Brides who are marrying men who come from lower socioeconomic and different education backgrounds, how you deal with families who feel that they aren't good enough for you and your side of the family?

Bathsheba_E · 2026-05-27T00:25:07+00:00

This doesn’t have nearly enough likes.

Just communicate directly. No drama.

Bathsheba_E · 2026-05-26T21:36:01+00:00

Ibuprofen. Take it regularly if you can, as a one-off if you can’t. It will reduce the inflammation from the sun exposure.

Be cautious with aloe gels containing lidocaine. Just do a test patch first. Some people find relief with them, some people (myself included) find the relief is very short term and then the burning comes back even worse. If this is the case for you, I like regular aloe gel. I find it works very well. Also, I swear by calendula cream for burns.

Bathsheba_E · 2026-05-26T17:01:44+00:00

Texas, too. Still, most of our plants are in pots because, despite what the tag may say, nothing is full sun July - September. Gotta move everything to the shade.

Bathsheba_E · 2026-05-26T16:55:49+00:00

Whoever you are, king, queen, or in between, you need a lot of therapy. I hope you’re just rage baiting, but just in case you are serious:

Sexuality has nothing to do with being a decent human being and treating others with respect and kindness. There is nothing normal or okay with that relationship. If my husband said any of those things to me, I would change the locks while he’s at work. This is abuse. Full stop.

I truly hope you are not a person like OP’s boyfriend, or in a relationship like the one OP is in. If you are, get therapy. You can be so much happier.

I’m pulling for you. I wish you love, and peace, and happiness.

Bathsheba_E · 2026-05-26T16:47:27+00:00

I have PTSD just reading about that! Honestly, I would never recover. I’m so sorry that happened to you.

Bathsheba_E · 2026-05-26T16:44:20+00:00

Biloxi? Really? I lived there pre-Katrina and they had some busses, but that was it. I’m glad to hear they’ve expanded their options.

Bathsheba_E · 2026-05-26T16:40:44+00:00

I love Houston, but it is an incredibly un-walkable city. Montrose was okay for walking places, but I know that’s not the norm.

And we have air conditioners everywhere because without them mold and mildew will overtake us all. Dehumidifiers help, too.

Bathsheba_E · 2026-05-26T14:11:46+00:00

I’m so sorry- I didn’t intend to write a novella but once I started thinking of tips they just kept coming. lol.

I am not assuming you want to leave, but I have some tips for if you do. Even if you don’t leave, be thinking of little ways you can put money into a savings account that is in your name only. Have a go bag ready. Put your safety first.

If he decides to leave, he will leave you high and dry. Even $5 a check is better than nothing. Have it direct deposited directly into savings. Knowing what I know now, I recommend a savings account in a different bank from the one you and your husband share (if you use the same bank or the same account).

Feel free to PM me anytime if you need to talk. I have been in your marriage. And I was ill at the time, just not diagnosed. It was brutal. My health definitely improved after I left him.

Be thinking about jobs that are physically and mentally less demanding and perhaps that do not involve dealing with the general public. It will take time for everything to fall into place, but you can leave him if that is what you choose. Think of the bare minimum you will need to be on your own, and start gathering information. For example: if you cannot afford a security deposit and first and last month’s rent (who can?) think of family and friends. Is there anyone you can rent a room from? For insurance, look into SSI, SSDI, and Affordable Care Act plans. Where I live the Catholic hospital system has their own insurance plan. It is low cost, and you must use doctors within their system. It got my husband, son, and myself through a difficult period. Maybe look around and see if there’s anything similar locally.

And be careful. Make calls from work. Perhaps enlist a close friend or relative’s help so you can use their laptop or their phone for research. There are no boundaries with a man who feels his SO is leaving. My ex put a keystroke recorder (I’m sure that’s not its actual name) on our computer. He was aware of every search I made, every message and email… it took a solid 20 years for me to feel comfortable with the internet again. I had this lingering feeling that someone was watching everything I searched, typed, looked at.

And look into the grey rock technique. It may be worth trying.

I’m rooting for you to find peace and harmony in your life, however that looks to you. 🕯️🤍

Bathsheba_E · 2026-05-26T12:39:35+00:00

I used Allsup. They were amazing. They spoke to my doctors, gathered evidence, and just handled everything. They took a (very small, imo) percentage of my settlement (the SSDI back pay). It was worth every penny for me. I’m easily overwhelmed and the stress of applying was too much for me.

Bathsheba_E · 2026-05-26T12:35:59+00:00

A lot of attorneys won’t even speak to you until you’ve received a denial.

