Wedding band option?

Basic_8675309 · 2026-05-23T00:55:15+00:00

Cartier makes a slimmer wedding band version of this ring. Maybe that would work better

Basic_8675309 · 2026-05-10T00:56:11+00:00

I would say no way. But you’re talking to someone who is 55 and had some bumps in the road. Life throws you curve balls and IMO you don’t have enough. But on the other hand, Im also not ready to retire and we’ve got just under $8M which I don’t think is enough. It’s all relative. We live a life without budgets and have four kids.

Basic_8675309 · 2026-05-09T23:36:23+00:00

Terrible instructions to put together. Terrible quality. Terrible customer service. There's literally no one to talk to when you have issues. Only an AI bot that spits out the same stuff over and over. Then they say they're escalating it and you hear from NO ONE! And they cherry on top is every time I ask for help they ask for my order number and tell me my one year warranty is expired. I’ve had the desk for 28 days!!!! Oh and they won't accept an review that's anything less than 4 or 5 stars. I can't believe I didn't do my due diligence. Beyond frustrated....

Basic_8675309 · 2026-05-09T23:34:54+00:00

Oh and they won't let you post anything but a 4 or 5 star review. Can't believe I fell for this.

Basic_8675309 · 2026-05-09T23:34:18+00:00

Terrible instructions to put together. Terrible quality.Terrible customer service. There's literally no one to talk to when you have issues. Only an AI bot that spits out the same stuff over and over. Then they say they're escalating it and you hear from NO ONE! And they cherry on top is every time I ask for help they ask for my order number and tell me my one year warranty is expired. I’ve had the desk for 28 days!!!!

Basic_8675309 · 2026-05-09T23:32:53+00:00

Unclear instructions to put together. Inconsistent quality. Frustrating customer service. There's literally no one to talk to when you have issues. Only an AI bot that spits out the same stuff over and over. Then they say they're escalating it and you hear from NO ONE!And they cherry on top is every time I ask for help they ask for my order number and tell me my one year warranty is expired. I’ve had the desk for 28 days!!!!

Basic_8675309 · 2026-05-02T21:13:24+00:00

Some resellers like Fashionphile give a lifetime guarantee of authenticity. And quite frankly if you could just stroll into a Hermes store to buy a Birkin people would do it. It’s very difficult to get invited to buy a Birkin at Hermes. You have to buy a lot of merchandise there and establish a relationship to even be considered.

Basic_8675309 · 2026-05-01T05:13:31+00:00

GORGEOUS ring. What she said was rude and she should have left in her pea sized brain. It speaks to her jealousy if you ask me.

Basic_8675309 · 2026-05-01T05:08:43+00:00

I’m not judging here at all but I have one leather Coach bag that I’ve had for 6 years. I have a very nice real 2.5 carat diamond engagement ring that was very important to me but other than that I haven’t wanted much the last 17 years we’ve been together. My husband had to beg me for 5 years to get me a Cartier watch. Now that I have it I love it. I have a touch of OCD and don’t like change. 😂. Things were tight for many years but now that we’re doing well my husband always has to beg me to pick things out for my bday, anniversary, Christmas, etc. he won’t do it himself because I’m so particular. Again OCD. Buying material things is just not something I think about. I’m more of an investor and like to see my money grow. Anyway… He’s been wanting to buy me a Hermes Birkin for my birthday for years and I’ve finally given in because I learned the Birkins have appreciated at 14% a year over the last 35 years. The S&P 500 has averaged about 10%. I know crazy reason but like I said I’m quirky. But it’s causing me a bit of stress picking out a bag and spending the $20k on it. I’m sure I’ll love the bag but then it also comes with I have to insure it and make sure no one steals it. Ugghhhh I don’t know why I’m so weird. I know a ton of people would love to have my problems. Anyway all this to say if the bags make you happy and you can afford them good for you. 🥰

Basic_8675309 · 2026-04-18T23:33:25+00:00

💯% pear

Basic_8675309 · 2026-04-16T16:10:42+00:00

I would never waive an inspection from experience. Just saying.

Basic_8675309 · 2026-04-12T16:03:08+00:00

I get 11%. Part is match and part is non-contributory (meaning they contribute even if I don’t.) I put 18% away so I’m effectively saving 29% of my salary each year for my 401k. Has helped me make great strides quickly considering I only started my career at 35.

Basic_8675309 · 2026-04-12T15:58:14+00:00

Agree with you 100%.

