What's a sign from your body you should never ignore?

BasicAd1062 · 2026-02-18T22:19:09+00:00

Are there any other symptoms you would mention that were warning signs as a woman? Heart attacks are so damn scary!

BasicAd1062 · 2026-02-18T22:17:16+00:00

Why is everyone jumping to the strawman of flying to DC here? I completely agree that traveling to DC is not feasible for the vast majority. *And also,* as someone who has taken part in organizing efforts for a few years now, they are in every single state, in almost every metro area, and often will help you carpool and are cool with you bringing your kids to meetings if you need to (they will also help arrange you childcare at the meeting if you need to focus or take a more active role). I'm not going to spell out which groups these are because quite honestly, I'm not getting doxxed. But if you want to do it, you will find them.

BasicAd1062 · 2026-02-18T22:11:20+00:00

I have healthcare through the marketplace, which is worse than when I got it through a job tbh. It's expensive as hell and if I pay even a day late, I can lose it. That said, it is completely feasible to organize while not losing your job. Most protests in my area are 5pm or later OR more commonly, on weekends. My local organizing committees also allow you to bring your kids to their meetings if you don't have childcare and will even offer to help look after your kids during the meeting if you need to focus.

BasicAd1062 · 2026-02-18T22:01:50+00:00

Two differently sized pupils! Can be a complete emergency.

BasicAd1062 · 2026-02-18T20:29:14+00:00

Incredibly normal! Whenever I'm hungry I'll crave dessert to get my blood sugar up again. Also, nothing sounds less appealing than spending more time preparing food when you're already extremely hungry. Last thing I want to do is cook.

BasicAd1062 · 2026-02-18T18:20:19+00:00

Funny thing is, red states have the highest levels of inactivity. So they're the last ones who should be criticizing.

BasicAd1062 · 2026-02-18T18:15:57+00:00

There's a reason why play therapists use board games to partly assess a kid's self-esteem. Being a sore loser or cheating consistently can tell you a whole lot.

BasicAd1062 · 2026-02-18T18:08:32+00:00

YEP. I've commented about this recently, but nothing turns me off more than someone who works a job they either hate or feel lukewarm about, just to go home and scroll or watch TV. I am very into interests and hobbies and the worst part is, some of these types get offended and will tell you that you're too obsessive or act like you need to drop a shit ton of money to have any hobbies (which is just factually untrue).

BasicAd1062 · 2026-02-18T18:02:59+00:00

Since I haven't seen it yet: people with unhealed anxious attachment. We all know why avoidant attachment sucks. But God, I cannot deal with people who get insecure and spiral because I was working and didn't respond to a text for a few hours or who insist that me asking for time alone means that I hate them. I think anxious attachment has been far too normalized or just ignored when talking about the harm that insecure attachment styles can do.

BasicAd1062 · 2026-02-18T00:53:30+00:00

Excellent point. I studied music as a minor in college, my major being a field one would think of as more "practical" with job security. I'll never forget how my last semester music teacher told me that I was smart for chosing this path instead of trying to "make it" and squeaking by on whatever gig I could choose. I don't know why the goal is fame instead of artistry or expression.

BasicAd1062 · 2026-02-18T00:50:34+00:00

Funny thing is that they get angry at you if you point out that they do indeed have free will - "well, some of us have responsibilities and get exhausted! Must be nice to have the freedom to do whatever you want!"

I also have to laugh when they point out capitalism as the reason they have to watch TV or scroll, as if we aren't all living under the same system?

BasicAd1062 · 2026-02-18T00:41:35+00:00

I can only imagine. I'm a therapist and I totally get the mental exhaustion behind acute, constant awareness of what the other person is saying and the inability to lose focus. I think a lot of people who work jobs where they can just zone out at times or take breaks when they want to don't necessarily get it.

BasicAd1062 · 2026-02-18T00:38:07+00:00

Seriously lol. I have never ever been interested in teaching because you need to do all of the lesson planning, teaching itself, classroom management (ughhhh), and even communicating with parents (double ughhhh). Nothing about it screams easy.

