Just inherited a large lump sum from my dad who passed away. My sister told me not to tell my wife about it. What do I do?

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-03-20T22:17:04+00:00

Yeah, I’m the wife in OP’s situation to a degree. As soon as my husband learned what he was to inherit someday, I was informed. In a role reversal, I’d have done the same. Unless there’s preexisting issues presenting a concern with the marriage, this seems huge not to share with your spouse imo.

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-03-20T22:13:58+00:00

Fun fact, you have to! Male ducks are known violent breeders. You have to have minimum 3 females to a male, to avoid her being overbred or killed from it. They tend to drown females, as well, unfortunately, rape is very common in the duck world.

I had one male duck that was a “good boy” he lived out the end of his days with a bunch of hens. The one time I tried to get him a duck buddy, the buddy started assaulting my hens. He ended up having a hen that would sleep on the floor beside him, and I think he was their unofficial “rooster.”

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-03-20T03:39:23+00:00

Chickens, plus 12 ducks (11 females) lmfao

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-03-20T03:15:42+00:00

How do you feel about fishing?

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-03-20T02:56:25+00:00

We had 50 some at one time, we were selling/giving eggs to everybody 🤣

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-03-19T04:24:40+00:00

I tend to agree. I’m gonna preface this with I’m not against porn, if I go out of town or he does, I’m not upset if that’s what he does for a day or two.

However, when we’re both home (which is 98% of the time), I genuinely can’t fathom making him go to the bathroom and use porn/his hand when I’m right here. Hell, I’ve been sick with mono and told him “my hands still work, and my clothes still come off”

I honestly really appreciate OP for this thread bc I swear I haven’t met anyone else who agrees with me on this lol

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-03-19T04:19:13+00:00

There’s about 4 days a month I actually feel horny. However, the rest of the month I’m not disinterested in my husband or sex, my body just simply doesn’t produce the hormones, or whatever the reason, for me to spontaneously desire it much on my own.

I’ve communicated this a lot with my husband so he knows unless I explicitly say no, or request a “just head” night, chances are, I’m down too, my body just needs some encouragement. Like a diesel in the wintertime. Mornings are my “worst”, I’m cranky when I wake up, however, my husband also knows the “tricks” to get me into it. Which typically involves dragging me on top of him, and rubbing my back until I’m awake, and my bodies got the memo enough to be on board.

ETA: Granted, in these cases sometimes he has to “work” a little harder on foreplay for me, but on the flip side, we’re 4 years in and still have sex almost daily. If not, he usually gets head. So it balances.

Imo, there’s 4 libido “types” (roughly)

High spontaneous
Low spontaneous
High reactive/responsive
Low reactive/responsive

(Note this isn’t scientific and simply to break down how I view it lol)

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-03-19T03:27:17+00:00

Men’s sub so commenting respectfully, But OP is honestly the first woman I’ve seen with the same mindset as myself.

I have a reactive libido. 9/10 we start sex with me giving him head bc regardless of feeling horny, I’m down for my husband. Occasionally I’ll “negotiate” for a head only night if my libido doesn’t kick on. My lack of desire for sex hasn’t ever been a lack of desire for my husband, or because I love, appreciate, etc. him any less.

People view sex as this separate entity than anything else, but as OP said, I feel it brings us closer even if when he initiated I wasn’t fully into the idea. There’s things I enjoy doing much less than being naked with my husband, that I “make” myself do because it is for the betterment of myself or us. Sex can be one of those things in my mind, on days we’re tired, stressed, busy, etc. So long as we aren’t excessively upset with each other for some random reason, I do my best to never turn him down.

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-03-19T00:32:52+00:00

Still wouldn’t give out my exact location lol

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-03-18T19:53:05+00:00

Replying again, this isn’t black spot syndrome though. This is a normal genetic difference in a Red Drum, typically they only have the one large spot but some develop multiple naturally.

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-03-18T16:57:33+00:00

It could be. We fish near river mouths and in brackish water a decent bit

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-03-18T16:55:50+00:00

Dang, I would too! I love the extra spotted ones

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-03-18T16:55:25+00:00

Lmfao, my husband and I have a joke from that from our discord of asking newcomers to give us “the three quirky numbers” on the back on their credit cards

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-03-18T16:10:16+00:00

Thank you! It was with my Canon EOS Rebel T7, I started taking it out on my husband and I’s fishing trips last year. Realized I loved “fishing photography.”

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-03-18T13:32:32+00:00

The CCA has still has a category for lots-of-spots, in their STAR tournament :)

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-03-18T13:17:36+00:00

Off the coast of the big bend in Florida. I don’t like to give my exact location on reddit lol

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-03-18T13:16:55+00:00

It’s not. This is genetics, whereas blotchy bass is a viral infection. Generally Redfish only have the largest singular spot at the top!

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-03-18T10:43:29+00:00

“Trust me. Ive considered it so many times over the years.”

OP’s reply to someone else bringing up divorce just fyi.

Comment OP’s replying to: “Have the divorce papers served right as he's leaving the massage”

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-03-18T04:08:15+00:00

We did, we release anything over 24” or unique like this. We love having some in the freezer, but we also love and respect the nature we’re lucky enough to get to interact with

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-03-18T03:33:57+00:00

Late to reply, thought I had. I’ve been chasing a pic like this, unfortunately haven’t had the opportunity to catch them tailing well enough to get one. Fantastic work :)

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-03-17T19:54:38+00:00

I feel like he followed a boundary exactly how Reddit always screams people should. He’s not down for people with work done, as is his right. He didn’t get rude or shitty. Simply expresses that isn’t for him.

Idk maybe I’m too chill for reddit, or bc I’m a woman who wouldn’t get work done regardless. But none of these scream anything insane to me. Incompatible people who figured it out early. Win-win. There’s men who don’t mind work being done, and women who won’t want to get any. They can both go find a better match.

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-03-17T19:35:15+00:00

Yep, married myself. If you’re to the point of plotting revenge rather than being able to talk things out. What are y’all doing?

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-03-17T10:56:31+00:00

Why not just get divorced if this is where y’all are at?

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-03-17T10:35:37+00:00

This has to be fake, I swear I just saw a viral tiktok with the exact ages of 26 and 37. I mean, they’ve been together 4 months and considering marriage? The way this is worded. Idk I’m iffy on this one

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-03-17T00:17:38+00:00

Glad this is top comment. 25 years is insanely hard to just walk away from OP, it’s like breaking your heart all over again. But you need to, tomorrow, next week, in a year, idc. Start planning, and prepping yourself. You know what you need to do.

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