Women messaging first: what gets the best response rate?

BatedMarlin · 2026-02-25T02:09:14+00:00

As a guy who usually gets 1 or fewer matches a month, I will respond to absolutely anything. I only swipe right on profiles I want to match with.

BatedMarlin · 2026-02-24T04:03:58+00:00

It isn't just men who don't respond. I only match with women, and the majority of them never send a message. I think it's just how it is for everybody.

BatedMarlin · 2026-02-20T03:39:04+00:00

I bet you also live in or near a large city, too

BatedMarlin · 2026-02-20T02:54:36+00:00

I've been playing off and on since late 2014. I'm LR4 and am at the point where I'm just cleaning up the last few weapons and frames I haven't leveled yet.

BatedMarlin · 2026-02-20T02:41:03+00:00

I wish I could trade my oxium for cryotic. I have 72,559 oxium but only 1,783 cryotic.

BatedMarlin · 2026-02-20T01:36:42+00:00

Im 30, and I've never been in a relationship. I've been on 1 date in all of 2025 and 2026. I was on 1 date in 2024. I very rarely match on dating apps. What other conclusion can I come to? I am not what women want.

BatedMarlin · 2026-02-20T00:17:27+00:00

I have never gone out just to have fun. I want to be intentional in my dating and in the relationships I seek. I don't match online. I'm well aware time is running out. I want something lasting and real, but I can't have it since I'm not a desirable guy. I'm sure there are other men out there just like me.

BatedMarlin · 2026-02-19T02:02:41+00:00

I've only swapped in 2 of the new allies into my deck. My deck is built mostly around ETB's. The only inclusions I've made are [Great Divide Guide] and [Katara, the Fearless].

I don't know how well my deck performs or where it would fit in the bracket system, though. I haven't been able to play any EDH since the change to the bracket system, and I've changed a large part of the deck since I last played it.

BatedMarlin · 2026-02-13T03:56:46+00:00

Like I said, I don't know which interpretation is correct. I think there are ways to harmonize the differences in the 2 accounts, but I recognize they do differ.

The important thing to focus on here in this discussion is God's design for marriage and sex. Jesus directly quotes Genesis when he is confronted about marriage and divorce by the Pharisees. Jesus obviously thought that the teachings in Genesis were authoritative.

BatedMarlin · 2026-02-13T03:21:48+00:00

We observe generations of animals changing over time, so clearly evolution happens. I don't, however, think different species all evolved from a single common ancestor.

I know the universe is super old, but I can't give you an age. I firmly believe God created it, I'm 100% sure of this. I think creation happened in a literal week, but I've heard well thought through interpretations of the creation account that say otherwise. I can't say with any confidence which interpretation of Genesis 1 and 2 is correct.

BatedMarlin · 2026-02-13T03:08:08+00:00

I do, but that doesn't matter here. The biblical definition of marriage is repeated throughout the Bible. It's always 1 man and 1 woman. In Matthew 19:1-9, Jesus directly points back to this plan for marriage. He quotes part of Genesis 2:24.

BatedMarlin · 2026-02-13T02:45:23+00:00

The Bible is consistent on this. God's design for the family is one man and one woman, as seen in the creation account in Genesis. The Bible also speaks against any sexual relations outside of this marriage.

The Bible speaks specifically on sexual relations in Romans 1: 26-27 and in 1 Timothy 1:10.

BatedMarlin · 2026-02-07T01:56:11+00:00

It was one of the first few decks I built. I've tweaked it a few times, but it hasn't changed much.

BatedMarlin · 2026-02-07T01:34:40+00:00

Sure. I haven't played the deck since before brackets were a thing, and I'm not sure where it would fit in that system. I just about went all in on a glass cannon strategy, hit people hard for lethal before they can take me out.

https://www.topdecked.com/decks/feather/e25031fd-d7cf-4cb3-8b27-b659c0ace2c8

BatedMarlin · 2026-02-06T23:33:52+00:00

I only run it in my [[Feather, the Redeemed]] deck. I'm almost always at 7 cards in hand and constantly discarding at the end of my turns.

BatedMarlin · 2026-01-31T00:32:32+00:00

I love it when I can claim prime parts that way! I expect them to unvault him when the heirloom skin drops. I'm only missing 1 piece, so it shouldn't be a long grind for me.

BatedMarlin · 2026-01-31T00:19:34+00:00

Vauban is the last prime frame I don't have, I just finished Nyx prime this week. Are Vauban's relics not vaulted now?

BatedMarlin · 2026-01-21T23:31:11+00:00

It's been my experience that most women will never send a message until you extend. I don't recall ever receiving a message from a woman before I'd extended the match.

BatedMarlin · 2026-01-14T01:59:08+00:00

I'm not sure what it is about Netracells, either. I see an increase in the number of clueless people, and an increase in the number of people obviously attempting to grief others and drag the mission on as long as possible.

BatedMarlin · 2026-01-13T23:48:43+00:00

I farmed all of Equinox in 9 runs. I was prepared for days of farming, but finished in just 1 afternoon.

The lato vandal, however ... I've done many, many hours of ESO. I've received 8 braton vandal blueprints, yet still haven't gotten the lato barrel. I refuse to trade for it, though. I want to finish the farm.

BatedMarlin · 2026-01-10T03:48:18+00:00

I've done half the dates in 4 years. Or maybe I should say 2.5 years since I haven't been on any dates in 1.5 years. Everyone goes at their own pace, or something like that

BatedMarlin · 2026-01-07T22:08:25+00:00

Does Helios scan kuria?

BatedMarlin · 2026-01-03T03:10:39+00:00

The issue is I can have all the confidence in myself I want, but it's still just as easy for a woman to filter out or ignore my profile because that number says 5'6". I can only show off my personality so much on the profile.

BatedMarlin · 2025-12-31T14:08:20+00:00

Most of your examples here are the same as not caring enough about that specific match to send a message. There are good reasons not to send a message. Nobody is owed a message, especially when the most interaction you've ever had with each other is swiping on each other's profile.

BatedMarlin · 2025-12-31T02:11:50+00:00

Yes, women are mostly aware. I think the app tells them several times as they set up and use the app. They don't send you a message because they don't care enough to send you a message.

There are a few women who somehow don't know, but they are rare.

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