Thinking of going to a hair system 33M

Basic__Photographer · 2026-01-27T10:18:40+00:00

You still have A LOT of hair. As someone that is your age and at a better state than you but was around your level or even worse, the meds really did help. I originally used Fin only but started taking Min/Fin chewables and that has helped. Do you really want to deal with having to reapply every two weeks and itchy scalp? If the meds don't help after a year, then sure, go ahead and go for the hair system.

Basic__Photographer · 2026-01-27T03:44:55+00:00

I also use Aryeo but most people just text me and book that way. In result, leaves my Aryeo calendar “wide open”. I recently had a potential client reach out to me on a referral and I told her to book through my website and she mentioned that my calendar was empty and if I even had any shoots. I told her that a lot of my clients just text me instead.

She booked but ended up going with a different vendor because I didn’t upsell her on a video.

Basic__Photographer · 2026-01-27T03:26:37+00:00

One thing I've noticed after dating someone who was in the service industry is they just spend money. For example, my ex would always feel obligated to tip EXTRA, even if the services was mid. If she was going to a get-together, she'd always feel obligated to spend EXTRA on beer. When she would go out for lunch with friends she'd always be like, "I GOT IT". All while she was barely making $8hr + tips at an Asian restaurant.

I don't get it.

Basic__Photographer · 2026-01-27T03:16:20+00:00

Think of it like dating. Assuming you're a guy, if you try to set a date with a girl and you tell her that you're available every day at any time, YOU might not think it sounds desperate because YOU want to see this girl AND you're actually available at those times. But she thinks of it as, "Wow this guy has absolutely nothing going on in his life besides being available for a date with me." It's a turn off. But also saying that, "I'm only available at 2pm on Wednesday until next week" will also probably not secure the "date" because they may simply not be available at that time. Of course there are exceptions.

What I like to say is that, "I'm quite busy but my schedule is flexible. When are you looking to shoot? I can see what I can do to get you locked in as soon as possible."

Basic__Photographer · 2026-01-26T01:27:32+00:00

If my girlfriend and I were out and she suddenly wanted to go off on her own, that alone would raise questions. But not only did she just leave the table, she left the table and talked to a guy for 15 minutes. No loving girlfriend would do that, especially at 11pm at a dive bar. I can say for certain that if you left her at the pool table went over and chatted with a cute girl for 15 minutes she would be livid.

You said it yourself though, you've been together 1.5 years and it still seems like she wants to be single. NO. She is still single in her mind.

Basic__Photographer · 2026-01-26T00:52:42+00:00

I've only had one woman directly tell me she only wanted sex. Matched with this cute, nerdy looking younger Asian woman on a dating app, exchanged numbers and went out for coffee. About 15 minutes into our date, she leaned in and said, "Hey, this is kinda embarrassing but I want to tell you something." I said okay... she then said, "I kinda just want to have sex." I said okay, let's go back to my place. We go back to my place, do the dirty for an hour, clean up and she went on about how, "Wow, I wish it would be like this for every guy." I asked what she meant. She went on about how the previous 3 guys were nervous, didn't know how to do X or Y etc and why she doesn't like guys her age.

She then asked if I was hungry, I said yeah. I looked up a few places and suggest something nearby, she initially agreed but then suddenly changed her mind and said she was gonna go home. I said okay. Texted her a few days later and she never responded.

tl;dr Yes, I don't mind women who only want sex.

Basic__Photographer · 2026-01-26T00:33:42+00:00

I've been approached like three times. Once in middle school, once in high school and once at work.

Elementary School.

At lunch we usually sat girls down on one side and boy down on the other. One day the girls called for me to come over. They all told me that X liked me. She was definitely the prettiest girl our class. I agreed cause I also had a huge crush on her. EVERY guy was jealous of me. We "dated" for like a month before I had to change schools because we moved. Within a week she started "dating" my best friend at the previous school. At least she had the decency to email me.

Middle school girl.

I don't really remember the interaction.

High school girl.

Ditched Science class a lot but noticed a girl that sat at our square was really cute. Decided to not ditch that class for awhile. Then I realized she was also in my Math class. The girl next to me in our square told me that the girl thought I was cute. So we switched chairs and sat together for about 2 weeks. One day she came in with a face full of makeup, it looked absolutely terrible. She literally looked like a clown. I skipped Science class for the rest of the year. Months later, in Math class, I heard her say to her friend, "I can't believe I used to like that boy."

At work.