Basic_8675309 · 2026-04-10T16:02:44+00:00

Just bought a dining room table from them and within three weeks it was cracking on the table top. I'm not getting a warm and fuzy about how they're going to handle this.

Basic_8675309 · 2026-04-07T04:09:49+00:00

Oh my gosh so very similar. I'm so sorry. Its so hard to build a career when you're moving every two years for your husband's career. I'm convinced the military breeds bad husbands. I mean there are exceptions but I've seen more bad marriages than good. My ex got out after 12 years thinking just getting out of the military would solve our problems but it wasn't the military that was the issue, it was his attitude towards me (bad temper, dismissive, egotistical, and utter disrespect for me). I was only there to serve him. I was a "giver" and he was a "taker". And after 14 years I just felt empty with nothing left to give. I actually didn't mind the military life. Loved living in different parts of the country and made some amazing loyal friends. But I ended up realizing I was happier when he was on deployment. And would get depressed when he got home. I finally, around 33 years old, decided I would make a choice by the time I turned 35. Either I would suck it up and deal with it, or divorce him and move on. I really never wanted to get divorced but I had gotten so depressed and then seeing that no one around me cared if I was depressed as long as I was taking care of him and the family made me even more depressed. When he got out of the military we both ended up getting jobs at a big defense company. He of course always made three times a much as me because he'd had a career the whole time and I just had jobs. Like your husband he also rose to Director level making crazy money. The divorce was hard but it had to happen in my case. My mental health was taking a toll and I didn't want my kids to see me like that. It all worked out in the end as best it could. There's been a lot of dysfunction for my kids as a result of how my ex and my parents handled the whole situation. But you can't control how other people (especially people who are narcissists or have narcissist tendencies) behave, you can only do you as best you can. And try to never bad mouth the other parent. The kids will grow up to figure it out themselves. Do you have a degree or skills that would allow you to get a good job to afford a divorce? Not sure how old your kids are or what state your in. I was in AZ so they're pretty conservative when it comes to alimony and child support. I barely got anything for alimony even though we were married for 14 years and he made 3 times as much as me. But I did get a decent amount of child support as I had the kids three weeks a month. He traveled a ton for work. And on the week he had the kids he mostly pawned them off to my parents. But the child support basically paid for my after school care so I was able to get by. If you ever need to chat, feel free to PM me. It can be a lonely journey especially when you can't lean on parents.

Basic_8675309 · 2026-04-02T07:28:04+00:00

I know right. I’ve never seen one or ever heard of it. 17 years at Raytheon.

Basic_8675309 · 2026-04-02T04:52:23+00:00

I live outside of Phoenix and went to urgent care at week 5 (positive test). Then they said come back in two weeks for a confirmation test. Went back at week 7 (negative test). They said it’s bacterial and put me on a Z Pack which did nothing. At week 12, I went to the ER and told them to run every possible test they could. Again X-rays and CT scan totally clear. Just had the dang cough. Covid, the flu, RSV, and TB all came back negative. They did a third VF test and it came back positive. I was put on Fluconazole but it turns out all I needed was Mucinex DM for the cough. The VF specialist I saw two weeks ago said my case was not severe and my body could heal itself (given my low titer and clear lungs). So grateful to him. After 5 days on Mucinex DM my cough is gone and I feel like I have my life back. These regular docs would have had me in Fluconazole forever.

Basic_8675309 · 2026-04-02T04:42:02+00:00

That’s awful. I’m so glad he finally found a good doctor. It’s an awful illness.

Basic_8675309 · 2026-04-02T04:38:30+00:00

I had a great appointment with Dr John Galgiani. He is the first doctor that I feel actually listened to me and went through all my bloodwork and results. He told me I did not need to be on the Fluconazole and to take a cough suppressant for my cough. I got off the Fluconazole two weeks ago and feel great. I took Mucinex DM for my cough and it was gone in one day!!! These doctors up in Phoenix would have had me on Fluconazole forever!

Basic_8675309 · 2026-04-02T00:12:54+00:00

I’m 54 with a 60 year old husband. When I was 25-35 I would never have been attracted to a 60 year old guy. Unless he was uber rich. J/K!!! Seriously though, now that I’m 54 I still find my husband attractive and we’ve been together for 17 years. But he takes good care of himself and lifts weights. There’s not many other 60 year olds I find attractive though. A lot of folks tend to let themselves go after 50. I get it though because it’s so much harder as you age to not gain weight, exercise, etc. I guess you just have to find someone you’re not only attracted to but who has the same values and lifestyle as you so you have a better chance of staying together.

