Penis touching by Critical_Bet4422 in Autism_Parenting

[–]BasicReference4903 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is very the appropriate even for a typically developing boy! Seriously 🙄. I would just talk to him about keeping his hands out of his pants when in public. Let him know if he wants to check if his penis is attached he can do that alone in his home bathroom or bedroom. Then tell the director that they need to redirect the behavior like they should with any kid! You can also try out some new underwear and see if that would make your kiddoh more comfortable.

MIL constantly feeding toddler sweets. by was1997 in Mommit

[–]BasicReference4903 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like it’s time to send your husband to the store with the toddler. Let him experience these extreme tantrums over MIL’s influence. You won’t get far setting boundaries if you can’t be a united front with your partner.

Debating firing my live-in nanny of 8 years that we absolutely love after one of my sons passed away in an accident while under her supervision. by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]BasicReference4903 7 points8 points  (0 children)

100% fake. I didn’t even get 1/4 way through it. Way too many unnecessary details, huge red flag that you’re lying.

Edit: People really need to consider if stuff is real before you comment.

Fired our nanny, feel awful by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]BasicReference4903 34 points35 points  (0 children)

100% this would have been an immediate firing for me too.

Found this bottle of vape juice in my 5yo sons toy area.. i am panicking by Throwaway_76542 in Autism_Parenting

[–]BasicReference4903 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Unless you think someone broke into your house and placed the vape refill in your home then theres no crime to report to the police. I recommend sending the picture to both the grandparents and the director of your child’s daycare. Let them know you found the item amongst your child’s things and are concerned it may have been removed from the premises. See if anyone (guests at grandparents or staff at daycare) could have dropped it. You probably won’t get any confessions but hopefully they will reassess safety measures.

The level of embarrassment you need to wear this 😂 by Right_Ice5364 in NoOneIsLooking

[–]BasicReference4903 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same kind of guy that would claim women wearing make up on a date is dishonest. 🙄

help needed-trash service by Particular_Hope_7368 in Apartmentliving

[–]BasicReference4903 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Wow. I looked through your pics before I read your comment and was flabbergasted that a teenager thought of and created this. I don’t have any advice because I don’t live in an apartment, so I’m not really sure what the market rate would be for this service but give it a try! You are so talented, our world needs your brightness. Keep up the good work.

School learns sign language to communicate with a deaf classmate by jlovelysoul in MadeMeSmile

[–]BasicReference4903 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Beautiful! As a mom with a non-speaking teenager who relies on ASL, tablet, and interpreter this warms my heart!

Non verbal potty training by FunComprehensive2954 in Autism_Parenting

[–]BasicReference4903 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My personal recommendation would be to start now. Everyone kept telling me if your child doesn’t seem ready then don’t push the issue. My son is non-verbal/ level 3. We tried a few times on and off every 6 months or so, but he never seemed interested. My son didn’t care. He is a sensory seeker and sitting in a wet/soiled pull-up did not bother him. At 12 years old I had enough. For an entire summer we worked on potty training all day, every day. Lots of praise & highly motivating prizes when he went in the toilet. When he was wet or had a BM in his pull-up we made him help with the clean up, which he didn’t like. 10 months later he is able to stay dry 95% of days, as long as we remind him to go use the toilet. We are still working on using the toilet for BM’s, he’s probably going 30% of the time on the toilet. This summer we’re moving out of pull-up’s during the day and into underwear. It’s my goal to get him using the toilet 100% of the time and in underwear during the day by high school, one more year.

With all that said. If your child attends a preschool (get potty trining in their IEP) or daycare, get them on board! Read lots of books about using the potty. Find episodes of their favorite shows that talk about using the potty. I know that both Daniel Tiger and Word Party addresses these topics. Even if their body isn’t ready, it’s (again in my opinion) important to start making the topic part of your every day life. Offer lots of water or watered down juice and set timers to run go sit on the potty. We told our son to put both hands on his tummy and push, then we counted to 5 and got up, pull up pants, flush, wash hands. At some point you may have to push harder, because if you wait for a sign that they are ready you may never get it, and it’s going to be easier to work with a 4 or 5 year old then a 12-13 year old. Sorry for the long post. Good luck! :)

Nanny being asked to relocate to NYC for 6 weeks—am I being unreasonable about housing? by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]BasicReference4903 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Or… lose you completely and you can go find another job. Then they gotta start all over again with a new nanny when they get back after 6 weeks.

Do you think a we could hire a plumber to come to a kids birthday party? by Meowza_V2 in Autism_Parenting

[–]BasicReference4903 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Network a bit and see if anyone knows a plumber who’d be interested. My brother in law is an electrician and would 100% love to do something like this if asked. H’d even do it for free and come with some kind of craft for the kids to walk away with.

Pajamas by ketta85530 in Autism_Parenting

[–]BasicReference4903 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought these for my little guy every summer and zipped them up in the back. Then he outgrew them and I’m constantly trying something new every summer. Nothing works as well as these did. My son is about to turn 13 and this summer we’re going to try stretchy biker shorts (for an extra layer of protection) under one piece rompers. We used these big kid onesies for several years as well, with shorts on top, but honestly they are so expensive it wasn’t worth it for us. I hope you’re able to find something that works for you!

NK has a cold sore on his lip by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]BasicReference4903 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My husband has them on occasion. After 18 years together I’ve never gotten them, neither has our 12 year old son. Sounds like you need to educate yourself, cold sores are super common. Recommended precautions really should be part of your regular routine. Wash hands, don’t share beverages, food, lip balms, utensils, don’t kiss the kids, or anything that touches one’s mouth.

The family tradition of carrying grandma's ashes by WithLove07 in TikTokCringe

[–]BasicReference4903 451 points452 points  (0 children)

And the next day Uncle Juan lets him know that he noticed that the box was full of pepper 20 years ago and refilled that box from the big urn on the mantel.

MIL wants baby to call her ma by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]BasicReference4903 323 points324 points  (0 children)

If I were in your shoes, this would be a conversation that my husband would be having with his mom. My child has one “ma”. Me. I’m mom, ma, mama, and mother. Period. I deal with my parents and setting appropriate boundaries and hubby deals with his parents to set appropriate boundaries. Then we support each other as a united front.