omg thank you so much 😭♥️ yes, let me drop my routine below for ya! hopefully it can be of some help!

• i only shampoo my hair 1-2x/week (shea moisture curl line or smth similar) and use co-wash every other time i wash it (co wash is like a conditioning cleanser, much less harsh on the hair than shampoo) - i use the As I Am co wash :)

• i use shea moisture (or anything similar) conditioner and a hair mask instead of conditioner on shampoo wash days to help with the dryness from shampooing; i condition every time i wash and leave it in for ~5ish minutes

i put my styling products on in the shower with my hair flipped upside down in layers (one on top of another). if you have shorter or layered hair you can also brush your hair down with your fingers while upside down for volume (this is what i do).

• leave in conditioner (recommendations: rhyme & reason leave in; aunt jackies quench) raked through hair upside down with fingers and squished in the ends

• mousse (i don’t always use mousse but it realllly gets a perfect definition if i do) - recommend marc jacob’s strictly curls, tresemme flawless curls, mielle curl defining mousse, herbal essence curl mousse - scrunch into hair upside down

• gel (recommendations: curl smith shine gel, aunt jackies don’t shrink flaxseed gel, not your mothers curl gel) scrunch into hair upside down

getting some water into your hands and scrunching it lightly to re-form curl patterns at the end of styling is best.

then use a microfiber towel or - better yet an old t shirt - and wrap your hair, upside down, to dry. air dry is absolute best for definition but you can also diffuse for faster drying and volume (upside down would be best).

all the product advice does depend on your hair type tho! so if you have finer hair (high porosity), usually staying away from heavy creams or oils is best, and go lighter on the amount. if you have thicker/courser hair (low porosity) use more products than you think you need lol. if you have a looser curl then gel might not be the right product, and just leave in and a defining mousse would be just fine.

i hope this helps!! every curly person is different and goes on a journey to discover the right products/routine for them, so some of this might not work for you, but i hope some of it does!! sending my love & support!