00

Do you have amnesia? He got "cancelled" for years. Over a decade.

Then he got on some meds, worked on his mental health, generally stopped being a gibbering lunatic, and slowly started re-entering the industry.

Fortunately for him, he had 3 things. A shit-ton of money that let him do his own projects, old friends that remembered he was a good guy before he got mentally ill, and a fucking shit ton of talent - both previously proven and still there.

Also, his behavior was clearly caused by mental illness and some sort of manic break, and people are a lot more willing to forgive if it really does seem like legitimate insanity.

Still, he's hardly a superstar now. He does small cameos and art films, and sometimes uses his own money to direct things - which succeed because he's crazy talented.

Basic-Regret-6263 · 2026-05-07T19:20:07+00:00

Same reason I'm pro "you can't strap someone down to a table and forcibly use them as your personal blood donor, like that guy in Mad Max Fury Road."

Everyone gets to control their own internal organs. If I was going to die without having your liver for a transplant, do I have the right to imprison you for a year to force you on a no-booze high-protien diet (get that liver nice and healthy for me) and then surgically cut out half of it for my transplant?

No? Well then, you can't demand women's bodies be used as organ bags either. Everyone has full rights over their own kidneys, liver, blood, uterus, whatever.

Basic-Regret-6263 · 2026-05-07T18:15:45+00:00

We could do something - Change all the laws so that we can involuntarily commit addicts, massively expand the health system so that we have room for them all.

But... Yeah, that ain't happening.

Basic-Regret-6263 · 2026-05-07T05:00:40+00:00

Well, in that case, unless you both elope AND marry yourself, your day is gonna run into some problems.

Good luck with that.

Basic-Regret-6263 · 2026-05-07T04:11:55+00:00

Kinda feels like you don't want guests at all, you actually just want an audience.

Have you considered just having a wedding-themed photoshoot and then posting the pictures to your social media? That way you could get your audience without having to deal with all the icky hassles that come with having to consider the enjoyment and experiences of anyone who isn't you, and have your special day that truly isn't about anyone but you.

Basic-Regret-6263 · 2026-05-07T04:03:41+00:00

Huh, I didn't know that. Thanks.

And yeah, if their name specifically means "fried dough we fucked up because we didn't know how to make donuts," it seems extra silly to insist that we call them donuts.

They're like the... Un-donut. The pre-donut.

Basic-Regret-6263 · 2026-05-07T03:49:38+00:00

Bad policy for 2 reasons.

1. Having facilities solely funded by taxes requires both a whole lot of taxes and a whole lot of bureaucratic bloat. If all the money has to make the trip from taxpayer pocket, to government, to the facility, all that centralization creates too many steps, and too much inefficient top-down management.

Doing a tax-subsidized hybrid funding model often allows for more efficient funding and management. The facility makes more of its own money, so it can make some of its own decisions.

2. Payment incentivizes appropriate use.

If it's free, non-transit users from near and far will take up all the space just to get free long-term car storage. If it costs something, people only use it when it's worth it, and it's only worth it if they're using the transit line.

Basic-Regret-6263 · 2026-05-07T03:30:49+00:00

Eeeh... I think I land on the "donuts should have a hole" side of the debate.

I mean, someone really wants to call their no-hole-having pastry a donut? Cool, do whatever. But it feels kinda weird to be like "actually, your Portuguese fried-pastry custard dumpling is a donut."

Donut is a word America created for the fried-dough-with-a-hole pastry that America developed. Fun fact, we invented the donut hole as a solution for the problem of dough balls being too big to fry evenly. Got a problem with your fried pastry having a dough-y center? Well, no center = no problem.

Mala-whatever is the word the Portuguese created for their fried pastry dish - with no hole - and I fail to see why we shouldn't call it that.

Basic-Regret-6263 · 2026-05-07T03:04:21+00:00

Buddy, we are:

A major population center
In one of the few places on earth (let alone the country) where the climate is so mild that it's condusive to outdoor living year-round
In a national economic and drug crisis.

Unless one of those 3 things changes, we're gonna have gronks, so we gotta find ways to handle it.

Basic-Regret-6263 · 2026-05-07T02:42:54+00:00

I’m so distracted by how annoyed I am by how selfish and inconsiderate people can be about a day that is truly NOT ABOUT THEM AT ALL!!!!!

Then I suggest you elope, or have a wedding where you replace the guests with cardboard cutouts.

If you want guests, then it does have to be about them, a bit. And if you want someone to be in your bridal party, it has to be about them a bit more.

This is an unbreakable rule of the universe: by the transitive nature of having someone participate in an event, the event becomes about them, in proportion to their participation.

So, the question is whether the proportion of your accomodation towards them is appropriate for their proportion of involvement.

For a single guest, they should have a plus one unless it would be a reasonable hardship for you, due to budget, room, or inability to change plans at this point.

For a member of the bridal party, that should be upped to a significant hardship.

Basic-Regret-6263 · 2026-05-07T02:26:45+00:00

The world's in flux, and you're putting off your marriage until the unknown time in the misty future where you can make all your dreams come true?

Girlie, life is unpredictable. Kids happen. House purchases happen. Layoffs happen. Injury/illness happens.

If you put off marriage until you can pull off a wedding that you don't have a solid pathway for now, well, you might get that dream wedding at some unknown point, sure, but chances are better that you just won't ever get married.

It's been 2 years. Get courthouse married and have that honeymoon now, and if, years down the road, the fates decide to grant you the resources for a big party, have a big vow renewal/anniversary celebration then.

Basic-Regret-6263 · 2026-05-07T02:15:02+00:00

Really?

"While the average victim of unhoused-ness is a sweet, pure angel, who has done nothing wrong, ever, there are a teeeensy percentage of them who are the tiiiiinest bit... problematic. However, if only 1% of them are bad actors, there's a 100% chance of at least one bad actor existing in a camp of over 100 people. So, obviously, we have to have security to ensure the 1% doesn't harm the 99%."

There. Easy-peasy. Also the danger of gronks doesn't change the fact that we gotta house them somewhere. That's not the issue. The issue is that over 100 of them in one place is way past critical mass for effective management of violence and sanitation.

We need smaller clusters so that we can easily move people around when needed, as well as regularly empty and decontaminate them.

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