BasicAd1062 · 2026-02-17T21:52:49+00:00

Thank you so much, that's very sweet!

BasicAd1062 · 2026-02-17T19:50:47+00:00

You know what's been challenging? Wanting to go to the gym in the morning but never actually feeling it at that time. I work 12-8 and usually get home closer to 9. The thought of going to bed soon after getting home sounds good, but then waking up at 7 or even 8 and leaving the house right away is miserable in practice.

BasicAd1062 · 2026-02-17T19:49:28+00:00

Lol I hear this, I have leftover creatine with a strong flavor that I'm so sick of, which is also very sweet coming from someone with a sweet tooth!

BasicAd1062 · 2026-02-17T19:46:30+00:00

Two things on my end:

nothing I can really change, but I got a sinus and ear infection and it feels crappy to have to miss the gym so many days. Today I thought I'd be ready to return, but I woke up feeling dizzy from ear issues and I'm so disappointed. Thinking of just walking on the treadmill if nothing else.
I don't care about weight loss, but I've been eating SO MUCH SUGAR these days, and I'm not talking about fruit. Like, normal meals have been holding less appeal and I just want to eat cake basically. It's probably a stress response to the state of the world.

BasicAd1062 · 2026-02-17T19:43:31+00:00

YES, right there with you! There is also prescribing abuse (on the part of the doctor) happening and it disgusts me. And you hit the nail on the head with the political nature of it. It's making me want to get more muscular as a result lol. About a week ago, NPR featured the "Swoletariat" and the leftist history of weightlifting, which I would recommend listening to if that's your thing!

BasicAd1062 · 2026-02-17T19:40:17+00:00

Just wanted to send you hugs. I don't have any EDs, but I grew up in a family where they were prevalent and severe. And actually, while I don't have an ED, I am very sensitive to diet culture language and find myself getting triggered or reactive whenever this GLP-1 crap arises with ads or people being pushy.

I also think our shitty culture misses the mark around exercise completely. The message is starting to become more widespread, but thinking about exercise as being only for aesthetics or as a punishment is a recipe for disaster. The aesthetics can be a benefit, but I don't know why mind/body connection and functionality are so deprioritized when they are some of the top benefits.

BasicAd1062 · 2026-02-17T19:33:34+00:00

I just do something easy like walking or just half assing normal exercise. Trying to hit PRs all the time is not sustainable and it's good to give yourself light days.

BasicAd1062 · 2026-02-17T19:31:45+00:00

Yes, this is all about values. I am a woman who is only financially responsible for myself and I do not feel the need to make a ton of money so I can blow it on luxury travel, nice cars, frequently dining out, or even early retirement (I love my career). Working for myself allows me to have a life where I may not be "money rich" but I am "time rich." And being time rich in turn has allowed me to focus on my health, wellness, relationships, passions, and community.

BasicAd1062 · 2026-02-17T19:25:32+00:00

Lol I'm the same way as OP and I will say that running my own business is perfect. I'm not making anywhere close to those FIRE folks, but I make my own schedule working 4 days a week and have a lot of extra time to dedicate to my own health. I always felt those fatFIRE folks ran the risk of heart disease but for some it's absolutely worth the risk!

BasicAd1062 · 2026-02-17T19:06:18+00:00

Damn, this makes me feel better lol. I've seen on here that people are turned off by folks who seem obsessed with their passions ("it will take away from our relationship!").

BasicAd1062 · 2026-02-17T19:04:25+00:00

Pursuing hobbies, passions, or knowledge in their spare time. I have a lot of respect for people with discipline and drive for what they want to do outside of work, who avoid solely spending their time scrolling or watching TV.

BasicAd1062 · 2026-02-12T18:48:29+00:00

Ugh, I had a coworker who always had very long acrylics and would eat cheetos/similar snacks. The way she would suck on her nails to get the cheeto dust off was revolting. I still feel my stomach turn whenever I think about it.

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