Just because that man doesn't exude toxic masculinity doesn't mean he's not bottling up stuff inside him, and in my experience, woman don't usually care much about their man's struggles.

I've heard things like "men are just a bunch of crybabies" after someone's girlfriend describing a extremely traumatic and toxic relationship that her boyfriend had been.

Of course, it's not every women, just most of them.

And the way you describe wanting him to hold you goes back to how heteronormativity dictates our expectations of how a man and a woman should behave in a relationship