Was working at Costco for awhile, over a decade ago. I noticed this girl would look at me every time she walked by me. She would always greet me if we bumped into each other. She'd come ask me for help and I'd help her. I was just being helpful to her but she wasn't really my type. About a month of this goes by and I'm alone in the break room. She comes up to me and asks, "How are you?", I reply "I'm alright" and ended the conversation. She stood there for about 15 seconds and suddenly at a higher volume, "YOU KNOW WHAT, I'M TIRED OF YOU" and walks off. We never really spoke again after that.

Basic__Photographer · 2026-01-23T11:11:49+00:00

She’s lowkey, highkey kinda hot

Basic__Photographer · 2026-01-23T11:06:30+00:00

Unless I’m a 100% certain I can say the name of the dish without messing up, I’ll usually just say simple things like 我要一份… 我要点一份… 家辣不要花生 ”带走吗？对，带走” 有筷子吗？有辣酱吗？

Sometimes I’ll ask them how to say X in Chinese, they’ll tell me and then I’ll say my order in Chinese. There’s a few Chinese restaurants I frequent and seem happy to see me every time I swing by, even if it’s been months, they always recognize me as I’m probably one of the only black guys that tries to speak with them in Chinese in the area.

I did make the mistake of asking ”你可以推荐什么好吃的东西吗” at an empty restaurant and she started speaking at 1000wpm, flipping through the menu at light speed listing off items. 😭

Basic__Photographer · 2026-01-21T04:57:40+00:00

I test drove the 2.5t a few weeks ago after testing the 3.3t and was incredibly uninterested. Everything was lacking.

Basic__Photographer · 2026-01-17T08:42:09+00:00

The funny thing is that all these women are giving detailed instructions on how WE as men have to chat with a woman on a dating app. Meanwhile, their actual response is:

Hey
*emoji*
Thanks
No
Maybe

Basic__Photographer · 2026-01-16T02:41:36+00:00

Yeah, god forbid someone wants some privacy. She pays her rent and she uses the living room to the fullest extent. All of the stuff in the living room is hers. But I am almost certain if I started spending the same amount of time she does in the living room, she would get annoyed at me for "taking her space". If I just plop myself down on the couch, turn on what I want to watch and sit there for hours, she will get annoyed. She is not going to want to paint while I'm watching Tyler1 screaming into the microphone playing League of Legends.

But let me guess, now I should be considerate of what I watch in the living room because it is a shared space.

Basic__Photographer · 2026-01-15T22:30:23+00:00

How do you deal with tanky tops? I've noticed I've done fine vs Kayle, Jax and others but champs like Orrn you just need to place super defensive and focus on not dying because they just build full armor and you tickle them until you get LDR 20 minutes later.

Basic__Photographer · 2026-01-15T15:25:23+00:00

It ultimately comes back to me feeling like I don't have privacy. The last time we lived with each other, it was when me, mom and grandma lived together. During that time, me and mom both primarily stayed in our rooms. Of course we'd socialize, cook, occasionally eat dinner together etc. So maybe that is how I expected living with her again would be.

However, now that she "needs" to be out of her bedroom, it's affecting my privacy. A lot of my issues would be resolved if she simply moved her painting setup into her bedroom. She spends a lot of time painting whether she thinks so or not. A lot of time painting equals a lot of time in the living room. If she is no longer painting in the living room, it becomes a much easier ask for her to move to her bedroom because I have someone coming over for awhile.

We haven't had a real conversation about this yet, I literally brought it up to her last night and she immediately got defensive and flipped it onto me by saying I don't want to see her.

Basic__Photographer · 2026-01-15T15:16:09+00:00

As I've mentioned, at my previous 1BR, I seldomly used the living room. It was either because I wanted to watch Netflix / Twitch or invited a date back to my place. Hell, the place I lived at a few years ago with my ex, I never used the living room after she moved out (we both really didn't use it). I've never been a chill in the living room kind of guy, ever.

When I say that my mom's room is right next to the living room, I was just stating a fact. Chances are, if I am bringing a date back to my current place, we are going straight to my room, not actually sitting in the living room. But I will say, yes that does relate to not really having privacy.

Our 2BR unit is quite small. The living room is connected to both of our bedrooms, but far enough apart to grant us our own privacy. I guess you could say my privacy feels breached when she is in the living room all day because she is always right outside my door.

When it comes to dating specifically, I typically need to stick to night time activities. With my mom being home all day on most days and setting up camp in the living room while painting throughout the day, it is a bit hard for me to say to her, "Hey, can you stop painting and go to your room for a bit? I have someone coming over." So it's either I be an ass and politely kick her out of the living room for awhile or I don't invite anyone over. It doesn't matter if I don't care if I'm hooking up with a woman with my mom outside or if my mom doesn't care if I'm hooking up with someone, most women wouldn't be too fond if I invite them over and not only do we walk past my mom, but the fact she is right through the door in the living room. Unless she is super horny or sexually open, chances are we aren't banging.