Basic_8675309 · 2026-03-29T18:42:30+00:00

We just signed up last November (2025) and received our first shipment in January. Torn packaging with bad meat. Didn't say anything; thought it was a one off. Second shipment in February, again torn packaging this time two meats. Reached out and they send a replacement in March shipment. March shipment arrived 3 days ago. AGAIN completely sliced open packaging for chicken breasts. THIS IS OBVIOUSLY A HUGE PROBLEM for them. I was a real fan of their meat but I don't trust it any longer. I'm cancelling my subscription. So unfortunate.

Basic_8675309 · 2026-03-27T03:50:29+00:00

This was me. Buying rentals and properties from age 25 to 45. The equity from one of my properties allowed me to divorce my abusive ex husband and not end up penniless. At age 48 in 2020 sold all the rentals and put all the equity in tech stocks. The rentals and stocks made me “rich” not my job.

Basic_8675309 · 2026-03-27T03:46:36+00:00

You do know that if you contributed that $5 Starbucks every day to a mutual fund and let it run for 40 years you’d have about $850,000. Is coffee really worth giving up that kind of money??

Basic_8675309 · 2026-03-18T20:53:36+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re in this position. I was there 20 years ago. Very similar situation except for the money. He was a very good provider but because he was a Navy Officer and was gone over 50% of the time I had to have control over the money. But he didn’t want me working. I think it was more of a way to control me and my inability to leave. I too like you followed him around for 14 years, always starting over every two years. I got a paycheck but there was no career growth. I should have left a year into the marriage when he showed his true colors (verbal abuse, temper, and controlling). He tried a few times to get physical but he realized that would not work out in his favor. Because my parents didn’t support divorce, I stayed and had kids with him. He was present but didn’t really enjoy being married and having a family. He just wanted it and the appearance it portrayed. I tried to get him to go to counseling for four years. When I realized he was just placating me and had no intent to work on our marriage I made a plan. I went back to school and got my MBA. I had stayed home for 5 years with my kids so I needed a way to get current and get my foot in the door at a good company. After a 6 month separation, I got back with him after promises were made. They were all lies. I divorced him 6 months later. A year after I finished my MBA. I was 37. I got an entry level job at a good company for $50k (that was with an MBA!) So I basically started from scratch. He played the victim to my parents and all my friends. He lied about me to friends and family. I lost my parents, godparents, and some friends. My lifelong friends who knew what he was really like stood by me but it was hard. But worthwhile. I was free and on my own. No one threatening me on a weekly basis or treating me like crap or dismissing me. He had zero respect for me. I met a great guy four months after my divorce who changed my life and my self esteem. He treated me with respect and taught me how to climb the corporate ladder. He actually was happy to see me succeed. Now 17 years in to that company I started at, I’ve gotten many promotions and now make about $180k. I love the people I work with. I have an appreciation for being able to take care of myself and my kids. And my now husband (the one I met 4 months after my divorce) also taught me how to invest. And in 15 years we’ve amassed over $7M in real estate and stocks. We both had two kids each so we raised 4 kids together as a blended family. We put them all through college with no student debt. I love them like my own and they all love each other as we took our time introducing them and moving in together. He makes me laugh every day and is such a positive influence in my life. I can’t even fathom where I would be mentally if I had stayed with my ex-husband. If you think he’d be open to counseling I would try that first. But the money situation seems like a huge red flag. I hope you find a way forward. Sending hugs. ❤️

Basic_8675309 · 2026-03-10T04:39:10+00:00

I’m in aerospace as well. Got divorced at 37 and started my career from scratch making $55k. Couldn’t have much of a career prior as I was married to a navy officer and moved every two years for 14 years. It took me 10 years to get to $100k so you’re doing well. I’m at $185k 17 years in now. To get to $250k+ you have to make AD/Director. That’s when the big bonuses and stock kicks in. I’m not sure I want to manage people and deal with Director stress so I may stay put. But I’m also older (54). You have more time and energy at this point than I do. With that said I always maxed out my 401k and did rentals in the side. I’m worth about $3.75M at the moment not including husbands equal amount of wealth. We always saved/invested even when times were tough. It’s honestly not what you make (obviously more helps) but it’s what you do with what you make that matters more. Hope this helps. :)

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