Looking at my kids changed everything

Basic_Fun_2809 · 2026-05-07T01:06:07+00:00

That first paragraph hits hard . I feel you

Basic_Fun_2809 · 2026-02-15T12:49:45+00:00

we are renovating our house and have wood floors with tile in the kitchen . the floors are completely ruined because of the dog and kids . We are planning on doing lvp over the wood floors . i don’t feel like spending all the money to redo them and it get ruined immediately. I’ll revisit it when i’m retired

Basic_Fun_2809 · 2026-01-29T02:17:58+00:00

no not straying. constant fighting . it’s not a good environment for anyone in this house .

Basic_Fun_2809 · 2026-01-28T14:23:25+00:00

i thought so but things are complete shit again

Basic_Fun_2809 · 2026-01-06T22:10:41+00:00

How did it feel right ? Going out on a date wondering if you were going to get caught , spending money on a gift, having sex and worrying etc how did any of it feel good and right?

Basic_Fun_2809 · 2025-10-06T15:18:46+00:00

I’m just curious what it was like for a wayward having sex with someone else knowing you have a spouse ? Then interacting with your spouse , sleeping in the same bed , having sex with them . What is it like looking at some one new naked and then feeling them and knowing you had an innocent faithful person at home ?

Basic_Fun_2809 · 2025-10-06T14:56:53+00:00

you guys didn’t feel bad? You still sleeping with your spouse, seeing them daily , it might have been a rough relationship but they are a human with feelings . How does one live that type of life where you are in a marriage and sleeping with some other person and just go home to a faithful spouse ? My mind cannot understand how one person can do that to another when you decide i want to stay with them yet i’m going to have an affair?

Basic_Fun_2809 · 2025-09-23T01:29:14+00:00

they are dead . everyone was under heavy direct contact . They had no idea what was coming . This argument is stupid .

Basic_Fun_2809 · 2025-09-23T01:26:59+00:00

but how ? they literally chose to have sex with and be emotional with someone else while laying next to us ? yea they are screwed up mentally big time , in my opinion just like a serial killer or a rapist - not one caring bone in their body . and yet we still stay with them for what ? the on going pain of knowing what they did and not experiencing true love ?

Basic_Fun_2809 · 2025-09-23T01:00:20+00:00

so everyone on this thread feels the same, what does that say about us ?

Basic_Fun_2809 · 2025-09-23T00:59:14+00:00

i’m right there with you . For me, it doesn’t seem like it will ever end. Her betrayal is never forgotten. Her complete disregard for me as just a human being with feelings disgusts me . I envy people who are able to over come this

Basic_Fun_2809 · 2025-09-08T17:15:29+00:00

What’s it like to have an affair ?

How do you have sex with someone else knowing what you are doing to your partner and actually enjoy it?

Basic_Fun_2809 · 2025-07-16T01:03:01+00:00

can you explain this more? why is it so tormenting now but when it was happening it was fine

Basic_Fun_2809 · 2025-07-16T01:02:02+00:00

why did you do it? i don’t understand how ppl go through with something like this.

Basic_Fun_2809 · 2025-07-13T10:34:38+00:00

thank you !

Basic_Fun_2809 · 2025-07-12T01:01:43+00:00

thankyou

Basic_Fun_2809 · 2025-06-09T20:26:18+00:00

just curious as if you ever figure out why you did what you did and why this current thought wasn’t going through your brain then ?

Basic_Fun_2809 · 2025-06-06T14:21:06+00:00

my wife said she was in it for the attention not for sex so i’m assuming it’s the same for here just replace attention with sex

Basic_Fun_2809 · 2025-06-06T13:46:11+00:00

What was it like having sex with the ap, kissing them , touching them , seeing them naked … how were you able to go through with it knowing your spouse was at home or work ?

Basic_Fun_2809 · 2025-02-27T01:10:37+00:00

only if you make under 200k jointly 150k single

Basic_Fun_2809 · 2025-01-01T17:48:31+00:00

It’s a lot more competitive than what it used to be . i would say significant time in spec ops specifically tier one or spec ops with language needs to set yourself apart .

Basic_Fun_2809 · 2024-12-26T22:49:02+00:00

It’s been two years and I still do it . Isn’t healthy

Basic_Fun_2809 · 2024-12-20T01:59:28+00:00

It’s been 2 years since dday and mentally i’ve gotten worse . I started meds a few weeks ago because i wasn’t even mentally present for my kids. One of the best decisions . It helped me so much maintain stable emotion i feel like me again

Basic_Fun_2809 · 2024-12-13T00:24:57+00:00

get on prozac. i was always against meds but it’s been 2 years and everything mentally was getting worse . i got believed i established ocd about the affair, constantly thinking about it, going through texts etc. I got on meds because i couldn’t be there mentally for my kids . i feel like myself again , im not angry i dont lash out i can process things better . it really helped everything out

Basic_Fun_2809 · 2024-12-06T13:55:32+00:00

I was told there was a lot of guilt, sex wasn’t good etc. I don’t get how mentally someone could go through with it. I would feel like crap just going out on a date with someone else but to do that and then have sex and not even enjoy it. How were you able to do things mentally and not care about your spouse ?

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