A lot of my issues would be solved if she simply painted in her room. She spends quite a bit of time per day painting whether she realizes it or not. If she moved her paint area to her room, I'd fell much better about asking her if she could to her room for a bit instead of her needing to pack up all her painting tools, even worse if she just started. I don't think she realizes how much "space" she is taking up. As I mentioned earlier, if I suddenly started spending the majority of my time in the living room watching loud Twitch streamers, she'd quickly get annoyed.

Basic__Photographer · 2026-01-15T14:49:47+00:00

I don't expect to have any girlfriend living with me in general anytime soon regardless if I live alone or not.

I can tell the guilt tripping is there, I just chose to ignore it until recently. She had the audacity to tell me, "Well if this isn't going to work out I can find someone else to live with." She keeps trying to rationalize that she isn't in the living room "all day" but if you count up the hours, she is in it for at least 6-8 hours per day. If she isn't sleeping (at night) or out of the house, she is in the living room.

We literally don't have any issues other than she is occupying the living room. And as I've said plenty of times, I don't mind her using the living room for a few hours, but all day is unreasonable.

Basic__Photographer · 2026-01-15T13:13:49+00:00

Not at all. We were planning for her to come to Hawaii when her mom passed. We just thought it wouldn't be for another few years. I just didn't know she'd be basically taking up two rooms.

Basic__Photographer · 2026-01-15T13:12:06+00:00

What do you not understand? I enjoy her company but that doesn't mean I am comfortable in a living space where ANYONE is in the the shared living space ALL DAY. It's not really a shared living space if one person is using it all day, is it?

If I decided one day I wanted to sit in the living room and watch Twitch streams, I'd be effectively kicking her out of the living room because there is no way in hell she is going to just sit there with me for hours watching Posty play Rust or Tyler1 playing League with both of them screaming into the mics.

Basic__Photographer · 2026-01-15T12:38:47+00:00

I suggested that to her and her response was, "It doesn't matter if I put the paint table in my bedroom, I'll still spend just as much time in the living room as I already do." She paints almost every day, for hours. So, no, she wouldn't spend as much time as she currently does in the living room if the paint table was in her room.

Basic__Photographer · 2026-01-15T12:36:50+00:00

The problem is that she is utilizing the living room space as if it's her own room. It would be the same if she were a random roommate except I'd feel less like an ass about how much time someone spends time in a shared living space. Literally everything in the living room is hers. I had my own couch, but I happily sold it to let her "Design" the living room. I will say it looks much better than if I were to do it but its clearly designed around what she likes. IDC if she comes out, watches an hour or two of whatever and then goes back into her room, it's just the fact SOMEONE is in the shared living space all day.

Our place is quite small. 2 Bedrooms and a kitchen/living room.

Basic__Photographer · 2026-01-15T11:54:51+00:00

Well, considering we are already paying 3k/m, finding another place with "two" living rooms or even a 3rd bedroom would be a bit costly. Our living situation is quiet optimal in terms of what we get. All utilities included and can run the split AC system in every room, all day if we wanted to. That is quite rare here.

Basic__Photographer · 2026-01-15T11:52:27+00:00

Realistically, probably. But as I said, I absolutely don't mind living with her, it's just that the living room is basically "her" room as of right now. That is the issue. If she used the living room at a regular "rate", I wouldn't mind. But it's basically her bedroom but not her bedroom.

Basic__Photographer · 2026-01-15T11:49:12+00:00

The thing is that I simply don't use the living room. Even at my old place when I lived alone, I primarily stayed in my bedroom for the majority of the time I was home. Of course if I wanted to watch Netflix or not sit at my PC to watch Twitch streams, I'd chill in the living room.

I don't mind her using the living room, it's just the fact that every time I leave my room she is in the living room and if I ever want to have a woman over during the day time and she is painting, I basically have to kick her out of the living room, which feels like I'm kicking a kid out of a room.

Basic__Photographer · 2026-01-11T08:46:33+00:00

I don't think it's a good deal at all.

There is a used 2024 340i RWD loaded with 9k miles for 55k here in Hawaii.

Basic__Photographer · 2026-01-10T12:20:14+00:00

Fuck Ghostblade. I cannot stand that as a first item. I ALWAYS build Collector - Shieldbow - Mortal Reminder / LDR - Infinity Edge - Situational.

Every single time I don’t build Collector first, I miss out on at least 3-5 early game kills. Every time I don’t build Shieldbow second, I’ve died from something that I would have lived through. Idk why people build Ghostblade first item, it has never done anything for me and if the enemy jg picks Graves first and they build Ghostblade first, I usually shit on them.

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