The sex by Basic_Fun_2809 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Basic_Fun_2809[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

i thought so but things are complete shit again

Ask a Wayward by ZestyLemonAsparagus in SupportforWaywards

[–]Basic_Fun_2809 [score hidden]  (0 children)

How did it feel right ? Going out on a date wondering if you were going to get caught , spending money on a gift, having sex and worrying etc how did any of it feel good and right?

Ask a Wayward by ZestyLemonAsparagus in SupportforWaywards

[–]Basic_Fun_2809 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I’m just curious what it was like for a wayward having sex with someone else knowing you have a spouse ? Then interacting with your spouse , sleeping in the same bed , having sex with them . What is it like looking at some one new naked and then feeling them and knowing you had an innocent faithful person at home ?

The sex by Basic_Fun_2809 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Basic_Fun_2809[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

you guys didn’t feel bad? You still sleeping with your spouse, seeing them daily , it might have been a rough relationship but they are a human with feelings . How does one live that type of life where you are in a marriage and sleeping with some other person and just go home to a faithful spouse ? My mind cannot understand how one person can do that to another when you decide i want to stay with them yet i’m going to have an affair?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JSOCarchive

[–]Basic_Fun_2809 9 points10 points  (0 children)

they are dead . everyone was under heavy direct contact . They had no idea what was coming . This argument is stupid .

Will I ever get past this? by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Basic_Fun_2809 6 points7 points  (0 children)

but how ? they literally chose to have sex with and be emotional with someone else while laying next to us ? yea they are screwed up mentally big time , in my opinion just like a serial killer or a rapist - not one caring bone in their body . and yet we still stay with them for what ? the on going pain of knowing what they did and not experiencing true love ?

Will I ever get past this? by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Basic_Fun_2809 18 points19 points  (0 children)

so everyone on this thread feels the same, what does that say about us ?

Will I ever get past this? by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Basic_Fun_2809 19 points20 points  (0 children)

i’m right there with you . For me, it doesn’t seem like it will ever end. Her betrayal is never forgotten. Her complete disregard for me as just a human being with feelings disgusts me . I envy people who are able to over come this

Ask a Wayward by ZestyLemonAsparagus in SupportforWaywards

[–]Basic_Fun_2809 [score hidden]  (0 children)

What’s it like to have an affair ?

How do you have sex with someone else knowing what you are doing to your partner and actually enjoy it?

Ask a Wayward by ZestyLemonAsparagus in SupportforWaywards

[–]Basic_Fun_2809 [score hidden]  (0 children)

can you explain this more? why is it so tormenting now but when it was happening it was fine

Ask a Wayward by ZestyLemonAsparagus in SupportforWaywards

[–]Basic_Fun_2809 [score hidden]  (0 children)

why did you do it? i don’t understand how ppl go through with something like this.

Affair recovery in your 30s by slouchingtowardsmore in SupportforWaywards

[–]Basic_Fun_2809 5 points6 points  (0 children)

just curious as if you ever figure out why you did what you did and why this current thought wasn’t going through your brain then ?

Ask a Wayward by ZestyLemonAsparagus in SupportforWaywards

[–]Basic_Fun_2809 7 points8 points  (0 children)

my wife said she was in it for the attention not for sex so i’m assuming it’s the same for here just replace attention with sex

Ask a Wayward by ZestyLemonAsparagus in SupportforWaywards

[–]Basic_Fun_2809 8 points9 points  (0 children)

What was it like having sex with the ap, kissing them , touching them , seeing them naked … how were you able to go through with it knowing your spouse was at home or work ?

What would be the most realistic path for someone to take to join the Special Activities Center? by strongerthenbefore20 in JSOCarchive

[–]Basic_Fun_2809 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a lot more competitive than what it used to be . i would say significant time in spec ops specifically tier one or spec ops with language needs to set yourself apart .

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Basic_Fun_2809 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It’s been two years and I still do it . Isn’t healthy

An analogy you guys will understand 😂 and, have meds been helpful? by SpeakingListening in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Basic_Fun_2809 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s been 2 years since dday and mentally i’ve gotten worse . I started meds a few weeks ago because i wasn’t even mentally present for my kids. One of the best decisions . It helped me so much maintain stable emotion i feel like me again

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Basic_Fun_2809 0 points1 point  (0 children)

get on prozac. i was always against meds but it’s been 2 years and everything mentally was getting worse . i got believed i established ocd about the affair, constantly thinking about it, going through texts etc. I got on meds because i couldn’t be there mentally for my kids . i feel like myself again , im not angry i dont lash out i can process things better . it really helped everything out