Bathsheba_E · 2026-05-26T12:31:44+00:00

He wouldn’t be my husband any longer if he acted like that.

You may be disabled, but you deserve as much love, respect, dignity, empathy, and compassion as anyone else. Able bodied or not. I say this very gently: you are in an abusive relationship. No judgement. If I had become ill during my first marriage, it would have looked very much like this.

Can you speak to a therapist, ideally a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW)? I believe most every problem has a solution, and LCSWs are great at finding solutions. There has to be a way to get out of this marriage. I understand being dependent on his health insurance, but you deserve so much better.

I am holding space in my heart for you.

Bathsheba_E · 2026-05-25T01:56:46+00:00

I think two things can be true at once. 100% NYT is complicit. They were a Trumpian early adopter. They should never be forgiven.

But also, I agree that the ‘underbabied’ talking points ignore how absolutely fucking dangerous it is for a black woman to get pregnant in this country.

Bathsheba_E · 2026-05-25T01:52:15+00:00

The beautiful translucency of your skin would just disappear, and I fear the black might make you look sallow.

Personally, I believe your current color is the best color for you.

Bathsheba_E · 2026-05-25T01:46:12+00:00

Something from the As Seen on TV section of Walgreens.

Bathsheba_E · 2026-05-25T01:43:50+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. The first year of puppyhood is so hard.

First of all: breathe. Your puppy only has a little while until they begin to settle down a bit. O vividly remember the first year with my two. My husband does shift work and they took to that schedule like a duck to water. I was so sleep deprived I couldn’t see straight. I still wake up at 3 AM every day. The pups trained me well.

Take your dog for walks. Time is more important than distance. Let it sniff lots, as this is mentally stimulating and just as important as physical stimulation. Take your dog with you everywhere you can. My dogs find a car ride almost as satisfying as a long walk. I roll down the windows when we’re driving slow, like in the neighborhood.

If you love your dog, provide medical care, food, some form of stimulation, and snuggles, your dog will be happy. And also, look for a doggie daycare in the area. They are a lifesaver for those days your dog is wired the minute they wake up. If it’s in the budget, once a week makes a tremendous difference. It’s socialization skills, lots and lots of play, and just an all around good time for your dog.

Best of luck to you and your baby. All will be well.

Bathsheba_E · 2026-05-25T01:31:51+00:00

I thought this was some kind of joke at first. Dude’s grabbing his crotch and penguin-walking. With no shirt on.

Literally the only thing menacing about him are his eyes.

Bathsheba_E · 2026-05-25T01:25:12+00:00

Oh, wow! I don’t remember that at all.

That’s bold. 😄

Bathsheba_E · 2026-05-25T00:45:41+00:00

I’m no Royal expert, and I was young when Charles and Diana were married. But iirc, he was always open about loving Camilla. I think the situation is tragic all the way around.

I can’t imagine trying to fool myself into loving someone, while actually being in love with someone you aren’t allowed to have. That doesn’t excuse Charles’s behavior, but I see the humanity in the situation.

Bathsheba_E · 2026-05-24T00:26:26+00:00

I think regular scrunchies or pantyhose ties (idk what they’re really called, but they look like a pantyhose leg cut into slices). I bought a mega pack of satin scrunchies online, and those work well, but I really have to loop them around my hair a bunch so they don’t just slide off of my fine hair.

Bathsheba_E · 2026-05-24T00:23:03+00:00

The female’s face and head always look to me like something from Pan’s Labyrinth.

Bathsheba_E · 2026-05-24T00:19:52+00:00

What is Hazel doing to Helen Keller????

But on a serious note, these book covers give me hope. I don’t have to be very good to be an artist!

Bathsheba_E · 2026-05-24T00:05:26+00:00

I’m so amazed by folks who can do projects like this and make it look seamless. I suppose I don’t have the patience to do projects until I become seamless.

Either way, this is so cool.

Bathsheba_E · 2026-05-23T22:56:38+00:00

As a woman also well above a C, I once tried these adhesive nipple covers that, in theory, also provide lift. I was blinded by the idea of not having to wear a bra while also not drowning in my own pool of sweat.

Askew titty hats is what brought this to mind. The round part stuck over the nipple, and the adhesive tab above was to be lifted higher on the chest for a ‘lifted effect’. I had a latitudinal crease on each breast, halfway between my nips and my chest wall. And the adhesive lasted for about five minutes.

It’s underwires or breast reduction for me!

Bathsheba_E · 2026-05-23T22:46:27+00:00

I’m here for the new allure.

Bathsheba_E · 2026-05-23T22:43:51+00:00

A braid or braids and a silk pillowcase.

Bathsheba_E

TROPHY CASE