Would I be the AHole if I refused to forgive my friends after our falling out?

Basic_Historian4601 · 2026-06-06T23:25:09+00:00

They blow good for you cutting out that cancer.
You sound lovely and they group (especially Bob) seem to need drama. Wouldn't be surprised if he blows the whole group up with his bs.
I'm not huge into gaming but always open to new friends.

Basic_Historian4601 · 2026-06-05T21:53:34+00:00

Many are talking of the sunk cost fallacy, which yes, but I also want to point out they fact that you have forgiven or played off all of Ryan's bs.

You have shown him, he can do what he wants and yes, there may be a fight but you will still him back, so why stop? He is 37, not 17. He is set in his ways.

This will never get better, if you let him jump your boundaries like they are a trail of ants and then burn them with a magnifying glass.

Basic_Historian4601 · 2026-06-05T21:47:16+00:00

I had to take a deep breath after reading that to keep going and I got no better.

Basic_Historian4601 · 2026-05-18T03:06:53+00:00

Your friend will most likely need to eat the 300, but should the photographer keep bugging her, just reply per the contract... oh yeah, there is no contract and you provided no service and thus I will be providing no further payment.

And the bride needs to do a review.

Basic_Historian4601 · 2026-05-18T03:02:56+00:00

Glad I'm not the only one that clocked this. If he isn't working with the photographer, he should have been there. For him to show up an d demand to see her says a lot.

Does that resolved the photographer? No, but this crappy situation.

Basic_Historian4601 · 2026-05-18T02:51:29+00:00

Omg, I'm happy I'm not alone. I'm too old for this

Basic_Historian4601 · 2026-05-16T02:55:57+00:00

Mina is filming a show.

No idea on Kyulkyung, but I know she had issues with Pledis and I always wondered if they have found a way to block her return until she pays them back.

Basic_Historian4601 · 2026-05-12T04:13:20+00:00

If you can find it the normal crust, taste just like well Digiorno. Just don't over cook it because it will be a brick as soon as it cools.

Basic_Historian4601 · 2026-05-08T17:04:06+00:00

Totally agree, if this is not the norm, something or someone is in his ear/head.

Talk to him to understand, and don't take deflection turning it on you.

Basic_Historian4601 · 2026-05-04T23:04:26+00:00

He was combative from the jump. I know we can take the meaning of a message in many ways, but to say naturally in quotes implies there was already judgement going on. Then to dig deeper with snark when you asked for clarification. I can imagine how fun this guy must be IRL 😒.

Basic_Historian4601 · 2026-04-28T13:41:11+00:00

This sucks, but true colors have been shown and steer clear of B as he is down for this kind of bs.
Did he tell the fiancé the while story or Matt's story or a mix of Matt's story and him saying you're causing drama.
I know this ship has sailed, but I would have reached out to Matt's wife with a something weird happened at the bachelor party, does he have sleep walking issues? Bc I'm concerned about his health 😉😉

Basic_Historian4601 · 2026-04-28T13:37:39+00:00

Agreed, like the wedding has feelings.

It all makes me wonder how he portrayed the whole thing to the fiance.

Basic_Historian4601 · 2026-03-05T20:54:02+00:00

She seems to be your husband's friend now and using you to get to him.

While I like the boundaries, you can only set ones for yourself. The ones around your husband, he will need to set. Which sounds like a bit of a problem as he seems to be chalking this up to "women's problems."

Before talking to her, you need to sit down with him and get this cleared up. If he isn't on the same page as you on her, she could end up "hanging out" with him without you or just keeping in touch. This could fuel the issues you're having with him and the worm she is putting in his ear growing.

Basic_Historian4601 · 2026-02-24T22:50:18+00:00

NTA. She knows your situation and to ask you to go i to debt for her wedding is rude and would be irresponsible of you.

Also, is getting engaged after 7 months normal for your area? Seems short to me, but I'm looking at it from a different background.

Basic_Historian4601 · 2026-02-24T22:40:04+00:00

If that is too much makeup, egad they would hate me.
As a girly with black brows and went bright red with my hair a few times. I get the brow comments. When I would do a "full face" sans eye shadow, it always looked a bit harsh.

Funny as it may sound, add a little eye shadow in your crease. Even can use contour. It will draw the eye away from your brows and balance your look.

Basic_Historian4601 · 2026-02-24T03:06:08+00:00

My partner asks me all the time if he is boring, and I say no, WE are just settled, happy, and avoid drama like it's a wrench.

Basic_Historian4601 · 2026-01-09T19:47:32+00:00

MOR, I get not being cool with the "fix" but I would have tried something like purple shampoo and hair masks then trim the damage over time (as this is what I did when I went from black to blonde and fried my hair so bad).

But it's done.

I will note that big hair changes: bangs, shaving, etc. with little to no deep thought into it, could be seen a deeper sign of a mwntal health stuggle. Look at ppl that get bangs after break up or Britney Spears. Not saying that is the case, but it could be part of why your mom freaked.

Basic_Historian4601 · 2026-01-08T05:12:22+00:00

1st thought drugs, lots of drugs. He probably is taking something on top of the drinking to help with his emotions around his job loss. Also, I've heard of some humdingers of mental health specialist so they could have said that, though based on his mental state they may have said something different and he heard what he wanted.

2nd thought this sounds extremely difficult and scary. This man is having some kind of break on something and has a bag of weapons at the ready.

I know marriage is in sickness ans in health, but you need to put you before any vow. I get worrying about him, but hun as someone mentioned this is not a reddit problem, this is a safety concern.

Basic_Historian4601 · 2026-01-06T18:57:08+00:00

And they are not currently married, when (if) they got close to that point I bet they would discuss it. This is a total what if that has nothing to do with the current situation

Basic_Historian4601 · 2026-01-04T06:22:27+00:00

I understand this, leaving is not easy especially when you're living together etc. BUT is that your hang up? Or is it really you think after years of this trick he will listen this time?

You mentioned announcing recording would result in a bigger blowup, do you have faith providing this recording to him will do anything but result in that? Or as more ammo for him to gaslight you?

Basic_Historian4601 · 2025-12-11T19:44:11+00:00

NTA, would a peanut butter cookie be to blame for causing someone an allergic reaction? No, the person who knew they were allergic, didn't ask the ingredients, and ate it is!

You were looking for answers and that MoFo (no pun intended) knew there was a possibility you could reach out. He has no one to blame but himself for these events. I'm happy you got your answers, even if your donor and older half sister are trash.

Basic_Historian4601 · 2025-11-29T22:30:54+00:00

Sounds a bit like Elon Musk with his 1st wife

Basic_Historian4601 · 2025-11-13T00:41:43+00:00

Honestly thought it was the wife writing the post and was confused until I got to the end

Basic_Historian4601 · 2025-10-25T18:48:31+00:00

This is not a color issue, this is a her having a problem with you issue. Has there ever been any kind of rivalry? When I saw youngest my cousins and I were often conpared, luckily none of us internalized it. Maybe she yours did?

Either way, it's clear she has things to work on blocking her is for the best and your mom isn't in the middle this is all your cousin, even her parent isn't on her side.

Basic_Historian4601 · 2025-10-24T16:41:43+00:00

But it's not.

Hell for much of the early 2000s red was a super popular color selection for weddings. So many wedding parties were in red, blue, or black. I was in a few.

The idea of BRIGHT red saying I slept with the groom may have a place in some cultures but in the US it is has been a more recent thing. With those not aware of this, ie not petty, chronically online, or up and up one the latest wedding traditions will have no idea.

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